The young youth of the 1980s are now middle-aged;
The first love of the 1980s has long been the object of memory: it is the hidden pain in the memory of people who have passed through that era.
The 1980s were a miracle, a rare era of purity in the history of the Republic, a good time to grow out of ruins.
In the 1980s, holding hands and walking in the sunset or moonlight was the universal formula for love. Contempt for the powerful and money, and admiration for talent and art are the minimum standards of love. Unlike now, everything needs to be defined in money.
Simboska has a very good verse in which the infinite vicissitudes are all in it: "I apologize to the old love for seeing the new love as the first love." "The sense of vicissitudes is the gift of time to those who have a heart.
When I was in college, I went to see this "Love in the 1980s" because of Liu Tong's recommendation, and watched a movie adapted from a novel. I have watched it three or four times over and over again, and I want to record my understanding of this story, and maybe I will have different feelings every time I watch it, but the story has always been there.
It's a love story that takes place in the late 80s.
It was the autumn of 1982, and the male protagonist Jianbo, who graduated from college, was assigned to a township called Gongmuzhai. According to locals, the two villages originally lived in a family, intermarried for generations, friendly and harmonious, and then because of the competition for water, and years of armed struggle, mutual marriage, gradually declined. Now there is only one person left in ZhaiGong Mountain, and there is only one lone peak left on Zhai Mu Mountain!
Like him and his first love, they were destined to be their own peaks.
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Here, he met his middle school classmate Li Wen, who was also his crush and his first love.
He was surprised how Li Wen could appear here, when she was unable to enter college with him by a fraction of a point, and she had been heard from her for four years after graduating from high school.
It turned out that during the college entrance examination, Li Wen's father had an accident. Later, his mother died, and his father was assigned to work here to farm and reform. She had to take over the work, and it was impossible to leave her sick father and go back to school.
This reunion allows him to discover that Liwen is still his true and pure first love;
This reunion made him, who was originally depressed and did not like this poor and depressed countryside, want to live here with her for the rest of his life. Even if he already has a girlfriend from the provincial city who is about to leave.
His provincial girlfriend, Xiao Ya, is the one he really had the first kiss. In those days, it was limited to hugs and kisses. Xiao Ya is a rational woman, and she has an obsession with the love etiquette of giving flowers and gifts. In her subconscious, love needs to be performed for others to see. Two people walking arm-in-arm in good clothes, far more like perfect love than the ear sideburns on the bed and the looking through the autumn water in a different place. Xiao Ya has been urging him to return to the provincial capital and leave here as soon as possible.
But in his opinion, in his love with Xiao Ya, there was less pain. Or maybe it's like the ancient dating, men and women look right, there is nothing to be picky about, but there is no accident and history.
He felt that love seemed to have something thrilling and nerve-wracking. If there is no pain, but only pleasure, it is just a sexual relationship in adults.
He thought so, but he didn't dare to say it, didn't dare to easily break through that layer of window paper, and most importantly, he didn't know what Li Wen thought?
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He tentatively asked Li Wen: When I was a sophomore in high school, I once left a letter in your bag, have you read it? Don't you want to answer so far?
She thought for a moment and said tremblingly: I haven't received it, maybe I lost it!"
He continued to press questions, only in exchange for one sentence: time has passed, they have grown up, they do not understand the past, they do not know.
At the beginning of the 80s, true love confessions were as difficult as going to the soup. Their classmate relationship, once broken and not get the other party's promise, is bound to be difficult for even friends to get along peacefully, most of them will gradually drift apart - sensitive and fragile hearts can not learn to face rejection.
So they were careful, if they were to leave.
He often went to the supply and marketing agency where Li Wen was located to drink;
Go with her to see her father;
Go to a mountain picnic with her to catch fish and play her guitar;
They reminisce about their secondary school life together;
Go with her to cry; accompany others to cry and marry, but shed their own sad tears--this is the cardamom age of the cottage, everyone has to go through a rite of passage.
