Writing for the sword, writing the heavens and writing the Chinese year; falling chess is the son, and the point of the soldier will point the country.
01
There is a question in the Meditations that easily touches the soul:
What do we live for and why do we live? Is it to go with the flow in this noisy earthly world, or to strive for the deep self of the soul in the blank emptiness and noise?
Every life is an independent individual, so there can be a thousand answers to this question in a thousand people, but for Wang Shenai, a girl in Nanjing, her answer is extremely clear:
She was born to cut the door, to buy a house, desperately thrifty, is the cry and long-cherished wish of her soul.
From a young age, she began to desperately save money, and in the case of extremely limited pocket money, she could save 1,000 yuan in the sixth grade of primary school, save money all the way to college graduation, and buy a small house directly.
After graduating 9 years ago, with the incredible way of slamming the door, he saved up a down payment of 1 million yuan and bought a suite in Nanjing.
Such an inspirational door-cutting life was favored by a very interesting program, so Wang Shen'ai appeared in the footage of "Talking to Strangers", which quickly caused fermentation on the Internet.
Some people doubted the authenticity of the interview, did not believe that in the case of such a high house price, it was possible to buy two apartments by slamming the door, and some people directly rebuked her lifestyle, criticized her attitude towards life, and once scolded her to the point of cold hands and feet.
What many people don't know, however, is that there is an unspeakable experience behind her.
02
Wang Shen Ai, an ordinary white-collar worker in reality, a "big god of the cut group" on a certain petal.
I have paid attention to her earlier, for no reason, that kind of amazing way of slamming the door, in minutes can open the door to a new world for you, so that you suddenly have a "usual waste of hundreds of millions" thoughts, regret.
The mobile phone she uses is 32G, the clothes she wears and the cosmetics she uses are all picked up by friends who don't want, and she only spends 100 yuan a year to buy a few underwear, and deliberately spends half an hour every day to shave wool, so that daily necessities such as shampoo do not need to spend a penny.
When you encounter something you want to buy, add it first, put it in the shopping cart for a few months, and finally either the goods are automatically removed from the shelves, or they are directly deleted, so the cost is extremely low, and the monthly salary can save 90%.
Not only that, when she saw others eating two bites and throwing them away, she would inexplicably feel heartache. Seeing the actor on TV sitting on the hotel's white bed drinking coffee, she involuntarily began to worry that the coffee spilled out would cost the sheets.
You asked her, life is short, why should she desperately be frugal and restrain her desire to consume?
She blurted out: "Many people will feel happy when they spend money, but I am nervous when I spend money, I panic, I am unhappy when I spend money, I don't want to buy at all, my greatest happiness is to count money with a piggy bank." ”
The only thing that sparked her desire to spend money was buying a house.
But it also attracted a lot of scolding, some people think that she is living, not living; some people think that the house is not brought, death is not brought, there is no need to live like a scrooge; others say that she is suffering from mental illness, and the money is earned rather than saved.
Public opinion roared like a tide to her and her family, forcing Wang Shen'ai to have to respond that for the first time, he was scolded by so many people to have cold hands and feet, and then explained various misunderstandings on the Internet, and the meaning he wanted to express was very simple:
Respect everyone's concept of consumption, cut the way, do not lack morality and break the law, cut yourself and do not cut others.
So why did she form such an extremely critical view of consumption?
The answer lies in her birth family.
03
Wang Shen'ai's mother was a teacher, her father was a worker, she was an only child, and she had a steady and stable income.
But even so, the word "poor" continued throughout her childhood.
She lived in a covered room in the courtyard, the curtains of the room were made of rags, and there were almost no new clothes to wear from childhood to adulthood, all by picking up clothes that relatives and classmates did not want.
She didn't have a swimsuit, and her mother refused to buy it for her, so she had to wear underwear to swim, and when she got there, she became the laughing stock of the whole class.
Her mother did the same, spending 100 yuan for a month to support the family's expenses for a long time, and the clothes she picked up must be worn until they were tattered, in her own words, more like the victims than the victims.
When she grew up, her mother threw her pocket money on the ground and let her pick it up herself, in order to make her remember the humiliation and hardship of earning money, so as not to waste a penny.
At that time, Wang Shen loved and couldn't understand why his parents were always working, but the family would never have money?
By chance, she found a box in the refrigerator, opened it and sat down on the ground, it was full of hundreds of dollar bills, she had never dreamed of so much money.
That year, she learned that her family did not have no money, but had money and did not spend, all of which were saved by their mother in a frozen way, saved for nearly a lifetime, and finally bought two apartments in Nanjing.
Sadly, the reason why Wang Shen loved his mother so sickly was that Wang Shen's beloved grandmother treated her in this way, so three generations of people were in the realm of extreme door cutting, and reincarnation did not stop.
The reason that really makes Wang Shen'ai obsessed with buying a house is that when she was a child, her parents always quarreled when they were not in harmony, and she could only borrow everywhere without anyone to take care of her, and suffered from the taste of sending people under the fence.
In order not to annoy the owner of the household, she forced herself to reduce her sense of existence, did not dare to go to the toilet during the day, only dared to eat dishes close to herself, and even deliberately imitated the appearance of her mother scolding her father, in order to amuse the family of the head of the household.
This is the value that she can only provide under the fence, even if such behavior seems stupid and ridiculous in the eyes of adults.
So the later Wang Shen'ai, after having the financial ability, desperately wanted to buy a house, just to pursue a sense of security, and did not have to experience the taste of sending people under the fence, as she said:
"From now on, there will be a light in the world that will always shine for me."
These words instantly make people's noses sour, and why is this not what countless wanderers who are wandering in a foreign land are struggling to pursue?
04
After thoroughly unfolding her growth trajectory, it is not difficult to find that this is actually a very sad story, and the background is full of sadness.
I can understand her consumption concept and lifestyle, because in the past two years, people have generally had a sense of frugality, especially the huge group of young people, and they can see their "pride in frugality" trend on various platforms.
There was even a term called "non-consumerists", who quit excessive desires and cleanly eliminated everything that did not belong to life and reduced it to the most basic way of life.
Although there are many advantages to this kind of door cutting, but a little carelessness will also make people lose their way, moderate door cutting is conducive to the improvement of the quality of life, excessive door cutting will seriously affect the happiness of life.
There is a degree in between, and this degree also varies from person to person.
Just like the consumption concept of Wang Shen's love, I am afraid that most people cannot accept it, but Wang Shen's love can enjoy it, and if she is forced to use her consumption concept to restrain her desires and give up all the wind and snow, I am afraid that I will not be worth the loss.
A lifetime is too short, finding a way to live that suits you, and maintaining a strong sense of happiness to live this life is more important than anything else.
As Gump says:
It is enough to know what is most important to yourself, to know what is not important, and then to be a simple and happy person.