Foreword: Love in Beijing, and love in hometown, just like China now and China more than ten years ago, because of the difference in time and region, although love is different, but the state of finding hometown is the same.
The film "Back to every Day of Being Loved", filmed by the fifth-generation art film director He Ping, not only won the Director's Honorary Award at the 40th Toronto International Film Festival, but also received praise and recommendation from many directors and senior fans.
The film focuses on the small-town youth who are "wandering" in the city, telling love with a calm mind, and unfolding a proposition about love and growth.
The shape of love described in this film is like a cross, whether in the wandering Beijing or in the return of the hometown, love has become a kind of redemption. Just like many of our friends around us, we have worked hard in Beijing for more than ten years, and in our thirties, we still have not established a family, and most of them choose to leave Beijing and return to their hometown.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >01, love in big cities</h1>
Ai Ling, a dance graduate, left her hometown to find a foothold in the vast city of Beijing. She got a job, worked as a coach at a yoga center, and she also had a place to live, a very small room in a shared room.
In Beijing, she has more opportunities to work and space for development, with more museums, art galleries, exhibition halls and libraries, and more people of the same kind. But she doesn't necessarily have a life of her own, dressed beautifully during the day, huddled on the subway to work, dragging her tired body back to her tiny room at night, eating fast food or instant noodles, and rushing out of the shackles of the room with a computer.
In the big city, love is an urgent need that comes when you feel lonely in a difficult situation, and with it, in the rented room, life will emit the warmth it deserves.
When you are young, love and career are grasped with both hands, both hands must be hard, once one is weak, life seems to be missing something. However, they may not be able to get what they want, but may just jump from the confines of the town to an iron cage with a wide view but still trapped.
In fact, most people come and go in reinforced concrete buildings, not with a career they are proud of, but as a job that is only enough to survive, and the emotion that can best comfort them is love.
Ice hockey coach Jiang He, also a north drift. Ai Ling's life in Beijing is a reality, but Jiang He is different, his father is a rich businessman, he is more or less a rich second generation. It's just that Jiang He's three views are pure, there are ideals, there are pursuits, and everything in Beijing depends on his own efforts, so Jiang He also lives next door to Ai Ling's shared house.
Children who leave their parents, out of self-esteem or fear of their parents' worries, will not easily talk to them no matter what grievances, difficulties or complex emotions they encounter. Although technological advances have allowed them to find cathartic outlets through social media, they cannot replace someone who can give comfort and understanding around them.
Ai Ling and Jiang He, at this time, have the same state of mind, under the same roof, a wall without sound insulation effect, can not block their need for each other, love is coming.
The sense of crisis of survival in the big city and the emptiness of the individual make them more in need of a person who can face each other day and night, and the feeling of "one person, no kind" is not something that everyone can bear. What love should look like, no one can say, maybe it's just right now.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02, attachment in hometown</h1>
In the small town of my hometown, the pressure of survival transforms into the triviality of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea that sees the head at a glance, love is the sweetness of two people, it is the leisure that should be imagined, but the reality is not so.
The two people who came together in the predicament wanted to return to their hometown comfortably and comfortably, close to nature, but they could not let go of the possibility of life and future development that they had become accustomed to.
The big cities where office workers are mixed are like the rivers and lakes of chivalrous people, on the one hand, they hope that they will one day be able to achieve their ideals in this river and lake; on the other hand, they are imagining escaping from the life of the big city, as if their ideals are not here.
Ai Ling took Jiang He back to their hometown once, where they temporarily lived a leisurely life, looking at the familiar stage and the river as if time had not flowed.
But when Ai Ling wanders the streets of his hometown, explores the new road that does not know where to lead, does not know where to go to the vegetable market, and gradually experiences a strange feeling, at this moment, Ai Ling is like a foreign tourist, looking at the town, not living in it.
For the returning wanderer, years of absence have made the changes in his hometown a world-shaking, and the strangeness in this consciousness is also the inner experience of many wandering young people.
In the years when he tried to integrate into the life of the big city, he was already absent from the changes in his hometown over the years, and after experiencing a disagreement with the developed in the distance, the wanderer who returned home experienced a disagreement with the familiar, it seemed that everywhere was like hometown, but no place was hometown.
What cannot be integrated, in addition to the objective changes in the hometown, there are also the inner emotions of the wanderer. In the time of struggle, in order to learn to survive outside, many people compress their hearts and close their emotions, so the urban youth who reaches the standard line of the big city is not necessarily the real self, after all, hiding and camouflage is one of the usual means of survival in big cities.
But back to the hometown, not necessarily all the emotions and emotions of the release of the window, when the old classmates with envy to praise beijing bustling, Shanghai ocean, Guangzhou bright, life's heartache will often be the first time to gush in front of the eyes. In addition, there are differences in lifestyle, thinking habits, etc., which are easy to make people feel more lonely.
Fortunately, Ai Ling met the book bar and the book bar owner, the atmosphere here is like Beijing, and with the atmosphere of hometown, at the same time, the book bar owner was once Shanghai drift, so That Ai Ling felt that he was the same kind of person, so in the gap between the far side and his hometown, this book bar became a balance point.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >03, love returns home</h1>
No matter where you are, the pursuit of the heart is mixed with the impact of ideal and reality, and the need for love is here and now, and the mood is changing.
Some things do not require unnecessary language for those who understand, they can find comfort in each other, and the person who thinks of them at the first time when they are in pain is where love is, and Jiang He is the person who ai Ling.
When the young people of the town return to their hometown, their illusion of simplicity in their hometown filters out the "malice" hidden in the gossip of their neighbors. In the past, they grew up here, with the protection of their parents, never lived here truly independently, and they did not know how deep the water was.
Jiang He once told Ai Ling that he did not contact his old classmates because life was getting farther and farther away, and he said that others did not like to listen, and what others said, he could not understand. After Jiang He died in a car accident, Ai Ling returned to a lonely state of being alone, and perhaps it was this impermanent blow that gave her the idea of ending her "drifting" life.
Reality did not give young people the opportunity to romance, Ai Ling lost Jiang He, who could understand and comfort her, was not satisfied in both places, the feelings of missing were more urgent, the loved one was no longer there, but she still had to continue to survive.
The trivialities of life in the past are like the gravel of grinding feet in shoes, and the metropolis we have traveled thousands of miles to find is not home. Ai Ling, who returned to her hometown for the second time, climbed up the stone wall and lay down, trying to feel the memories of growing up here, and wanted to grasp the feelings that she was familiar with.
However, the progress of the times is a relative movement, and the reference is the memory that can never be seen again. When Ai Ling, who returned from Beijing, bumped into the slowly rotating old time, there was a huge contradiction squeezed in his heart, the farther he went, the more he saw, the more he would find that his hometown was not like before, and those he longed to see had long been embarrassed and deformed.
When the owner of the book bar immigrated, Ai Ling took over the book bar and transformed it into a dance classroom. Falling in love with her hometown again is sour, a process that is even more poignant than in Beijing, and love is once again the whole thing that supports life, where Ai Ling will find a stable person to start a family like her old classmates.
Conclusion: Returning to my hometown from a big city, I experience both a transformation and a return, and the imaginary cozy town is in front of me, but the mood is different.
Returning to every day of being loved is actually returning to your own heart, whether it is the feeling of hometown or the feeling of the city, often changing, what you need determines what kind of life and love you will pursue.
Life is like that river, some people's feelings are calm on the surface, but in fact, the dark tide is turbulent, forbearance does not mean forgetting, compromise does not mean betrayal. We end up going back to every day we are loved, because love is always there and never leaves.