All those solemn rituals are like declaring a decisive separation. No matter what kind of song and crying, it is impossible to stop such exile. Yes, it is exile, and the people in the mountains say that they are engaged, and they are called "released".
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It didn't take long for him to be transferred back to the provincial capital. He was reluctant to say goodbye, afraid of saying goodbye, and his heart was still not willing. He knows that waving your hand makes you a misguided path, and going away is lifelong—not a simple "goodbye" that can iron the folds of the bottom of your heart.
Li Wen knew that he was leaving, gave him a sweater she had knitted by herself, and encouraged him with the fact that he had secretly written a blood book before the college entrance examination and vowed to enter a prestigious school.
She said: If you learn all your skills, are you really here to be this propaganda officer? Don't say that you are making trouble here yourself, and if you stay any longer, even people will think that you are an eyesore. You don't look at it, as far as you dress up, you will always be an outsider, you can't blend in here. Let's go.
He said hesitantly: "Then you, you are...
She suddenly interrupted me and said: Don't worry so much, each person has his own life. As an old classmate, I hope to see you go out and go as far as possible! A man does things, don't be so mother-in-law. Maybe when you become a father one day, you will not know your responsibilities. You should say what you should say, and you don't have to say what you shouldn't say. Although I don't read as much as you, I still have lights in my heart. If you can't let me look up to your mother-in-law, then I don't want to see you again. You go.
He was speechless, knowing that there was nothing he could do about it.
How much he wanted to tell Liwen: Actually, I didn't really want to go out and fight anymore. I have also seen the city, there is no big meaning, the so-called wealth and glory, originally did not attract me. Even if I am a small village in the mountains of my hometown, as an ordinary teacher, I think I can be satisfied. It's the same everywhere you live, what matters is who you live with.
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This walk is really a few years. During those years, he went to the provincial city to study again, got married and divorced, and experienced some feelings of nothingness.
After many years, at the class reunion after the male protagonist was released from prison, the two met again, and at that time, he could be described as sloppy. This time they met again, and they did not restrain their feelings. The appearance of Liwen made him full of hope for himself and life again, and she encouraged him to get back up, to create, to fight for a life of his own.
Unfortunately, they are still not together.
In the end, he had become a so-called successful person, but the second encounter with Liwen was at her funeral, and he did not even see the last side, only the black coffin.
Here, he finally understands Liwen's affection for himself:
After he was released from prison, Liwen's husband went into a car accident and was widowed. But she didn't want to drag him down, but she couldn't bear to see him helpless, specially to give him encouragement, to give him hope, and then to say goodbye decisively, let him go to find a wider sky.
He wrote a letter to Li wen in high school, and it turned out that she had always treasured it........
Some people say that Li Wen is a particularly clear girl, and I agree with it.
She knows her situation and knows what her future holds, so she chooses to be perfect;
She understood his pursuit of the future, and she would certainly not be willing to stay in this small mountain village for a lifetime, even if he was willing to do so at the moment. So she chose fulfillment;
She wanted to do everything in her power to protect a person, so she showed up when he was at his worst, encouraged him to start over, and did not tell him of her situation, so she chose to be perfect.
The love of most people in the world is to "catch". Grasping is arrival, a feast of love; as if fulfilling god-given destiny, you can harvest the beauty of this life. Here I tell a story of constant rejection, which is an almost cruel arrangement, because such love does not arrive, but everywhere for fulfillment. Such perfection is like falling red spring mud, and every branch and leaf is the mercy of the world.
The 80s, a wonderful time. What remains in the hearts of everyone who has come through that time is the romantic humanity and the absolutely beautiful pure love that has been revived for a long time.
We are touched and regretful about this, but the most important thing is that we learn to cherish and understand each other's fulfillment and achievements, rather than asking for each other, and truly love each other, we will go hand in hand.