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Two days ago, Caizi Li Announced that he had divorced his wife, although divorce is now a common thing, star divorce is everywhere, but this relationship of six years of love and three years of marriage is still unexpected.
There is a saying in China that is particularly popular: "Love that is not premised on marriage is a hooligan." As a result, many people do not want to wear the hat of "hooligan", so they choose to enter the palace of marriage.
The other part is that the two have been in love for a long time, especially the parents will feel that it is impossible to say that they are not married. Therefore, after a long time in love, marriage becomes a natural thing.
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The first marriage was to live with this person for a long time, from one end to the other. But in the process of getting along, I slowly discover that reality may not be as simple and beautiful as I wish.
The most unreasonable thing in the world is love and marriage, so ask your own heart, is marrying each other just to give an account to the parents? Does this person make you love so much that you want to stay together for the rest of your life?
Wenger Jolly, an American emotional expert, once said: In this world, even the happiest marriage will have 200 divorce thoughts and 50 impulses to strangle each other in their lifetime.
This sentence exposes the truth of marriage – there are no couples in the world without contradictions. However, some contradictions in marriage can be reconciled, some cannot be reconciled, and they can evolve into poison that torments themselves.
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My neighbor who rented a house before is a vivid example, a family of three, the man is lazy and lazy, but also abusive, often hear the sound of smashing things from her house, small to cups, dishes, large chairs, tables, sometimes even in the middle of the night, the cries of children, the quarrels of adults, and then the sound of slamming doors and sobbing.
Because the neighbor hostess often makes small snacks for us, it is also an apology for the inconvenience caused by their sometimes quarrels, so I will more or less want to care about her.
Looking at the large and small scars on her body, I asked her, "Aren't you going to divorce and live like this for the rest of your life?" ”
She looked into the child's sparkling eyes and said bitterly: "The child is still young, and he can't live without his father." ”
She struggled and suffered in her marriage and chose to be patient for the sake of her children. Later, the landlord received too many complaints, or chose to let them move away, and when I went to send her, the little child was still asking: "Mom, why do we have to move again?" ”
Marriage was a painful nightmare for her. What is even more pitiful is that she still chooses to be patient for the sake of her children, in fact, it is not only her, but women who are unhappy in marriage, but still suffer from marriage.
Women are all about happiness when they invest in love and marriage, but unfortunately, a toxic intimacy can cost them dearly.
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Wan Jia (pseudonym) and Fang Hao (pseudonym) are high school classmates, the two from high school to college, college for four years, the two are still as loving as ever.
After graduation, the two held a wedding, which also drew a satisfactory end to the two's 7-year love and received a lot of blessings.
However, after marriage, the two did not go to old age with their children, but slowly went their separate ways.
After marriage, Wan Jia wants to make a living in a first-tier city by struggling, but Fang Hao does not think so, Fang Hao's family is well-off, as long as he wants, open his mouth to his family, he wants to take advantage of his youth to enjoy a happy life, not for the mortgage and down payment, get up early and be greedy, stay up late and work overtime.
If it was just like this, Wanjia would not think of divorce, she just felt that Fang Hao had just graduated, with a child's heart, and had not yet adapted to a new identity.
The terrible thing is that Wan Jia found that Fang Hao often lingered in those bad places, which were all bad problems cultivated in the university.
In addition to the heartache, Wanjia thought of getting a divorce, but Fang Hao did not agree, and he knelt down and repented, repeatedly promising that he would never do it again.
The last straw that crushed this marriage was That Wanjia was sick and gynecological. The doctor's gaze made her eager to dig a pit into it, and the marriage came to an end.
I thought that the matter would end here, but Wanjia's parents called, even if they understood the ins and outs of the matter, they resolutely disagreed with their daughter's divorce, felt humiliated, and even threatened to break off the relationship.
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There is a saying that marriage is for happiness, and divorce is even more so. Dare to love, but also dare to stop losses in time. Life is originally a process of trial and error, and mistakes are corrected in time.
In this day and age, divorce should no longer be seen as a beast that devours life, and divorced women are no longer placed at the bottom of the food chain as a reference for life failure.
Marriage is a matter of cold and warm self-knowledge, timely blessing, and time sharing. We begin to look forward to an era in which both deeply loved and unloved can make idealistic choices without having to endure this social shackles.