"Every family has a difficult scripture." This phrase is something that people often say when there is a conflict in the family.
In family life, the members of the family live together for a long time, it is inevitable that contradictions will occur, contradictions can be large or small, small contradictions are the lubricant for family members to promote feelings, but the effect of large contradictions is the opposite...
The contradictions in the family are mostly around: "feelings", "money", "children's learning" and so on. These problems can be large or small, and when the conflict is small, it will promote the feelings between family members, in the couple is "bedside quarrel and bedside", and when it is large, it may break up a family.
There are many pairs of contradictions in family conflicts, and the most common contradictions are: "contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", "contradiction between son-in-law" and "contradiction between husband and wife".
Among these three pairs of contradictions, the most common and common is the "husband and wife contradiction", most of which is caused by the direct problems between husband and wife in their feelings or life.
Among them, the most often talked about is the "mother-in-law contradiction", in this contradiction, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is the most concerned, most of which is caused by the mother-in-law's bad temper and the daughter-in-law's unwillingness to tolerate it.
Among the three pairs of contradictions, the "son-in-law contradiction" is also talked about a lot, and in the "son-in-law contradiction", the relationship between the mother-in-law and the son-in-law is paid more attention to, but in the two, people pay more attention to the son-in-law.
In the "son-in-law contradiction", most of them are caused by the mother-in-law looking down on the son-in-law, or the son-in-law is not good for his daughter and makes the mother-in-law unhappy.
But in many cases, the "son-in-law contradiction" is actually not as simple as it seems...
I was impressed when I first met my mother-in-law
Li Yunfei and Wang Xiran were together when they were in college, looking for a job after graduating from their senior year, Li Yunfei went to the imperial capital, and Wang Xiran stayed in his hometown to take care of his parents in order to facilitate it.
After five years of work, Li Yunfei bought a house in the imperial capital and was ready to marry Wang Xiran, and Wang Xiran also discussed with her parents, for her future development, but also for the growth of her children in the future, she Wang Xiran decided to transfer from the current company to the imperial capital.
After the house was renovated, Li Yunfei and Wang Xiran discussed whether they should get their parents together for a meal and discuss the marriage by the way.
On the day of the meal, Li Yunfei was deeply impressed by his mother-in-law! Wang Xiran's mother was in her fifties, but she was well maintained and looked like she was only in her thirties.
Wang Xiran's mother, Li Zhaodi, was a well-known beauty in the eight townships when she was young, and finally married Wang Xiran's father, Wang Fuguijingjin.
Wang Fugui was the only college student in the village, and later became the secretary of the county magistrate after graduation, Wang Fugui was a well-known young talent in the surrounding ten miles and eight townships, and finally the village chief acted as a matchmaker, matching him with Li Zhaodi.
Since their marriage, the relationship between the two has been very stable and very good, and soon after Wang Xiran was born, Wang Fugui was promoted to the municipal government, and the family went to the city.
Li Zhaodi graduated from junior high school, and has been working as a housewife at home since marriage, taking care of Wang Fugui and Wang Xiran's life, and usually going out with neighbors and friends to do a beauty and play a card, life is very comfortable. There is no change in appearance, although he is older, but his appearance is very young.
Soon after Li Yunfei and Wang Xiran got married, the two went to the imperial capital, and every New Year's Day, they would return to their hometown and bring the two parents together for the New Year.
Li Zhaodi took good care of Li Yunfei, Li Yunfei felt that her mother-in-law was gentle and virtuous, very attractive, no less than a young girl, and at the same time he admired his father-in-law Wang Fugui and could protect his mother-in-law so well.
But after four years of marriage, Li Yunfei's chance encounter on a business trip broke his view of his mother-in-law Li Zhaodi...
Meet your mother-in-law by chance and break your inner impression
In the four years since Li Yunfei got married, he has not taken Wang Xiran out on a trip, he has been busy with work, just when he was on a business trip to a place that Wang Xiran had always wanted to go but did not have the opportunity to go, he discussed with Wang Xiran, and the two of them went to travel together.
After deciding to go together, Li Yunfei said hello to the company, he did not stay with other colleagues in the hotel booked by the company, he and Wang Xiran booked the hotel separately.
After three days of business travel, Li Yunfei finished his work, and he and his leaders took annual leave to accompany Wang Xiran on local travel. But no one expected that Wang Xiran's family would change a lot because of this business trip...
On the fifth day of their trip to Li Yunfei and Wang Xiran, they went to a famous local Bar to see a local Internet celebrity singer holding a small concert of their own, where they saw Wang Xiran's mother, Li Zhaodi, snuggled in the arms of a strange man.
Li Yunfei did not like these singing activities very much, Wang Xiran liked this singer very much, very immersed in the singer's singing, Li Yunfei went to the toilet, saw his mother-in-law and a strange man in the booth, the behavior was very intimate.
