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Happiness in marriage is always fleeting, some people say that this is the norm of marriage, while some people have always carried love to the end, so that happiness is always with them.
Zhao Yazhi is a goddess in the minds of many people, starred in many TV series, movies, and her image is the same as when she was young, the years seem to be particularly kind to her, many years later, she is still so beautiful, so gentle and moving.
Zhao Yazhi became popular again in "Imperfect Her", and her former emotional history is actually a tear-jerking warm drama.
Beautiful women always have too many men's crazy pursuit, which is an honor for a woman, but for Zhao Yazhi, it is a burden, and it has also become the fuse of broken marriage.
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Before entering the entertainment industry, Zhao Yazhi was a beautiful flight attendant.
One year, she participated in the election of Miss Hong Kong, although she did not get a satisfactory ranking, but the TV station and the director were very fond of her and felt that she had a lot of room for development.
Later, she met Huang Hanwei under the introduction of her parents, who was ten years older than her. The two soon got married and had two lovely children, and since then, Zhao Yazhi has focused all her attention on her career.
Several films starring Zhao Yazhi sold well at the box office, and she quickly established her position in the Hong Kong showbiz circle, and also gained a large number of avid fans.
At that time, many people's fascination with Zhao Yazhi was hot, and she would receive many love letters written to her by fans every day, and even more put into action, trying to get close to her by all means, wanting to see her really up close, and wanting to talk to her face to face.
Many men, in their eyes, do not hide their admiration, which makes her husband Huang Hanwei very angry.
In dealing with these problems, Huang Hanwei showed his machismo, putting all the responsibility on his wife, believing that the wife was inappropriate and would attract bees and butterflies.
Not only that, he also exposed his flower heart, and many women have unclear relationships, and his double standards of affection make Zhao Yazhi very disappointed.
Husband Huang Hanwei always has a female companion around him, and he lacks concern for Zhao Yazhi, and the feelings of the two people have gone from hot to indifferent.
Many men love a woman, and when they love and can't, they always sleep and think, toss and turn, and when they really have it, they don't know how to cherish it. Huang Hanwei, that's it.
He did not give Zhao Yazhi the opportunity to explain, did not cherish the fate, did not believe in the feelings between the two people, and this irresponsible behavior also directly broke the marriage of the two people.
Sometimes, that's it, the people in love walk together desperately, and the suspicion, doubt, and an unstable heart gradually separate the two people.
How many couples have changed from loving each other to hurting each other, saying that love is too simple and it is too difficult to be together for a lifetime.
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Wrong love, life leaves a lot of scars. However, life still has to go on, and the only way to do it is to pack up the wounded heart and continue to hurry. After Zhao Yazhi divorced, she met Huang Jinshen.
Huang Jinshen was also a debauched brother at first, and when he saw Zhao Yazhi, he was "mistaken for life". He fell in love with her and embarked on a frantic quest.
Zhao Yazhi did not believe Huang Jinshen at first, thinking that he only admired his beauty and did not really want to spend his life with himself.
However, Huang Jinshen used his own practical actions to prove to Zhao Yazhi that he was far away from those bright and green days, and wholeheartedly accompanied her and guarded her.
After a long time of testing, Zhao Yazhi was finally impressed by him and entered the marriage hall with him. The feelings of the two people after marriage have always been sweet and inseparable, and Huang Jinshen has always kept his promise, loyal to the marriage, and cared for his lover.
After that, Huang Jinshen faded out of the show business circle and began to do business, but no matter how busy he was, he would take time to accompany Zhao Yazhi and accompany the children, they had a relatively independent space, but they never alienated each other.
Zhao Yazhi is a person who pays attention to the taste of life, and Huang Jinshen also gives her the romance she wants, he will buy a bouquet of roses for his wife on every anniversary, and will also wear couple clothes to go shopping together.
When Zhao Yazhi was filming, he would arrange his work in advance, go to the crew to visit the class, accompany her to attend many activities, and hold her hand tightly.
