Author: Xuan Gui
Source: Journal of Marriage and Family
ID：hunyinyujiating99
There are many actors who have played the domineering president, but there are only a few who really impress the audience. For example, Wang Yaoqing is one of the recognized "hegemons".
Wait, you say Wang Yaoqing is a "hegemon"? What is it, outside of the "hegemon" or the "uncle of the nation"?
Make no mistake!
Who is this man who throws his eyes, squeezes his eyes and smiles, cocks his hips, and calls himself "Xiao Qingqing"?
Is this also Wang Yaoqing?
What a bully, the second generation of the rich, in fact, are just a passer-by in Wang Yaoqing's role.
The real him is a rich flower in the world who pretends to be a "secondary two teenager" without any sense of violation, and he is also the most dedicated, most grounded and never pretended good man in his wife's mind...
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Poor family, lazy and love money: but I have someone to love
Wang Yaoqing was born in Shandong and later went to Taiwan because of his father's work. So he often said that he was a Shandong rough man in his bones.
Because of his family's general situation, Wang Yaoqing's childhood dream was to make a lot of money. When I was in junior high school, the ideals of other students were particularly grand as scientists and writers, and only Wang Yaoqing was ashamed to say that he wanted to make a lot of money.
Deep in my heart, I have a dream of a traitor, but I am eating the bowl of rice of acting. After filling out the college entrance examination, Wang Yaoqing originally wanted to choose one of the business schools, law schools or liberal arts colleges, but he turned out to be a ghost and filled in the mass communication major. "Actually, I could have changed it at the time, but I was too lazy and thought it was too troublesome to change the system."
In many things, Wang Yaoqing is indeed very "lazy". For example, later, the girlfriend's family said that it was not good to live together without marriage, and Wang Yaoqing was too lazy to move, so he went with his girlfriend to get a marriage license.
Lazy is enough, Wang Yaoqing still loves money.
In his sophomore year, he was favored by an advertising agency, filmed the first advertisement in his life, and received a reward that seemed expensive at the time.
He was so happy that he didn't know how to be good. He laid out the first money he earned in his life on the bed, counted it over and over again, and slept with the money on his pillow.
Of course, as long as there is money to be made, Wang Yaoqing can bear hardships. After shooting the commercial, he strengthened his determination to enter the show business circle and began to spend a lot of time learning film theory, setting a record of 20 consecutive days in the cinema and watching 37 movies in one go.
The domineering president who later controlled the economic lifeblood of Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen on the screen, the reason why he portrayed each image vividly stemmed from his long-term immersion in the study of performance, continuous accumulation of professional knowledge, and also from the "love of money" in his bones.
Every New Year's Festival, Wang Yaoqing and his family play cards together, originally this kind of thing, happy is the most important, but Wang Yaoqing stinks every time. "Because I want to win." Every time he played cards, he took things seriously, and the virtue of only losing and not winning also made his family take him for granted.
He has an expensive face, but he does tacky things. This is Wang Yaoqing, but it is also because of the vulgarity, not to cover up or pretend, and his girlfriend is dead to him.
Wang Yaoqing's wife, Guo Yanqing, was in the same class as him in the fourth grade of primary school, and then in junior high school and high school, both of them were classmates in the same class and were good friends who talked about everything. After graduating from college, Wang Yaoqing confessed to Guo Yanqing, and soon after he went to serve in the army.
Because of laziness, after two years in the army, Wang Yaoqing broke off contact with his girlfriend. Unexpectedly, when he returned from military service, people accepted him as if nothing had happened.
His girlfriend's home was close to where he worked, and Wang Yaoqing, who was lazy and money-loving, moved in cheekily.
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It is said that she He De He can marry the "overlord", but he says that he deceived the good girl into his own thief ship
After living together for a while and not mentioning marriage, Guo Yanqing's family had an opinion. At that time, Wang Yaoqing had just entered the show business circle and made a little money by running dragon sets. Someone tricked him into moving and breaking up. Instead, he directly proposed to his girlfriend to obtain a license.
He said that he could continue to rub it, but his girlfriend knew that wang Yaoqing had no other woman in his heart besides her.
Men appear in their original form as soon as they get married, and Wang Yaoqing is no exception.
Other people's wedding honeymoons are all travel and shopping, but Wang Yaoqing offered to stay at home, and his wife agreed. He took the money he was going to travel to buy 8 computers, customized a large L-shaped table, registered 30 accounts, and played games day and night. The wife did not complain, but said: "You have such a long vacation, and it is understandable to do what you like." ”
"I bought two huge displays, one for 4 consoles. I switch perspectives myself, don't team up, and fight with myself! It was the most enjoyable time of my life! After many years of talking about the situation at that time, Wang Yaoqing's eyes still sparkled.
For 3 whole months, Wang Yaoqing's day was "Wow, it's dark!" "Wow, it's dawn!" Spent in.
Even if he later went out to shoot a movie, he had to remotely control his wife at home to help him brush games.
