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The 16-year-old Yuanyuan is in love, and her boyfriend is Kai Kai, who is as big as himself. At the beginning, the two children were holding hands, kissing, hugging, but there was a classmate party, the little couple who drank alcohol slept together under the influence of alcohol, and what should happen happened was that after stealing the "forbidden fruit", the two children were not very shy about it, until the round menstrual holiday did not come on time to panic, with an early pregnancy test strip, the two bars were obvious.
What to do, the round stomach is faintly painful, and there is irregular bleeding underneath. Yuanyuan thought that he had deliberately jumped badly, and naturally miscarried it, and he didn't care too much! But the more the pain is more severe, the pain is so painful that Yuanyuan is sweating on the head, can't stand it, Yuanyuan's parents looked at it, and anxiously sent Yuanyuan to the hospital, the doctor said that it was ectopic pregnancy, and it was lost to send the doctor in time, or the consequences were unimaginable.
But Yuanyuan mother said that she did not believe anything, the child just came to menstrual menstruation, how did it become an ectopic pregnancy?
The doctor told Yuanyuan's mother: "Ectopic pregnancy means that the fertilized egg does not reach the uterine body cavity, but runs to other places such as fallopian tubes to 'camp', and there will be severe abdominal pain when it suddenly occurs, accompanied by heavy bleeding and then shock." Ectopic pregnancy is very dangerous, when the embryo of ectopic pregnancy develops to a certain extent, it will rupture the fallopian tubes, resulting in heavy bleeding, and if it is serious, it will endanger women's lives. If a woman stops menstruation for about 6-8 weeks after X behavior, irregular vaginal bleeding occurs, accompanied by abdominal pain, it is necessary to be alert to the possibility of ectopic pregnancy. ”
Although this was an accident, Yuanyuan's mother regretted not telling Yuanyuan earlier, always felt that talking about X with her children was an improper performance, and always felt that when the children grew up, they would naturally understand. And many parents also said that they are ashamed to talk about X with their children, and they don't even know where to start.
Today's children are really too smart, understand everything, biased towards precocious puberty, according to statistics, now the age of children's X behavior is getting younger and younger.
Due to the special physiological structure of girls, as a mother of the same sex, you need to take responsibility and don't feel that when your child is older, you will understand everything.
When the girl is about 3 years old, we must let the child know the gender difference between the boy and the girl; the child is a little older, through picture books, picture books to let the child see the structural differences between the male and female bodies, and to protect the private parts; after the child has the first "menarche", we must tell the girl the stage of physical change and development.
Adolescent children need the guidance of their parents, although they have the same height as their parents, they are easy to be impulsive, and they always feel that they can do everything, but they cannot bear the consequences of impulse.
<h1>What kind of bottom-line education should parents give their adolescent daughters</h1>
1. Let your daughter know where her limits lie
Dawei is a single father, has a daughter who is in adolescence, one day her daughter celebrated her classmate's birthday, and only returned home in the early morning, although Dawei was very worried, he did not reprimand his daughter, nor did he tell her daughter any reasoning.
After a few days, Dawei asked his daughter to go out for a drink: "Try to drink, get drunk, and Daddy will take you home." "That night, my daughter was drunk.
The next day, when the daughter woke up, there was a letter from her father to herself on the table:
"Daughter, in the blink of an eye, you have grown from a little girl to a big girl, do you remember how many drunks you drank last night?" It's 2 bottles of beer and a small glass of liquor, remember, that's your limit. There are a lot of bad people in the world, I can't always be around to protect you, so let you know your limits, you must learn to protect yourself. ”
2. Don't sell your body for anything
Xiao Jing is a particularly temperamental and beautiful female, and soon after graduation, she entered a well-known large enterprise to work. The married boss fell in love with Xiao Jing at first sight, wanted Xiao Jing to be his mistress, and promised a lot of benefits, but Xiao Jing refused and took the initiative to resign.
Xiao Jing's parents told her from an early age: "You are unique, don't sell your body for anything in exchange for any benefit." ”
3. Be an independent woman
After his daughter was admitted to college, the father and his daughter video asked: "Is it enough to send you 2,000 a month?" ”
The daughter replied, "Enough." ”
My father also said, "Buy whatever you want, don't lose yourself." ”
The daughter listened and did not make a sound for half a day.
The father wondered, "What's wrong?" ”
The daughter said: "My roommate is like me, and the family also gives 2,000 yuan a month, but her quality of life is higher than mine, she has snacks every day, goes to Starbucks every week, and often buys new clothes..."
"Is she working?"
"She didn't work, she was in love. She once told me that she didn't really like the guy she was dating, she just liked him to pay for herself. She also said that I was stupid, but it was a pity for this face, and if she had a beautiful face like mine, she would not have to ask the family for money. ”
The father and daughter ended the call, immediately called the daughter 2500 yuan, oh to the daughter: "From this month, I will give you 2500 yuan per month." For the extra $500, you can buy snacks or go to Starbucks once in a while. Also, if you're in love, let me know. I'll give you another $500 a month as a relationship fund. Please remember that every time you go on a date, don't forget to bring your wallet. ”
If the economy is not independent, the personality is not independent, the personality is not independent, love is not independent, and women who are not independent, even after marriage, are easy to become vassals and have no dignity to speak of.
4. Life is priceless
Life is precious, in the process of people's growth, no one knows what will happen, if you are unfortunate to encounter bad people, if you do not have the ability to fight gangsters, no matter how important the things in your hands are, you should not have a direct conflict with them, the best choice should be to give up your money to save your life.
At the same time, no matter how sad you encounter, you can't choose to end your life, and suicide is the stupidest way to solve the problem.
Therefore, from an early age, we must tell our daughter: life is above all else, there is no object, nothing can be more important than life, love and respect for life, is to protect yourself.
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Now the streets are full of a large number of abortions, abortion advertisements, although the size of the child remembers, there is an adult appearance, but there is no ability to distinguish the true and false information, these commonplace information is also easy to mislead and confuse the child.
If the child has X behavior prematurely, then the parent will bear the consequences of the child's sexual behavior, and it is our child who will be hurt in the end.
The content of X education includes both X knowledge education and X moral civilization education, of which X's moral civilization education is particularly important.
The purpose of X education is not only to popularize the knowledge of X hygiene and other aspects, but more importantly, to let people have noble sentiments, correct attitudes and healthy X behavior.
Therefore, the healthy growth of children is inseparable from the scientific guidance of parents, X is not ashamed, nor dirty, not mysterious, X education for children, is not only knowledge education, but also personality education.
Senior nursery teacher, mother of two children, with many years of experience in maternal and child care, is a multi-platform original, signed author. Enjoy the joy of parent-child love, experience the beauty of life, relieve the worries of raising children, and grow up together on the road of parenting!
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