Mr. Feng Zikai's Li Shutong teacher's short story about the education of adolescent children

In the past year, I have encountered various problems when educating my daughter, a teenager, talking too much, she is annoyed with me, talking less, the child is in adolescence, and afraid of going downhill, left and right, I began to read a variety of parenting books, looking for a solution.

Today I saw the article "Remembering Mr. Li Shutong" written by Mr. Feng Zikai, and several small stories in the text made me feel something about teaching children.

There is a person who reads other books without singing in music class, and there is a person who spits on the floor when he goes to music, thinking that Mr. Li can't see, but in fact he knows it. But he did not immediately rebuke him, and when he was finished, he solemnly said in a very light and serious voice: "So-and-so wait and go out." So the so-and-so classmate had to stand. When the other students were all out, he said in a light and serious voice to this so-and-so classmate, "Don't read other books in the next class." Or: "Next time don't spit on the board." After saying that, he bowed slightly and said, "You go out." Most of the people who came out were red in the face.

This teacher is a very wise teacher, when he saw that the classmates did something wrong, he did not immediately blame the classmates, did not let the classmates fall into an embarrassing situation, but waited for the class to talk to the classmates alone, the tone was mild and severe, let the classmates realize their mistakes, after the conversation, and bowed slightly to the classmates, indicating that he thanked the classmates for being willing to accept his teachings, and truly convincing people with virtue. I think that if a teacher can respect his students so much, his students must respect the teacher and take the teacher's teachings to heart.

Another time after a music lesson, the last person who went out inadvertently pulled the door open, touched it too hard, and made a loud noise. After he had taken dozens of steps, Mr. Li came out the door and told him to turn around with a kind face. When he arrived, Mr. Li asked him to come into the classroom again, and Mr. Li said to him in a very light and serious voice, "Next time you walk out of the classroom, close the door gently." He bowed to him, sent him out the door, and gently closed the door himself.

This teacher's way of education is gentle and courteous education, instead of loudly reprimanding "sharing hands and feet", but dressing people in a formal manner, gently admonishing and then bowing away, but making people feel self-respecting, so that the teacher who respects the students, I am afraid that there are not many, the students have made mistakes, have been criticized, and have also been respected, must be red in the face, feel ashamed.

Children can also learn from this kind of education method, especially adolescent children, self-esteem is stronger, and they avoid reprimanding him in front of others. As a parent, you also need to constantly learn how to communicate with your children and get along, so that your children can grow better!