To love yourself first, and then to love others. A person's beauty does not depend on appearance, a girl can self-respect and self-love, and leave the most precious things in her life to the person who accompanies her for a lifetime - this is the most beautiful!
On this day, Dr. Yu, who is in charge of the helpline for the accidental pregnancy of a young girl at a hospital in Shanghai, received a QQ message. The other party called her "sister" very kindly and asked if she was online. This made Dr. Yu very confused, thinking that he obviously did not know the other party, why did the other party call her like this?
It turned out that it was not someone else who sent her the message, but a little girl who had done abortion in this hospital before. As soon as he heard that the other party was Xiao Wei, Dr. Yu had an impression in his mind at once. Dr. Yu then asked Xiao Wei how his body was recovering, xiao Wei did not answer, indicating that he would go to the hospital tomorrow to find Dr. Yu, and asked Dr. Yu if he would scold her.
Dr. Yu thought that Xiaowei had come to the hospital to check her body, but Xiaowei told her that she was pregnant again. This surprised Dr. Yu, because it had only been a few months since Xiao Wei's last abortion surgery. In Dr. Yu's view, such a small girl, all aspects of her body have not yet fully developed, will face the third abortion surgery, which caused too much damage to her body, so Dr. Yu suggested that Xiao Wei rush to the hospital for examination.
Generally speaking, at Xiaowei's age, shouldn't she study in school? Why do you go to the hospital again and again to get a tire? Did her parents ignore her too?
Parents are not in harmony, gathering less and leaving more
Xiaowei has lived in an insecure family since she was a child, and her parents argue endlessly every day, so that she rarely feels the harmony and warmth of the family. For as long as she can remember, her father was a "bad guy" who ate, drank, gambled and did not fall behind. Dad was not only addicted to gambling, but he was also hanging out with other women every day, paying no attention to her and mom's feelings. Later, her father began to frequently enter various casinos, and eventually lost the bottom of the family, and the family of three did not even have a place to stay, and even could not afford to drink porridge.
In order to maintain the family's livelihood, Xiaowei's mother went abroad to work when she was in elementary school. The lazy father treats his wife as a "cash cow", and his daughter becomes the punching bag when he is frustrated.
Xiao Wei said that when her mother earned money abroad, she would send it home, and her father also formed a habit of asking her mother for money when she had no money, and her mother was sometimes unwilling to give it, and her father would spread her resentment on herself. I remember the most serious time, my father used a wine bottle to dislocate the left side of Xiao Wei's face, and he did not dare to resist, for fear of provoking his father, it would be beaten even worse.
The indifference of the family has changed Xiaowei's personality
Under the violent treatment of her biological father, Xiaowei, who is in adolescence, begins her real rebellion. Xiao Wei felt that she was in despair and no longer wanted to live with her father. As a result, Xiaowei often does not go home, skips class, skips school, and Xiaowei, who lacks family warmth since childhood, has since begun to make friends with all kinds of people in society.
In a bar, Xiaowei met a lady from a nightclub, she took good care of Xiaowei, so that Xiaowei, who lacked love and security since childhood, felt incomparably warm. Xiao Wei herself admitted that at that time, she was really disobedient, except for not going to "be a lady", smoking, drinking, fighting and even taking drugs, she had tried.
In Xiaowei's entire junior high school life, she almost spent time with those "friends" in society. She said no one cared about her, no one cared if she went to school or not, whether she was in class or not. Even the teacher seemed to have given up on her, as long as there was a "leave slip", no matter how many days of leave she took.
Immature mind, stealing the forbidden fruit
When Xiaowei's mother returned to China, her daughter, who was already in junior high school, became unable to recognize her. And what the mother can't accept the most is the boys who are like marquees around her daughter. Xiaowei said that there is no shortage of suitors around her, and she has talked about love many times, but the time is not more than a month, and the shortest time is only one day.
Just a few months ago, Xiaowei had a new boyfriend, which was strongly opposed by her mother. For this reason, Xiaowei also left home and moved in with her current boyfriend. Soon after, something happened that scared Xiaowei, and she became pregnant again. She told her boyfriend the news of the pregnancy, but she did not expect that the boyfriend did not recognize the account, and said that the child in Xiaowei's belly was not his. The boyfriend's irresponsibility made Xiaowei very sad that she did not understand why her boyfriend should do this to herself.
In fact, Xiaowei's boyfriend's concerns and doubts are not fabricated out of thin air. Although the boyfriend does not say it, in fact, he has always been grumpy about her past experience. Xiaowei said that she is a very fun-loving person, and usually likes to get together with those "friends" in society to drink and chat, and even after being with her current boyfriend, she still often goes out to play.
Once after her boyfriend returned to his parents' house, Xiaowei felt that she was bored, so she called many friends to come to the house to drink and eat, which was found by her boyfriend after returning home, and then her boyfriend has been very suspicious of her.
Hearing that Xiaowei was pregnant, her boyfriend did not want to care about her, so he played missing. In the past, in order to be with her boyfriend, Xiaowei also fell out with her mother, and now she has no face to go back. The abortion operation must be signed by the family, originally wanted to let the boyfriend sign on behalf of the boyfriend, but now the boyfriend is nowhere to be found. After some struggle of thoughts, Xiaowei still decided to contact her mother.
Since Xiaowei broke up with her boyfriend, she has not been in contact with her mother again. When the mother learned of her daughter's news again, Xiaowei was already in the hospital. When the mother heard the news of her daughter's pregnancy, her heart was twisted and she was unwilling to accept this fact.
Because the hospital considered that this was Xiaowei's third abortion operation, the postoperative physical recovery and safety issues could not be taken lightly, so Dr. Yu deliberately found their mother and daughter to talk and conducted psychological counseling for them.
Xiao Wei's mother is also aware of some of her previous problems, and she feels that she also has an unshirkable responsibility for why her daughter has become what she is now. Although her daughter's pregnancy was difficult for her to accept, she finally forgave her daughter, accompanied her to complete the abortion operation, and brought her home.
When Xiaowei experienced a love affair with no end, she finally understood that her mother was the person who loved herself the most in the world. Where there is a mother, it is home, and the home that has been told by the mother is a warm harbor.
Xiao Wei said that she felt very sorry for her previous wayward behavior, and felt that the person she was most sorry for was her mother. Because if I had listened to my mother's advice, I wouldn't have been the result I am now. Xiao Wei's heart knot has finally opened!
epilogue:
Love is beautiful, but don't ruin your life for the sake of a momentary impulse. In short, it is very important to love yourself and be kind to yourself.