What is the starting line that a child cannot lose? Principal: Education is the art of slowness

"I can't let my child lose at the starting line!" This is the rhetoric of many Chinese parents. For such a sentence, children run in a variety of cram schools, large and small exams; for such a sentence, parents open the "spelling daddy" and "spelling mom" mode; for such a sentence, how many parents lose their minds, let the children "rush to run", ahead, beyond the program of learning, lost a happy childhood.

"Don't let the child lose at the starting line", is this prescient, or is it a manifestation of the growth of seedlings and the rush to achieve? This has become a puzzle for many parents. What is the starting line that a child can't lose? In response to this issue, the principals talked about their views.

Don't let your child run in the wrong direction

As early as 2012, the Ministry of Education issued the "Guide to the Learning and Development of Children Aged 3-6" to openly solicit opinions from all walks of life. The Guide lists the learning and development goals of young children of all ages. For example, preschoolers aged 5 to 6 only need to "be able to add and subtract within 10 through physical operations or other methods", and do not indicate that children of this age must recognize words, but only indicate that they are "interested in text symbols in reading books and life situations, and know that words represent a certain meaning". In the opinion of experts, the main purpose of the Guidelines is to curb the "pulling up seedlings and promoting growth".

Can children learn in advance to avoid "losing at the starting line"? Preschool education experts pointed out that learning that violates the law finally brings not only the problem of fast and slow in competition, but also the problem of running in the wrong direction or running backwards. For example, many children now start to learn roller skating at the age of three, but in fact, the child's bones are not well developed, and roller skating will hurt the body. Learning ballet too early is the same, which is a challenge for the child's periosteum and so on.

"Children who know more Chinese characters in preschool will be ahead of other children in the first grade, but in the second grade, the level will be the same as other children." A teacher who has been teaching Chinese in primary schools for many years said.

The mission of the interest class is to send children to prestigious schools. Some children are versatile but don't enjoy their hobbies. "Some piano grade 1 children swear never to touch the piano again, and they don't feel that music is a lifelong companion because music takes away their childhood play time." A teacher who specializes in teaching piano said helplessly.

It is the starting line of the child, and it is also the starting line of the parent

"Whose starting line is it?" In fact, it is the starting line of the child, and it is also the starting line of the parent. Zhang Wenyong, vice principal of Chengdu Experimental Middle School of Beijing Normal University, often communicates with parents on this topic.

"Today's parents generally have a sense of rushing, and even 'illegal rushing'." Zhang Wenyong said that a survey conducted by an institution showed that 98% of the 1280 Shanghai parents surveyed were "rushing", and 55.5% of parents advanced the preparation period for "kindergarten to primary school" to kindergarten. Now, the kindergarten class has repeatedly appeared in the "empty nest" scene, and many children in Beijing have left the kindergarten as early as half a year ago or even a year ago to prepare for "kindergarten". This is true of the young ascension, and it is also true of the beginning of the small ascension. It is reported that just after the summer vacation, Hangzhou Xinhua Bookstore bought nearly 5,000 first-grade math books in ten days; a Hangzhou mother enrolled 11 training classes for her daughter who was about to "xiaoshengchu", of which 3 were Chinese and 3 were mathematics, because "the children around them are enrolling in classes."

Parents are carefully prepared, the "second reaction" is not wrong, if it violates the law of physical and mental growth and the law of learning cognition, it is to pull up seedlings and backfire. "At what time and what disciplines people study, there are rules to follow. Rushed away, it is also a white ride. ”

How is the phenomenon of "rushing" that is now common among children caused? "Parents' anxiety about their children's education prompts them to force their children to run, which reflects the problem of parents' views on education." Zhang Wenyong believes that the lack of high-quality educational resources and the increase in employment pressure have caused parents to be anxious about their children's education, which makes parents ignore the growth rules of their children and force their children to run away academically from their own subjective consciousness.

How can you get off fast and have a laugh to the end? Zhang Wenyong suggested that parents must study more, read education books, and form a correct concept of education. Firmly believe that their children are unique and precious, let go of the perfect child that they expect in their hearts, accept their children, and observe and listen to their children with their hearts. Parents understand the basic laws and methods of education in order to act according to the laws of education; parents love to learn and lead by example in order to create a subtle learning atmosphere for their children; parents have extraordinary vision and broad vision, in order to provide useful words and deeds for the long-term development of children. "As children age and ideological awareness awaken, the requirements for parents are more and more not limited to life care, but more and more need a spiritual teacher and life confidant." Zhang Wenyong said.

"Parents need a sustainable education concept more than a seedling-fueled approach." Zhang Wenyong said that education is a slow art, education is like raising flowers, while raising and watching, waiting for flowers to bloom. Family education has a heavier impact on children than school and society. Parents should pay attention to the basic qualities of their children's physical fitness, mental health and interpersonal communication, so that children can become a healthy and happy person, rather than a scoring machine. "As for children's studies, parents should fully believe in and cooperate with schools and teachers."

Education is a slow art Life is the starting line everywhere

"Education is a slow cause, a slow art." Tian Mu, principal of Chengdu Shishi Middle School, seems that the current widespread educational anxiety in society has led many families to fear that their children will lose at the "starting line", so they invest a lot of energy to cultivate children, and even learn ahead. "A lot of parents are coerced." Tian Ma believes that life is a starting line everywhere, learning is the starting line, work is the starting line, and each stage has tasks to be completed.

Tang Yu, principal of Chengdu Shishi Tianfu Middle School and Shishi Tianfu Middle School Affiliated Primary School, is also the principal of different sections of middle school and primary school, and the back-and-forth switching of identities makes Tang Yu truly realize that "education is a gradual and long-term accumulation process". He said that whether a child grows into a pillar in the future does not rely on the starting line of a certain stage. "Ten years of trees and a hundred years of tree people, I hope our parents can recognize this problem."

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