Li Yunfei was shocked at that time, thinking that he was wrong, but a closer look was his mother-in-law, his mood was very complicated, when he was ready to leave quietly, but he and Li Zhaodi looked at each other, and both of them were silent...
Li Yunfei and his mother-in-law Li Zhaodi and the strange man sat together, and the atmosphere was somewhat subtle. His mother-in-law, Li Zhaodi, put away her usual gentleness, and her face was a little ugly.
Li Yunfei asked his mother-in-law, "Who is this man?" The man himself replied, "My name is Liu Haizhi, and I am Zhao Di's boyfriend." Hearing the man say this, Li Yunfei was a little incredulous, he didn't expect his mother-in-law to be such a person...
Li Zhaodi let the man return to the hotel first, leaving only Li Yunfei and her two people, she told Li Yunfei the secret she had hidden for many years...
Since Wang Fugui was over forty years old, he resigned and started his own business, the entrepreneurial process is very busy and bitter, and Wang Fugui has little concern for Li Zhaodi.
Li Zhaodi understands her husband, but she has some resentment, she herself has no job, every day is to go to leisure and entertainment with friends, occasionally go to Qingba to drink, she and Liu Haizhi are in Qingba met...
Liu Haizhi is three years younger than Li Zhaodi, but also very well maintained, the face is very young, he is the boss of Li Zhaodi often goes to Qingba, Li Zhaodi is a regular customer, over time he has become a friend, sometimes Li Zhaodi has grievances to go to Qingba to drink, Liu Haizhi takes care of Li Zhaodi, afraid that she is drunk and harassed, over time, friendship has changed...
Li Zhaodi said that she did not want to betray her marriage, but she found out in Wang Fugui's mobile phone that Wang Fugui also had an extramarital affair, and after five or six years of tossing, the feelings between them had weakened, so she accepted Liu Haizhi.
Li Yunfei's mood is very complicated after listening, he has no way to evaluate the feelings of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, Li Yunfei looks at the time has passed a long time, the singer is at halftime, he saw Wang Xiran looking for him in the crowd, he wanted to leave.
Li Zhaodi followed Li Yunfei's gaze to see her daughter, she was a little flustered, she did not want her daughter to know these things, Li Zhaodi asked Li Yunfei: "What do you mean by taking my daughter on a business trip?" Li Yunfei explained the reason, Li Zhaodi's mood is very complicated...
Wang Xiran saw Li Yunfei and also saw her mother, she quickly came to their side, Wang Xiran was very happy to see her mother, asked her why she was here, Li Zhaodi said that she came with her girlfriends, they went to the scenic spot, she was a little tired and did not go.
Neither Li Zhaodi nor Li Yunfei did mention what had just happened, and Wang Xiran also believed it, and when he returned home, Li Zhaodi and Li Yunfei chose not to tell Wang Xiran.
Goodbye mother-in-law, things are not human
Li Yunfei thought that this matter would end when he didn't know it, but he didn't expect that in the end, something would change...
One weekend six months later, Li Yunfei received a call from her mother-in-law, Li Zhaodi, who said that she and Wang Fugui had a showdown and were now preparing to divorce.
Wang Xiran went on a business trip, Li Yunfei immediately bought a plane ticket to fly back to his hometown, Li Zhaodi and Wang Fugui had prepared a divorce agreement, Li Yunfei asked them if they had thought about how to tell Wang Xiran.
Li Zhaodi and Wang Fugui chose to keep it a secret, because Wang Xiran rarely returned to his hometown in the imperial capital, and this way was also very safe, and they did not want Wang Xiran to be sad after he knew.
After Li Zhaodi and Wang Fugui signed a divorce agreement, they each went to find their new love, and whenever Wang Xiran wanted to return to his hometown on holidays, Li Yunfei would tell Li Zhaodi and Wang Fugui in advance, and they would return home until Li Yunfei and Wang Xiran returned to the imperial capital.
In this way, this secret has been kept from Wang Xiran...
Li Yunfei inadvertently broke the extramarital affair of his respected mother-in-law, but he and his mother-in-law chose to hide it in order to protect his wife, which can be seen that he is a very good husband, and he has also learned a lesson from the feelings of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and will protect his relationship with Wang Xiran.
Mother-in-law Li Zhaodi has been paying for the family all her life, and later people have to help their husbands run and busy in middle age, hurt their husbands and complain about their husbands, and finally find out that their husbands betrayed and throw themselves into the arms of others, and she is also a woman with a changeable fate.
Someone asked Li Zhaodi if he ever hated Li Yunfei because of this incident? Li Zhaodi replied: "There is gratitude and resentment, thanking him for protecting my daughter and making her carefree; but also hating him for breaking my secret, making my marriage officially broken, and making me feel guilty about my daughter..."
In family relations, there are many variables, to maintain the harmony of the family, it is necessary for every member of the family to maintain, rather than some people blindly absorbing the efforts of others.
Unequal love is not reciprocal, and only everyone who pays will make the family complete.
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What would you do if you were Li Yunfei?
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