In the place where Zhao Yazhi appeared, there was always his tall figure accompanying him. Even after experiencing vicissitudes, even if it is countless years of reincarnation, there is no longer the vigorous love of the original, but a heart that is obsessed with love will never change.
Huang Jinshen has been guarding Zhao Yazhi's side with practical actions. For Zhao Yazhi, he was considerate and gentle, and cared for her with practical actions for 35 years.
The two came together, and he held her hand forever.
Zhao Yazhi is now sixty years old, but her mentality and appearance seem to have not changed, in addition to her meticulous maintenance, it has a lot to do with the happiness of marriage.
The woman surrounded by love will exude a kind of tranquility from the inside out, a kind of indifference, let the years erode, still unmoved, still brave to move forward.
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Zhao Yazhi divorced her ex-husband and married Huang Jinshen, why can she be happy for 35 years? In fact, the reason is that countless married men and women are alert, and in the end, there are two conditions:
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > one: trust is the foundation of marriage. </h1>
Husbands and wives trust each other, and constantly cultivate feelings, and care for each other with practical actions. How many couples do not trust each other and are not willing to accompany each other.
Baby Anne said: "We are always lonely, we just need companionship, we don't need to love each other!" ”
It is precisely because Huang Jinshen gave Zhao Yazhi trust and security, gave her love and companionship, and the feelings of the two people will get better and better.
In marriage, love always fades slowly, and the companionship of each other is even more precious. Even the best material conditions are not as good as being with you when you need it.
All the sweet words can not withstand a sentence of "I am", ordinary and ordinary, but it can not be abandoned for so many years, is the love worth adhering to.
Huang Jinshen and Zhao Yazhi went out, and for thirty-five years, he always held her hand and stood beside her like a bodyguard.
And the trust between each other will bring the two hearts closer together, and some small speculations and rumors cannot shake the solid emotional foundation of the two.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > two: the growth force needed in marriage</h1>
Husbands and wives are constantly growing, willing to compromise and care for each other in order to each other. How many couples are unwilling to bow their heads for each other and are unwilling to grow up on their own.
Aristotle said, "Emotions are feelings that change people, affect people's judgments, and are accompanied by pleasant and painful feelings." These emotions include anger, pity, fear, and so on, and the emotions that correspond to them. ”
In the process of getting along with people, there will always be trouble of one kind or another. There will be times when you will lose your mind in marriage, there will be moments when you want to "strangle" each other, and there will be nights of hysterical quarrels.
In fact, at first, Huang Jinshen was not willing to be the woman behind Zhao Yazhi, but in order to complete her career and because he loved her enough, he compromised.
There will be a lot of problems between husband and wife, and there will be some compromises, just for the sake of getting along better, staying together better.
If two people can learn how to dispel each other's bad emotions, how to adapt to each other's life around them, solve one problem after another, quarrel and fight, and can accompany each other to the white head, it is the consummation of life.
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Zhao Yazhi's happiness in life is inseparable from her own management.
Some people say that they have to believe that there may be something destined to belong to the past, and they will eventually leave after a short period of companionship. Wait until the scenery is seen through, maybe you will, accompany me to see the long stream of thin water.
Loving the wrong person will make yourself constantly hurt in your feelings, making white-headed and old age the most luxurious state. Good love always has to see through everything before it knows how to love and how to operate.
Zhao Yazhi found the right person, can be accompanied by long-term peace, happiness, is a day after day of hard work. Let the other party feel the love, feel their own existence, in order to preserve the love.
In addition to her career and family, she also maintains her own interests and hobbies, even if her youth is no longer there, she is fearless, with a brave heart, to accept the baptism of wind and rain.
Women, it is not terrible to love the wrong person, as long as you learn to love yourself, throughout your life, you will meet with romance.
The operation of marriage requires a lot of energy and time, in addition to having firm love for each other, but also having trust in each other, truly understanding each other, in order to pay each other and achieve each other.
There is no perfect person in marriage, and only through the efforts of two people can we grind into a whole that fits with each other.
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