Recently, Hunan TV's reality TV divorce show "Goodbye Lover" came to an end. The ending of Zhang He and Guo Keyu's idol drama has touched too many people. No one expected that this pair would eventually become the sweetest pair.
Friends who have watched the previous issues know that Zhang He and Guo Keyu have experienced a ten-year marriage, but in the end, many contradictions cannot be reconciled and cannot be well communicated, which eventually leads to divorce.
By the time they came to the show, they had been divorced for a year.
Many viewers should remember Guo Keyu's extremely resolute words when he first came: "He can't enter my world, and I don't want to go to his world." ”
Both the guests in the observation room and the audience in front of the TV set felt that this sentence was too hurtful. No way, that was the most real state of the two of them at that time.
However, I did not expect that after the catalogue of one issue after another, the two of them actually got closer and closer, and finally chose each other again. At the end, Guo Keyu took the initiative to hug the part of Zhang He, which was really too sweet.
But I would like to say that in fact, the two of them were able to get to this day, in addition to the various links carefully set up by the program team, which played a great role, more importantly, Zhang He himself dared to bravely pursue what he wanted.
When he first came, many people saw that although Guo Keyu was very distant and very rejective, Zhang He, in fact, still loved Guo Keyu and still wanted to save this relationship.
The reason why it was not expressed directly at the beginning may be that at the beginning I also felt that this possibility was very small.
But he was still unwilling, and felt that at the very least, he should understand it so that he could give an account of the past ten years.
And in the end, things can change so much, and finally really as Zhang He wished, to achieve what he wanted, I think, mainly because Zhang He did these three things correctly.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="56" >, be proactive in pursuing what you want</h1>
When he first came, it could be seen that in the feelings of Zhang He and Guo Keyu, Zhang He was in love with Guo Keyu, and even divorced, he had not yet put it down.
This can be seen in many small details.
For example, on the heart-shaped bridge, he shouted to Guo Keyu, hoping that she would be able to live to her liking in the future;
Also, although the two usually have little communication, Zhang He always silently pays attention to Guo Keyu's every move.
Even at that time, climbing on the cliff, Zhang He was afraid of heights, but he later overcame his psychological fear and challenged himself, this matter, I feel that he also had the ingredient to prove himself to Guo Keyu. Otherwise there is really no need to take such a big risk.
I don't know what kind of person Zhang He is in life, but in the matter of feelings, he is really brave and very proactive, even if the two have reached this point, he is still trying to find a way, wanting to save, wanting to recover Guo Keyu, because he still loves her.
Fortunately, this trip also gave him a lot of assists, really helped him achieve this almost impossible goal.
I sometimes think that if Zhang He is a more passive personality, then this thing will definitely not work.
So in the end you see, proactive people tend to get what they want more easily.
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The ten-year marriage between the two came to an end, and Zhang He was very unwilling, feeling that he had paid with all his heart and why he had obtained such a result.
So in the sixth issue, Zhang He picked a more suitable time to ask Guo Keyu directly, what do you think in the past ten years?
The reason why the timing is right is because the day before, while riding a tandem bike and riding a motorcycle, the relationship between the two of them had undergone some subtle changes. The two people who had not had physical contact for a long time before actually had many intimate contacts, and it was almost Guo Keyu who took the initiative.
For example, Bang Zhanghe's arm, when riding a motorcycle, he puts his arm around Zhanghe's waist and calls him "dear". Although Zhang He is considered by many to be a straight man, he still keenly captures these signals and knows that Guo Keyu has some good feelings for himself.
That's why he chose to attack that night and ask guo Keyu directly for answers.
So at that time, when the two people were unhappy because of this problem, many people felt that Zhang He should not ask this question, but I felt that this was a good start. Because at least one of the two dared to open up to each other. Even questioning and questioning.
So the next day, when the three pairs of lovers were acting in a single line, Zhang He and Guo Keyu were in the car and began real communication.
I think it's really good. When I first came, two people who had almost no communication could communicate openly like this, which was really good.
And all this is the result of Zhang He's efforts.
Didn't he ride a horse and dress himself up very handsome before, just to attract Guo Keyu's attention and make her feel even a little good about herself?
Now, his idea has come to fruition.
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Zhang He is still in love with Guo Keyu, and he also wants to save Guo Keyu this time, and I believe that many viewers can see it.
But the problem is that a lot of times, a lot of things, not what we think, you also have to have the ability to achieve that goal, or method, strategy.
On this point, I think Zhang He has done a good job.
He wanted to save Guo Keyu in his heart, but he did not express this hidden thought in his heart as soon as he came.
On the contrary, when he was on the heart-shaped bridge, he instead shouted that Guo Keyu would "live like he liked" in the future." ”
He likes Guo Keyu and wants to save this relationship, but he does not stick to it, but lets her live the life he wants, which is both a manifestation of love and a good strategy.
It is really love, will hope that the other party is happy; also, when you find that the other party does not love yourself, choose to let go instead of stubbornly clinging to it, but it will make the other party feel how deep your love for her is, so deep that as long as you are happy, he can bear to let go, to complete you, let you go to happiness.
So you see, after Zhang He shouted here at the heart-shaped bridge, Guo Keyu was really moved to cry. Because at that moment, she must have felt this man's love for her, and also felt his heart.
So even if I don't love him, I am still touched. And that's a great start.
After Zhang He came down from the bridge, Guo Keyu took the initiative to hug the other party, although it was only a friend; and began to communicate. You know how rare it is, because they have come to this show with little communication and are avoiding contact with each other, whether it is eye contact, body or language.
After that, they started to have a little bit of a simple exchange like friends.
It felt like, both of them really let go and really got along as friends.
However, from the later reversal, it can be seen that this way of getting along has saved them, so that they can contact and communicate with each other more calmly and more comfortably, without any burden.
Therefore, their contact and communication in the back are more and more, until finally, there is such an intimate physical communication as arm, waist, and shoulder.
Therefore, it can be said that the two of them really began to communicate normally, starting from the shouting of Akira The Heart-shaped Hashi.
There is also the aforementioned "questioning" Guo Keyu, and Zhang He is also very good at it. First of all, he chose a good time, after the two had a lot of intimate physical contact and communication the day before; secondly, even if the communication failed that night, when he drove alone on the road the next day, Zhang He re-communicated in a different way. Well, is it really going to be good?
So I think in the end, the two of them can end with an idol drama-like ending, largely because of Zhang He, his initiative, in the face of love, dare to be brave to chase, take the initiative, create opportunities for themselves, find ways to make each other change their impression of themselves, and even fall in love with themselves; active communication, and more able to communicate, but also grasp a sense of rhythm of doing things, when to do something, what not to do, he handles it very well.
So he succeeded.
From Zhang He, I deeply feel that in life, active people will always have more opportunities and more possibilities to win than those who react passively and passively wait.
Only truly brave, proactive people are more likely to get what they want and live the life they want.