In most two-child families, parents will find such a phenomenon, children always like to compare with each other, whether it is food or use, or parental love.
Such comparisons often put parents in a mess, and if the children throw another sentence to themselves, "Mom, me and my brother, who do you love more?" "At that time, the mood of the mothers will be more helpless.
So in response to such an embarrassing question, how should parents answer the most ideal?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="41" > In a two-child family, it is common for children to compare with each other</h1>
Yu Na is a mother of two children, the eldest son is eight years old this year, the younger son is three years old this year, although the age difference between the two children has reached the standard limit that everyone thinks, but there are many troubles in Yu Na's life.
In fact, she is well aware of the psychology of two children, especially in the two-child family, so she has tried her best to make a bowl of water flat, but even so, there are still places that make the children dissatisfied.
For example, usually for two children to serve rice, they have to go to the bowl to see who has more rice, who has less food, if it is not so balanced, it must be a "ghost crying wolf howl", this meal no one wants to eat and stop.
Or buy toys for children, whether it is an older brother or a younger brother, as long as you see who has a new toy, you will immediately find yourself to ask for it, the rhythm is almost not good.
In fact, this phenomenon Yu Na also understands, after all, children themselves are possessive, especially when they are young, they are very fond of confirming their position in the minds of their parents.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="40" > "Mom, who do you love more with my brother?" This is a parent-child problem for parents</h1>
In the eyes of children, some tangible or intangible content can become the embodiment of parental love, and they do not want their position in the hearts of their parents to be compared
Therefore, the question of "Mom, who do you love more with my brother" has become a common occurrence in two-child families, and many parents have said that they will face such a "choice problem" from time to time.
In the face of this situation, once the parents do not grasp it well, it will cause problems in the parent-child relationship, so some parents will answer "all love", thinking that no one can be guilty of this. But the question is, is this answer really correct?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="39" > for children, the best answer for parents is not "all love"</h1>
When many parents hear this question, they will immediately feel good about themselves and answer " You two mothers love!" Because you are all my babies!"
In fact, children are not satisfied with this answer, what they want is for parents to truly recognize themselves, respect themselves, and understand themselves, and these contents need to be reflected in the words.
If parents give such a vague answer, which is undoubtedly perfunctory to the inner world that the child is already questioning, then how to answer it is the best?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="24" > on this question, the standard answer given by American psychologists is worth learning from parents</h1>
Every child wants to get special attention and love from mom and dad, and we need to express this attitude to our children, so when the child asks us very seriously, "Mom, me and my brother, who do you love more?", American psychologist Adele Farber gave the standard answer.
She said: "You and your brother are the most unique babies of your mother, and they are also the only ones, and no other child can be as cute as you, with your appearance and thinking, and my mother is very fortunate to have a child like you." ”
We will feel that such an answer can make the child feel very comfortable, because they feel that they are valued, and the mother does mention the difference between the child, which is the finishing touch.
Compared with the previous more popular answer, it is "You and your brother and mother love it!" "The child will not be satisfied, so perfunctory answer the child does not feel the attitude from the parents."
So this answer is also worth learning from parents and parents, and everyone must grasp the essence of it!
Daily One Question: If it were you, how would you answer?