Author: Chen Zhuanli
(A set of movie version of Xiang Lin Sister-in-law pictures)
After reading this topic, some people will say, where will a woman in the twenty-first century have the tragic fate of Xiang Lin's sister-in-law? Is there a need for reflection?
<h1>(1) In the face of the heavy blows of life, must today's women be stronger than Xianglin sister-in-law? </h1>
What the original name of Xianglin sister-in-law is unknown, because she was sold to Xianglin as a child bride since childhood, so people called her Xianglin sister-in-law. However, soon after the marriage, Xianglin died of illness, and her mother-in-law was not a few years older than her, but she was unusually shrewd and scheming, where was Xianglin's sister-in-law's opponent? Even though Xiang Lin's sister-in-law was busy working all day long, her mother-in-law still married her daughter-in-law for her young son and sold her to He Laoliu in the deep mountains and wild passes.
He Lao Liu is excellent, honest and responsible, and willing to work hard, and the days are not bad. Soon after the marriage, giving birth to a son Ah Mao, Xianglin sister-in-law gradually eased from the previous trepidation, and the person also became white and fat. Just when Xiang Lin's sister-in-law was living a life with a taste, misfortune came again, and He Laoliu died of typhoid fever.
After two consecutive deaths of her husband, Xianglin's sister-in-law cried loudly and asked the heavens, why did fate treat her so thinly? She is lonely and helpless, no one shares her pain, how can she continue the life of an orphan and widow? Wipe away the tears, clench her teeth, and look at the young Ah Mao, she wants to live. She has thick hands and feet, some have strength, and she wants to raise Ah Mao to grow up. Ah Mao is the pillar of Xianglin's sister-in-law's life, the child has to eat and drink, wear and wear, and keep working to support him, and the work makes Xianglin sister-in-law have no time to immerse herself in sadness.
When reading "Blessings", I thought that if Ah Mao had not died, Xiang Lin's sister-in-law would not have been in a trance, annoying people, and died tragically on the night of blessings. However, the truth is that shortly after He Laoliu's death, Ah Mao was taken away and eaten by wolves...
A woman of about forty years old, who has died two husbands in a row, and has died her only child, such a heavy blow, put on anyone, is not all gray, life is loveless, and the heart of death is gone. However, the bitter and illiterate Xiang Lin sister-in-law did not take this step.
I thought of sanmao, my favorite Taiwanese female writer in my youth. That time in the Sahara Desert was the happiest time in Sanmao's life, because it was given by Jose, and she wanted her home the most. Jose is not her first love, but she understands her best, her unruliness, her escape, her stubbornness, her whimsy, her smoking, her drinking... All the good and bad, Jose can tolerate. For her sake, Jose lived in the Sahara Desert. If, without that accident, I think, Sanmao will definitely go to more places and write more words, and her life will be more legendary. However, Jose, as a sailor, drowned in the sea at a young age...
Jose died, and Sanmao never recovered, and although she had parents, siblings, and readers who loved her, she tried to get out of that nightmare. Many years have passed, and she is still stuck in the past... There was a little problem with her body, but a big problem with her spirit, and she was hanged with stockings during her hospitalization...
I often think that today's women, especially intellectual women, have a much better living environment than Xianglin's sister-in-law, most of them have a plan, eat and drink without worry, have the double care of their parents, the love and protection of relatives and friends, but because of a period or two of love injuries on the road of no return. For example, writer Sanmao, movie star Weng Meiling, singer Reiko, Chen Lin... Their fall is a loss to the literary and artistic circles, which makes people feel sad, and their departure makes the white-haired parents send the black-haired people.
In contrast, Xiang Lin is strong. After encountering great misfortune, she once again stepped into Lu Sijia, wanting to communicate with others through complaints, through labor, be accepted by others, integrate into the circle of the public, and start a new life. I admire this.
<h1>(2) After a heavy injury, how to heal the injury and get out of the trough of life? </h1>
When Xiang Lin walked into Lu Si's house for the second time, she was already seen as a broom star to kill her husbands. The reason why Lu Si accepted her was because Xiang Lin's sister-in-law was particularly capable when she entered the Lu family for the first time, and men could not compare.
Sister-in-law Xiang Lin came this time, and she was no longer the woman who only worked and did not sting. She is slow-moving, absent-minded, and often forgetful. She only thought of her Ah Mao in her heart, and everyone told the story of Ah Mao being eaten by wolves. At first, the woman listened to the tears, the man could not bear to listen to leave, and later, every day, everyone told, people listened to the story of Xiang lin sister-in-law tired of listening, had no interest in listening, and then did not feel sad. Instead, he paid attention to the scar on her head and asked her, since he didn't start from He Laoliu and touched a big hole in his head, why did he have Ah Mao later? Xiang Lin said that the old sixth strength is great... People laughed, and the tragic story of Xiang Lin's sister-in-law could no longer attract everyone's interest, so people began to tease her to say the most private things, as a joke after tea and dinner.
Sister-in-law Xianglin wants to make a difference, and she wants to be able to offer blessings on the day of blessing as in the past. In order to eliminate sins and offer blessings, she bought a threshold with her own wages to donate... However, the people of the Lu Si family finally thought that she was unlucky, and on the day of the blessing, she could not intervene, could not integrate into the small group, completely desperate, and became more and more stupid.
After all, Lu Si did not remember her diligence and ability, drove her out of the house, and became a beggar from then on... At the end of the year, in the midst of hunger and cold, she died on the night of blessings that were snowing...
When reading "Blessings", while I hated the indifference and indifference of the people around me to Xianglin Sister-in-law, causing her tragic death, I was angry at Xianglin's sister-in-law's long-windedness and ignorance, and I couldn't see the impatience and ridicule of everyone.
Many times, a woman's trauma is always her own, and it is lucky to meet friends who can empathize with them, complain, get comfort, come up with an idea, and ease emotions. Don't complain, find a way to solve it yourself. Please don't see people and say, make everyone known, become the talking point of others, and the melon-eating masses will always have it. Female friends, are you right?
It is not that the people's hearts are not ancient in the era of Xianglin Sister-in-law, and now, which person has little pressure to survive? Who doesn't have an emotional confusion? Whose family can go well? Isn't it as disgusting as Xiang Lin's sister-in-law to talk about things, to talk about things to people, to spend other people's time, to annoy others?
Many times, after a serious injury, the heart is sad and difficult to heal, and no one can save himself, only self-help. You can find a no-man's corner, sing a song, let the tears flow; you can indulge once one night and buy a drunk; you can also take out a pen; write your confusion and question your questions in one stroke... And whenever I encounter disasters, I read and listen to the more miserable experiences of those famous people, to read philosophical articles, to fill myself with strength, to find a way to solve problems rationally, and to give myself a good reason to live.
When you meet a scumbag, you can't deny that time has no good boys; a career failure can't be a reason to give up life; that is, all your relatives are gone from you, and the world is only left with a lonely you, you also have to find a reason to live, you have to let life have a meaning of existence!
Today's women, who have received cultural education, stand on a high place, look at the farthest scenery, have the broadest mind, the strongest heart. Life is only once, incomparably precious, how can you give up a life that cannot come again for one or two people, one or two loves?
May the female compatriots in the world continue to update their knowledge, update their concepts, make their hearts strong, live a wonderful life, and do not let tragedies be staged again!
【About the author】Chen Zhuanli, pen name ink dyeing guyun, teacher of Pucheng Xingzhen Junior High School in Shaanxi Province, loves travel and writing. He is the author of the novel "A Generation of Red Faces".
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