Tomorrow is Mother's Day, in a time that should be grateful to the mother, but there is a frightening news of "79-year-old mother buried alive by her relatives", which can't help but make people have a lot of question marks. The short chickens and dogs in the parents are indeed tired and broken, but the noise is over, and the family is their closest people after all, at most two days of cold war, not to the point of death.
The ins and outs of the matter, the news combing is very clear, and the media also has in-depth access to relevant details. Ma Moukuan, a man in Jingbian, Shaanxi Province, was paralyzed in bed because of the inability to work after an old mother Wang, who was less than 79 years old, and often urinary incontinence led to the smelly baking of the family, and the psychological pressure was great, so he killed his heart and buried his mother alive in the abandoned cemetery on the pretext of taking his mother out for a ride. Fortunately, three or four days later, the police rescued Mrs. Wang, and the old man survived.
The child is originally the most precious and beautiful existence in the world for every mother, and the distortion of the mother-child relationship and the extinction of humanity make the extreme behavior of burying the mother alive occur from time to time.
01 Severed affection For a life to be redeemed
Killing relatives and violating the law is contrary to human morality, and I did not expect such a human tragedy to occur.
According to legend, there were flower shell burials in ancient times, due to the social production capacity at that time, the elderly who lost their labor power or had low labor force became the object of abandonment, and the old man who reached 60 years old was sent by his children to the crock pot grave built in advance, sent a meal once a day and added a brick, and after 360 days, the brick blocked the window of the grave even if the father was buried. Of course, this is just a folklore, and its authenticity has yet to be examined. Unexpectedly, civilized modern society has also appeared similar to the legend of the news.
Coincidentally, the same thing happened in Shaanxi. Today (May 9), the case of husband and wife beating their father and causing his death came to an end, the second-instance judgment was upheld to reject the appeal, the father's old generation was jointly injured and died of illness, and the husband and wife who beat the father committed intentional injury and were sentenced to seven years in prison. It is reported that at about 17:00 on December 2, 2018, when a couple was delivering water to their father, their daughter-in-law insulted the old generation for trivial matters, and then a physical conflict occurred. The husband and wife took a wooden stick and seriously injured the old generation, coupled with mild myocarditis, coronary heart disease and pleurisy and other diseases, the old generation finally died tragically.
In addition, the details of the crime of Wu Xieyu, a high-quality student at Peking University, make people talk about the color of the crime, and the motive for the crime makes people think about it carefully. Since ancient times, filial piety has been a traditional virtue followed by the sons and daughters of China, and we sigh for the occurrence of these tragedies and are full of doubts about the occurrence of tragedies.
02 New annoyances and old grudges do not kill people, let alone relatives
Someone commented: "Do not persuade others to be kind without suffering." ”
They blamed the motive of "burying his mother alive" on Ma Moukuan's resentment toward his mother. Ma Moukuan lost his father at an early age, there are three brothers and sisters, and Ma Moukuan is the eldest son. When his mother, Mrs. Wang, remarried with his brother and sister when he was 12 years old, and even moved his hukou to the past, leaving Ma Moukuan alone to be raised by his uncle in his hometown, which was an old grudge. More than 30 years later, Mrs. Ma's second husband died, and Mrs. Ma returned to her hometown in Jingbian with her second son, who was unable to take care of herself, and began to live with her eldest son Ma Moukuan in the second half of 2019 for various reasons. Not long after living together, Mrs. Wang fell at home, and after that, she could no longer get out of bed, often urinating in bed, making the family stinky, which was a new annoyance. Ma Moukuan's past bitterness and realistic pressure are sympathetic, but this does not become a reason for him to kill. Deliberate murder is an unforgivable crime, and deliberately killing relatives faces human torture in addition to legal sins, which is even more a crime.
Mother's love is naturally selfless. Coupled with the guilt of her past behavior, Mrs. Wang, who spent 70 hours alone in the cemetery only a line away from hell, still hopes that her son will not be sentenced too heavily after waking up, and even in order to let her son have a light sentence, she lied that she climbed into the cemetery by herself. Obviously, Mrs. Wang had forgiven her son for hurting herself. I don't know whether after this storm, Ma Moukuan has released his mother's resentment.
Of course, the law does not make it extra lenient because of the love of the calf. Even if Ma Can get his mother's "forgiveness", he is sad to be judged by law and morality.
03 You can not love but do not hurt
It is said that the child is God's best gift to the parents, for the happy and loving family, the child is the embodiment of love; for the parents whose family relationship is not harmonious, the child is the hope of life. Children are the light of their parents' lives, able to heal the pain and wounds brought about by life.
However, the accelerated pace of life, urbanization and aging have caused the gradual separation of mother and child in life and psychology, and some elderly people have even been used as "tool people", and their ability to carry babies is regarded as the last surplus value. The so-called filial piety of children may only stay at the material level, and there is very little communication between the companions of life and the soul. The contradiction between parents and children is often difficult to solve because of poor communication, resulting in the escalation of misunderstandings, and over time it evolves into indifference and even resentment. Perhaps we should also seriously consider the current situation of the survival of the elderly in an aging society.
The sheep have the grace to kneel, and the crow has the righteousness to feed back. If you can't repay the favor of nurturing, at least don't deliberately hurt the person who gave you life because of resentment.