If you change to another woman, you will be separated from him without divorce, but Wang Yaoqing's wife not only does not complain, but also cooks for him every day, because she knows that this is his favorite thing to do at that time. Wang Yaoqing also decided from then on that he wanted to walk hand in hand with this woman for a lifetime.
To this day, he still has no resistance to games such as changing equipment and upgrading.
"In life, I am greedy and lazy, and I am very grateful to my wife, who has always been inseparable from me." Some people envied Guo Yanqing and He Dehe how he could marry Wang Yaoqing, but he said that he had deceived her and let her get on the thousand-year-old thief ship.
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Marriage should be long-lasting, and the "hegemonic" drama is useless: "My wife has no shortcomings"
I can play games at home for 3 months because Wang Yaoqing's main job at that time was to act in dramas, and there was no performance for those 3 months, and when his wife asked him what he wanted to do most, he said unceremoniously," and she said, "Okay, play as much as you want!" ”
"Don't try to change the other party, while changing yourself as much as possible, to generously tolerate and accept each other's shortcomings." This is my secret to happiness. Wang Yaoqing said that when he and his wife decided to be together, they reached a consensus to accept each other's shortcomings.
"Of course, my wife has no faults." Wang Yaoqing's words are half for self-preservation, and half are also heartfelt words.
He once had a conflict with his wife because he was obsessed with games. He came home after many days of filming outside, and stayed up late to play games on the first night. "She came to call me once in a while, and I was very upset, but I was too busy playing games and too lazy to reason with her. In the middle of the night, I went straight to sleep on the couch, and my wife saw that I didn't sleep in the bedroom and scolded me for being a dog bloody head. ”
Scolded and not angry, not apologizing, Wang Yaoqing seriously explained, saying that he slept on the sofa for fear of suddenly entering the house and disturbing her rest. The wife's anger immediately subsided, and he could go to bed in the bedroom.
"In fact, whether it is a husband and wife or between parents and children, they must give each other space to be alone. Especially when a person is in a bad mood, it is best to choose to be alone, the other party is in a bad mood, you better hide far away. Wang Yaoqing said that marriage should be long-lasting, and it is useless to dominate the drama.
Wang Yaoqing admits that he is not romantic at all. He basically can't remember important days such as his wife's birthday and wedding anniversary. "But my wife never minded."
Many people feel that life should have a sense of ceremony, but Wang Yaoqing thinks that it is because their ordinary days are too casual. Usually, no matter where he goes, as long as he sees anything that he thinks is suitable for his wife, Wang Yaoqing will immediately buy it and then express it to her.
A person who keeps his lover in his heart all the time, those so-called "important days" do not remember or not, because he has already turned every ordinary day into a holiday full of surprises.
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Someone else's wedding anniversary is called a paper, aluminum or gold wedding: ours is always "not divorced"
Wang Yaoqing is 48 years old. Ask him if the moment is the best? He nodded without hesitation and said, "Because I'm not in my 20s, and I haven't come back to 60." All I have is now. Now, which is constantly accumulating experience and emotions every day, it is really the best. ”
In the film and television drama, it is the "overbearing president", and returning home is "game house + wife management". In the popular variety show "Brother Full of Vitality" in 2020, Wang Yaoqing is completely free of himself, and various magic dances and fresh passages are emerging from the "comedian stars", "human pippi shrimp" and "second uncle".
He has a lot of labels, but Wang Yaoqing said that labels are not important to him at all, and he does not need any personal design. "Domineering president" has no meaning like "model husband".
The interesting thing about life is to be as indulgent and casual as possible to the extent that they are accepted by the other person and can also bring happiness to each other. For example, if only the upper body is shot, Wang Yaoqing will carefully do hairstyles, makeup, suits and shoes with a serious face, but the lower body that the camera cannot shoot, he may wear shorts and slippers.
The fundamental reason for this is that he regards this seemingly hard work as a pleasure and fulcrum, and it is also because his family has given Wang Yaoqing enough trust and support.
At least 10 months of the year are working, and the rest of the day, Wang Yaoqing is basically in Taiwan with his family. Being with your family is the best arrangement, and it really doesn't matter if you don't do anything. Now that the children are older, Wang Yaoqing said that he did not dare to play games so brazenly. "It's not because I'm afraid of bringing bad kids, but my two sons are much better at playing games than me, and I love face too?"
Often absent from home, the wife and children never complained. Because he kept telling them that whenever there was a need for him, he was there, and parents, wives and children could find him at any time.
From green plum bamboo horses to people to middle age, Wang Yaoqing and his wife have walked hand in hand for many years. In the 14th year of marriage, his wife once asked him: "10 years of marriage is aluminum marriage, what is 14 years of marriage?" He blurted out: "No divorce." Now that the two have been married for more than 20 years, Wang Yaoqing's annotation of this relationship is still "not divorced".
By the way, if you don't know enough about Wang Yaoqing's "rich flower on earth", you can go to the variety show and live broadcast room where he participated.
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