In the entertainment industry, Xiao S is a unique "strange thing", and she often speaks amazingly in sharp language, shocking the audience in front of the screen.
Judging from Xiao S's speeches on variety shows such as "Kangxi Lai" and online social platforms, she can be regarded as one of the most bold and open actresses.
However, if you take a good look at the other side of Xiao S's life outside of work: after marrying into a rich family, he even tolerated her husband to mess with flowers and grass everywhere without a bottom line, and even gave birth to three daughters in a row just for the so-called "inheritance of the family".
You will find that Little S is like a "wrapped little foot" wife who came out of a feudal society.
In the show, he talked about "love and freedom" and was bold and free, but in life, he preferred sons to daughters, and he was betrayed repeatedly and did not divorce.
Such a fragmented and contradictory thing is actually concentrated on Xiao S alone, and people can't help but wonder what kind of life experience made Xiao S become what he is today?
What is she trying to do to herself so harshly in life, so condescending and perfect?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="40" >01's dismal childhood</h1>
Born in June 1978 in Taipei to a wealthy merchant family, the arrival of a newborn should have been a joyous event. can
It was the birth of Little S that cast a haze over the family of four.
Little S's father opened a silver building in Taipei's Bo'ai Building, and people who do business are generally more traditional, and Xu's father is no exception. His greatest wish is to have a son who can inherit the family business.
Unfortunately, before Little S, Xu's mother had already given birth to two children, and the results were all daughters.
The eldest daughter is called Xu Xixian, as the eldest daughter's personality is quiet, to the later big and small S debuted into a star, she rarely appeared in public, so that many people do not even know the existence of the Xu family's eldest sister.
The second daughter is "Big S" Xu Xiyuan, although her appearance is not called a big beauty, she has been keen on dressing since she was a child, and her personality is also very strong and independent.
If in the face of the first two daughters, Xu's father still has a little patience, seriously plays a good father, for the little S Xu father is completely free-ranged, out of sight and not bothered.
Not only that, even if three children are girls, but Xu's father still does not want to admit his fate, and specially named Xiao S "Xu Xidi", hoping that she can recruit a younger brother for the family.
The name later became a lingering imprint on Little S, and her married life seemed to be a tragedy of repeating her name.
After a few years like this, when Little S went to elementary school, the family still could not add a little brother.
This made Xu's father very disappointed, and because of this, he looked at Xiao S more and more unpleasantly, and often vented his nameless anger on the child's Little S.
Since she was a child, her memory is that her father is addicted to gambling and does not return home at night.
Occasionally, when I go home, I quarrel with Xu's mother, and even beat xu's mother.
This made Little S's young psychology suffer greatly, she attributed the changes in the family and the cruelty of her father to herself not being a boy, and she gradually became more and more inferior and sensitive.
By the time they were in junior high school, the Xu family's situation was even worse.
The parents began to live apart, and the three daughters followed their mother Huang Chunmei to live the silver building.
If there is anything happy and happy in Little S's childhood, it must be the company of her second sister Big S.
Big S Xu Xiyuan is only two years older than her sister, and the two of them have a lot of common language, and they are both sisters and good girlfriends.
And compared to the introverted and quiet elder sister Xu Xixian, the lively and extroverted big S can drive the little S more, give her a lot of security, and cast a warm sunshine in her cloudy life.
So when Big S decided to go to art school and debut as a star in the future, Little S followed his sister's footsteps without hesitation and embarked on the road of examination art school.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="39" >02 girl group debuted as a host in the world</h1>
In 1994, both big and small S successfully studied at Huagang Art School, which was the premier "star-making factory" in Taiwan that year.
Many very famous artists also studied there, including Aya, Wu Peici and others.
Soon after entering school, Big S, who has a star dream, is eager to move, encouraging his sister Little S to set up a girl group with her to debut.
The little S who was "only sister from" naturally agreed immediately, and in the same year the two debuted under the name of "SOS".
Between 1994 and 1997, the "SOS" group released a total of six music albums, the most classic of which was "Ten Minutes of Love".
After graduating from high school, the two changed the group to "ASOS" to develop in the music scene, but the response was always mediocre.
In July 1996, Xiao S and others came to a turning point in their careers, and she and her sister were invited to participate in the "I Guess I Guess I Guess Guess" program, and hosted the same stage with Wu Zongxian.
Different from the image of inferiority and timidity in life, the little S in the variety show has sharp teeth and speaks strangely, so the show has been broadcast, and their two sisters immediately became popular.
Career has started, and love has followed.
Also in 1996, Xiao S met Huang Ziling, who was already a senior in the hosting industry, and she was immediately impressed by Huang Ziling's talent and personal charm, and the two quickly established a romantic relationship and fell in love.
On March 14, 1998, Xiao S began to serve as the main host of "Entertainment 100%", which was an important node in her transformation from a vase foil in the show to the main coffee.
