She was my mother-in-law's mother, and by generation, I should have called her Grandma.
I had never seen her, and all I knew about her was hearing about her.
I heard that her first husband was not good to her, often scolded, she ran away after giving birth to her daughter, and later met her second husband, very painful to her, they had four children together, together for a lifetime, and now her first daughter, also by her side, Cheng huan knees.
I heard that her body has always been very tough, more than 80 years old, going up and down the mountain, growing vegetables and raising pigs, and still a good hand in the family.
I heard that she was notified of her illness by the doctor two months ago, and for the next 60 days, the water rice did not enter, in this almost fasting 60 days, what would she think, would she think of her eldest daughter and young son who left her early, or the little daughter who married thousands of miles away and could only come back in a few years, or the only eldest son who was alive but was very incomplete.
More than 80 years of time, experienced too much suffering, but always with a smile and a heart to live, the original human life can be tough to the point, and even let the years of shame to inherit.
This elder, whom I had never met, was deeply shocked by my life and death. She passed away quietly, without leaving any remarkable deeds, except for the flesh and bones of her children, no one will remember how she spent her life, but it is such an ordinary and extreme soul that makes people awe-inspired.
In recent years, there have been elderly elders who have passed away, my grandfather left more than 80, my grandmother left nearly 90, such a year of death, in our place, it is a happy funeral, children and grandchildren are to laugh and manage, for them, nearly a century of years, almost all the suffering, their lives are quiet, never had a birthday, the most grand thing in a lifetime is this funeral, the most beautiful scenery, prosperous curtain.
Are they happy, and they are not afraid. I have seen the rare old people often talk about their "old clothes", in the time that can still be seen with their own eyes, choose their favorite fabrics and favorite styles, when the weather is good, they will take them out to dry, often rub, to death, not afraid, just wait quietly.
However, there are also old people who are too late to put on "old clothes", either because they are not compatible with their children, or because they do not want to become a burden on their children and grandchildren, they choose to quietly end their lives, such examples, in previous years, there have been heard, I have not done a survey, just by the examples I have heard, I can also feel that in China, in the countryside, the elderly do not have much dignity.
These old men, who are now eighty or ninety years old, when they were young, survived by luck, lived by hard work, and it was very difficult to live a dignified life, and they did not know at that time that in a few years it would be more difficult to die with dignity. Because when you are alive, you can live the life you hope by hard work, and when you are old, you can only look at the faces of your children and grandchildren, if your children and grandchildren are not filial, they will burn up their lives in exchange for it, but a handful of cold soil and a cold heart.
A while ago, the child abuse incident in the three-color kindergarten brushed the screen, and saw a paragraph that said, "Now these children are poisoned, and they will naturally go to the nursing home to return them to us in the future." Duan Ziquan smiled, but clearly reflected that after the 80s and 90s, there has long been a consensus that their old age is to spend in the nursing home, unremitting struggle when young, when old can live a dignified life without relying on people's sniffles, which is the inexhaustible driving force for their struggle.
May all parents in the world be born with joy and die a dignified death.
Because, we, all of us, will eventually come to that day.