The article I share with you today is that after a long time of love, it is difficult to be moved. Seeing a message from a girl backstage, presumably meaning that her boyfriend has no sense of ceremony and love. This is not an example. I often see some boys leaving messages backstage asking: What is the sense of ceremony? They don't quite understand the relationship between love and ritual. Do they think that as long as two people are really in love, are these gifts and romance really that important? Not long ago, I saw a topic on Weibo about the sense of ceremony. A popular comment said that a sense of ceremony is important for every ordinary day and action. The spiritual connotation behind him has been determined. There is no need, but someone who truly loves you will give you a sense of ceremony. I think I saw a good metaphor. Strawberries on cupcakes are the soul of cupcakes. Love without ritual is like a cake without strawberry decorated cups. Is this cupcake? But I always felt that something was missing.
Love doesn't have to be flowers and wine, but it does need moments to move. Someone says I love you. Another way of saying it is that tonight's moonlight is really beautiful. It's a special sense of ritual. Life can be bland, love needs surprises. The ritualistic feeling of love is that you are willing to spend time and energy doing something fun for the other person, which can increase your life. Something you don't do. For example, when we watch a movie together, we buy each other's favorite milk tea in advance. Remember the first time I said I love you. Let's be together. On the day we touched each other, I took my girlfriend's favorite red number and gave him one before each holiday. I'm not afraid he's useless, but I don't want to see other girls lose when they receive gifts. Girls are so ritualistic just trying to prove that he is important enough in your heart and want to make sure you really love him. Love does not come without a price. Conversely, the more you like someone, the more willing you are and the more you need to invest. Whether it is experience or money, abstract feelings are spaced, and seemingly superfluous senses of ritual are often indelible evidence of two people falling in love. It's like Children's Day. When we sit on a carousel, we feel like a child.
When we walk into Disney and Captain Mickey Mouse, we feel like the original fairy tale can come true. When we step to the beat of a wedding march, we feel like our love has finally achieved a positive result. Haruki Murakami said: If there is no small happiness, life is a dry desert. The so-called small happiness is a sudden small surprise and happiness in ordinary life. For example, if it suddenly rains after work, you happen to bring an umbrella. When you wake up, you find that your lover has already prepared breakfast. When you cry, someone hands you a tissue. The rest of your life is really long. While love words are beautiful, actions can move people. Lovers who have been together for a long time will not be bored, they will always be in love. Their methods of keeping love hot may be different, but most people have such characteristics. Both sides are ceremonial people. A dull and boring life does not accumulate long-term stable feelings. Love needs to be kept fresh, not let go.
If we spend our lives day in and day out, we are just alive and not alive. Similarly, if our feelings can only remain the same, then even the initial ten thousand years of enthusiasm will gradually disappear into the grievances of looking at each other. Sometimes, many of us have a misunderstanding of the meaning of ritual, believing that the meaning of ritual is too fancy, superficial, and formal. In fact, true etiquette doesn't have to be expensive. This is the best way to express your concern for each other. As the movie "Beijing Meets Seattle" said, you may not take me to a yacht or eat French food, but he can run a few blocks every morning to buy me my favorite soy milk and fritters, and then order a dish. The meaning of the ritual is so small, but it is full of affection and love. It can be a record of a meal, or it can be a poem, as Wang Xiaobo wrote to Li Yinhe to tell you, when I think of you, I will smile on my face. Say I'm willing to give up everything. You miss you