While the career is in full swing, The emotional life of Little S is not going well.
Boyfriend Huang Ziling actually spread rumors of falling in love with Zeng Zhiwei's daughter Zeng Baoyi.
This scandal caught Xiao S off guard, and Huang Ziling was Xiao S's first love.
Without any love experience, she originally thought that she could grow old with Huang Ziling "once in a lifetime", who knew that Huang Ziling actually split her legs behind her back.
Xiao S angrily ran to question Huang Ziling, and Huang Ziling, who consciously did something wrong, immediately admitted the fact of cheating, and the two quickly broke up after a big fight.
For a long time after that, the relationship between Xiao S and Huang Ziling fell to a freezing point.
In her autobiography "Braces Diary" published by Xiao S, she recalled her feelings like this: "I thought things were not so serious, as long as I bowed my head first, I should still be able to reconcile... Finally I plucked up the courage to ask him, is it because of her? ”
The "she" mentioned here is Zeng Baoyi.
Compared with Xiao S's humble attitude towards this relationship, Big S is completely intolerable, often angrily scolding Huang Zi's scumbag in the show and complaining for his sister.
Fast forward to 2004, and despite the emotional failures, Saion was a blessing in disguise.
The development of the small S business is booming, and it can be said that it has gained a firm foothold in the hosting industry.
Soon, Xiao S, who was in the middle of the day, received an invitation from "Kangxi Lai".
This is an interview talk show with Cai Kangyong.
In the show, Xiao S's sharp and spicy and hilarious and funny style has made her popularity rise rapidly, becoming a very topical artist at present.
"Kangxi Lai" has been firmly occupying the top spot in the ratings of variety shows in Taiwan since its inception.
Just one year later, Xiao S won the 40th TV Golden Bell Award for Variety Show Host for "Kangxi Lai", and then was nominated for the Golden Bell Award for three consecutive years.
It can be said that without "Kangxi Lai", there would be no Small S today.
Although "Kangxi Lai" has been discontinued in 2016, to this day, some of her words in the show are still regarded as classics by everyone and are often watched.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="5" >03 unhappy married life</h1>
Because "Kangxi Lai" Xiao S gradually sat firmly in the top spot of the Taiwanese female host, while the career spring breeze was triumphant, Xiao S's love also glowed with a second spring.
In 2004, Xiao S met the second man in his life, he was Xu Yajun.
Xu Yajun is handsome in appearance and taller than his predecessor Huang Ziling.
Not only that, Xu Yajun is still a rich second generation, which completely satisfies all of Xiao S's fantasies about Prince Charming.
After dating for a while, the two made a lifelong relationship with each other. On September 9, 2005, Xiao S Xu Xidi and Xu Yajun were officially licensed to marry.
At the beginning of the marriage, the two did have a sweet period of new marriage. Often travel together, play shopping, can be described as inseparable.
Xu Yajun is also very satisfied with Xiao S, and said in an interview: "Although Xiao S on TV looks very spicy, in real life, he is very kind to the family."
However, with the birth of their eldest daughter Xu Xiwen on January 16, 2006, their marriage began to change.
Because she was unable to have a boy, the childhood nightmare that had been lingering was staged in front of Xiao S's eyes, and she began to become anxious.
On November 24, 2007, Xiao S's second daughter Xu Shaoen was born, and the second child was born and was a daughter, Xiao S was almost collapsed, and the state was not as good as before.
But her husband Xu Yajun not only did not understand his wife's anxiety, but also complained about Xiao S because he could not have a son.
Xu Yajun began to frequently appear on hot searches, and was reported by the media to go in and out of bars and nightclubs, and dance with beautiful women.
Once, he was also photographed by paparazzi after a dinner party with a mysterious woman, and went back to the hotel for the night together, until the next day before leaving.
As soon as this news was exposed, it ignited the entire network and caused countless netizens to discuss it.
Many viewers who love Xiao S are upset about him, and have accused Xu Yajun of not keeping male morality.
In the face of the menacing public opinion, the party Xiao S chose to openly take off for the old man, and she responded that "I know about this, I also know the girl, they are just ordinary friends."
The husband and a beautiful woman of the opposite sex spend a night together in the hotel after drinking, and anyone who reads Xiao S's explanation will feel very far-fetched.
But Little S was so stoic that he broke his teeth and swallowed into his stomach.
However, not long after the hotel turmoil, in 2012, Xu Yajun was again photographed in a nightclub after getting drunk, and returning home for the night with another woman with heavy makeup.
This intensified behavior completely confirmed Xu Yajun's derailment.
Just when netizens thought that this time Xiao S should be angry to the point of decisive divorce, Xiao S responded very plainly that her husband just likes to greet friends to play.
On April 5, 2012, Xiao S's third daughter, Xu Xi'en, was born, and all three children were daughters.
