Today I want to talk about an old film.
Saying that it is an old film, in fact, it is not much old, the theater released in 2012, but 90% of people have not seen it.
It is a realistic movie starring Yan Bingyan, Chen Gang, Jiao Gang, etc., and it is also the personal debut of Li Xian, the "current boyfriend" who exploded this summer.
"Ten Thousand Arrows Through the Heart".
This work released 7 years ago, the current Douban score is as high as 8.6, and it has been called the best Chinese film in 2012 by countless people.
Li Yinhe said that this is the best tragedy after "Thunderstorm".
The film does tell a complete tragedy:
An ordinary woman who forced her husband to cheat until she jumped into the river to commit suicide; ten years later, her grown son severed ties with him and expelled him from the house; half a lifetime of hard work ended up with nothing.
We can't help but ask, what did she do to her family to end up like this?
The story takes place in Wuhan in the 1990s.
The protagonist Li Baoli has an ordinary family of three, her husband Ma Xuewu is the office director of a state-owned enterprise, and the two have a boy named Xiao Bao.
The opening chapter coincides with the new house in Ma Xuewu's factory.
A family moving to a new home should have been happy, but it turned out not to be.
Because the alley in front of the door was too narrow to drive in, the movers offered to increase the price.
Li Baoli didn't say a word, and directly quarreled:
"You countrymen!"
Get rid of the standard picture of a shrew cursing the street. The degree of simplicity and rudeness does not match the identity of the director's daughter-in-law at all.
Ma Xuewu wanted to ease the atmosphere, handed cigarettes to the workers, and asked his son to buy soda. Li Baoli did not give her husband face, and threw her face at her husband in front of the workers:
I pay for them to do things, and I take it for granted!
Just now over there, sitting on the ground to raise the price you don't say a word, now you run out of smoke.
See for yourself, what work are they doing?
No money for cigarettes, no money for soda?
When are you entertaining in the factory?
What a slut!
The worker couldn't look down, turned his head and said that Ma Xuewu was miserable, saying that he was also a cadre outside, but he would be suppressed by such a woman for a lifetime.
In a moving incident, the director effortlessly explained the characteristics of the character, Li Baoli was grumpy and hot and strong, and her husband Ma Xuewu was a weak reader.
Ma Xuewu has been patient with his rude and tough wife for a long time, and the moving incident has become a fuse.
That night, he finally filed for divorce.
Li Baoli, who has been strong for so many years, is finally confused.
She wanted to save it, made a table of dishes, took the initiative to take off her socks for Ma Xuewu, and used her son to intercede, but the husband chose to respond to his wife with cold violence. At the same time, Ma Xuewu was touched by a delicate and caring female colleague in the factory.
Li Baoli felt abnormal, and tracked down her husband to go to a small hotel with others to open a room.
Unwilling Li Baoli, deliberately called the police, Taoyuan Hotel Room 206, someone engaged in prostitution. The consequence of this is that the husband returns from the factory office director to the workshop worker because of moral problems.
Consciously weak-minded, he no longer dared to mention divorce.
Li Baoli had to be unforgiving, and continued to satirize and ridicule her husband in front of her girlfriends and children.
Li Baoli's girlfriend felt that she was too much, because she had been too fierce to Ma Xuewu for so many years and forced her honest and weak husband to cheat.
Li Baoli felt that although her culture was not high, she looked beautiful when she was young, and there were many people who chased her, so she chose Ma Xuewu, a college student in the countryside who did not look good, and considered to be married, why did Ma Xuewu not be good for her.
The handle of derailment, coupled with the fact that the director was lost, became a sharp weapon for Li Baoli to "kill" without blinking.
Ma Xuewu, who was already cowardly, could not find a little dignity in his home. To make matters worse, Ma Xuewu was included in the list of the first laid-off workers in the factory.
He could not find the courage to continue living.
Life is like a pool of desperate stagnant water, losing its meaning of existence.
Depressed everywhere, he chose to jump into the river and commit suicide.
The suicide note left only said sorry for the old woman and son, and did not mention Li Baoli.
Obviously, the fierce and rude wife has no place in the husband's heart. The terrible thing is that this seed of hatred has also been buried in the heart of his son.
The college entrance examination is on the list, the son is in high school, but at the "celebration banquet", the son wants to break off relations with her.
In the ten years after her husband's birth, Li Baoli relied on a flat shoulder to pick things for others to support her family and provide for her son to study, from a slightly postured young woman to a middle-aged woman with rough vicissitudes.
However, the son could not see the mother's half-life work, only the hatred that could not be solved.
In the face of his mother's words and blood, the son told the things he had always been grumbling about, and shook out all the things she had hurt his father, he thought:
It was the mother who forced her father to die.
Ten years, from a graceful young woman to a scruffy middle-aged woman, from hot and fiery to depressed, she has struggled, worked hard, and suffered the pain of life, but in the end it is a bamboo basket to draw water.
Husband, son, family, nothing.
Why is that?
On the surface, it seems that the tragedy of Li Baoli's marriage with Ma Xuewu is because the door is not right: Li Baoli is a city hukou who has not read a book, and Ma Xuewu is an intellectual born in the countryside.
A happy marriage, the cultural level and family of two people are not necessarily equal.
However, the personalities of the two people must be matched.
Li Baoli should be built with Jianjian who appreciates her true disposition.
And Ma Xuewu is suitable for a woman with a personality like Zhou Fen, who can communicate equally.
Li Baoli and Ma Xuewu were married, and Baoli's strength and worldliness completely suppressed Ma Xuewu's spiritual appeals.
Ma Xuewu did not try to turn back, Bao Li was not without showing weakness, they were all flesh and blood people, their hearts were not iron, they lived together for nine years, day and night, not to mention a smart son.
What eventually separates them is just not suitable.
One of the scenes that impressed me the most in the movie:
Li Baoli chased Ma Xuewu's bicycle for a few streets, wanting to see if he really had another woman.
As a result, seeing Ma Xuewu buy fruit for Zhou Fen, the two people walked side by side, and a motorcycle jumped out from behind, Ma Xuewu naturally protected Zhou Fen and wrapped Zhou Fen's back to himself.
This is the gentleness and care that Ma Xuewu has never had for Li Baoli, probably because Li Baoli herself is so strong that she does not need any care, and in front of Zhou Fen, he can play the role of taking care of others.
And Jianjian, who is more powerful than Li Baoli, can stand with her on an equal footing.
The tragedy of Li Baoli's family relationship with her son, on the surface, seems to be because her son does not understand things, but in essence, it exposes the problem that Li Baoli loves children but does not know how to love children. She is willing to give everything for the child, but will not communicate with the child, and every time she can say to the child, she is asked if the homework is done.
From an early age, the child is closer to the father who looks kinder and can help him learn, and after ten years of filter looking back, the father who cheated on him at that time became:
For true love, a loving father who was forced to be cornered by his mother.
At the end of the movie,
Sad Li Baoli sat alone by the river, years of labor has made her face look old ageless, a child ran to her mother-in-law, let her go over to help take a picture.
On that day, she saw the carefree smiling faces of these children, and realized that she might owe her son Xiaobao too much.
She and her husband's discord, the son sees in the eyes, the husband's death she also has an unshirkable responsibility, the son therefore resents her, she thinks that if her departure can make her son happy, it is not a good thing.
Just like that, she packed her bags and left the house.
The man Jianjian drove a minivan to pick her up, but when he left, the car broke down and couldn't move, and Li Baoli came down to push the cart and scolded "this bitch is raised."
Isn't life like this car?
Scold it a few times, kick it a few times, and then go forward.