This made Xu Yajun's family's attitude towards Xiao S worse and worse.
This not only did not arouse Xiao S's rebellious psychology, but also made her deeper and deeper by the PUA, and became more and more indulgent to Xu Yajun's various behaviors.
On April 3, 2013, Xu Yajun was involved in the famous Sanya "Haitian Feast" incident at that time.
Of course, this time, Xiao S still chose to forgive.
What surprised everyone even more was that Xiao S, who had been betrayed by Xu Yajun and did not divorce, actually made up for the wedding that had not been held before with her husband on March 25, 2016.
Such an amazing behavior, I am afraid that only Xiao S has done it.
In the face of a husband who keeps cheating, and can also wear a wedding dress to pretend to be the happiest bride at the wedding, I have to say that Little S is really cruel to himself.
04 The recurrence of childhood nightmares - domestic violence by her husband
After the wedding ceremony, the relationship between Xiao S and her husband has improved, but it is still a symptom rather than a cure.
When the bakery invested by Xu Yajun was caught in a scandal because of the addition of artificial flavors, Xiao S helped the family apologize everywhere, and even pulled his sister Big S to announce his pregnancy to reduce the heat of the bakery storm.
When Xiao S was turning the tide, what was Xu Yajun doing?
He actually lit up the second scumbag skill after cheating - domestic violence.
In the program of "Kangxi Lai", a careful audience found that under the hair of Xiao S, there was a large shocking bruise at the corner of his eye.
Faced with the fact of domestic violence, Xiao S chose to shield Xu Yajun again.
I don't admit to being abused by the family, saying that I just walked and accidentally got hit.
Then this statement was exposed in her chat with Wu Qilong.
At that time, shortly after Wu Qilong and Liu Shishi got married, Wu Qilong attended the variety show as a guest.
The host is Xiao S, and when it comes to married life, Wu Qilong constantly praises Liu Shishi.
As a result, Xiao S suddenly asked, "After two years, when you read the poems again, will you want to beat her?" ”
Wu Qilong may have found this question too funny, so he helplessly asked Xiao S, "Then you have been married for so long, have you ever been beaten?" ”
Little S jokingly replied, "Only twice!" ”
It seems unintentional, but who can say that this is not The heart of Little S.
After this show, a small S live broadcast was joking with netizens, saying that the back multiplication recipe table can cure insomnia.
I also let the children memorize the multiplication recipe table together, which was originally a live broadcast of a very happy joke.
Suddenly, from the depths of the room came a burst of Xu Yajun's scolding, "Can you stop a little?"
Not only did it scare the audience watching the live broadcast, but also made Xiao S very embarrassed, and could only explain that "he was joking", so he panicked and turned off the live broadcast.
And similar live broadcast accidents are only once, before Xiao S and his daughter appeared together in the makeup live broadcast for everyone to see.
While putting on her makeup, she asked her daughter, "Is Mom beautiful?" ”。
Who knew that the well-behaved daughter held out her small hand to touch Xiao S's face and asked painfully, "Here was broken by Daddy, does Mom still hurt?" ”，
A child's words are always the most innocent and true.
This time, Xiao S quickly turned off the live broadcast in a panic, pretending not to see the questions of a group of netizens.
At this point, many aspects of the evidence show that this little S was abused by Xu Yajun is an established fact.
Anyway, Xiao S is really a "Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle", and Ninjutsu is not generally powerful.
Whether it was Xu Yajun's cheating or domestic violence, she suffered silently.
In front of the camera, he still laughed and scolded, and looked like he had a good relationship with her husband.
05 The story behind big S endures and endures again
In fact, the surface of the life of Xiao S is still very bright and beautiful, the husband is still a rich second generation with a high appearance, and the father-in-law is also a famous investor.
Usually live in a mansion of more than 400,000 yuan per square meter, travel luxury cars, and social circles are also rich and famous.
Such a life has given Xiao S a great sense of pride, Xiao S once said that "the father-in-law is the person he admires most in his life, because he is very good at investing"
From here it is enough to see the profound impact that the husband's family has brought to Little S.
On the other hand, her parents' failed marriage was a nightmare in her life.
Xu's mother ended in divorce because she gave birth to three daughters in a row, and Xiao S has now given birth to three children who are girls.
If Little S also chose to divorce like his mother, it would not be a repetition of fate.
The inferior and stubborn little S naturally can't allow his proudest marriage to be broken, so we see such a contradictory little S.
Recently, Xiao S has almost lost all endorsements because of the "two-faced person" speech, and his career can be said to have entered a trough.
I don't know if in such a low valley, will Little S wake up and examine this stormy marriage from a new perspective?
Look forward to one day to see Xiao S finally out of the shadow of her childhood, break the shackles of psychology, truly live out of herself, and live as if she were free and independent on the screen!