The world is so big, it is really no coincidence that there is no book.
Last weekend, the well-known bald host Meng Fei came to an "uninvited guest" on the blind date program hosted by Jiangsu Satellite TV.
This guest is Bu Fengbo, a famous Liaoning grandmaster in the chess world. His daughter Bu Tianyi went on a blind date show to find a mate, and he, as a "father-in-law-to-be", also came to check.
But But But the trip has another difficult task - he wants to save the "heart" of his ex-wife who has been divorced for 16 years.
The program team invited him, his ex-wife, and his daughter, a "family of three", to the stage. Let them face the camera and complete an alternative "reunion".
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Bu Fengbo participated in his daughter's blind date program, mainly to apologize.
This chess grandmaster has accumulated a very prominent reputation in the chess industry. Even the chess giant Hu Ronghua once said with praise: "Bu Fengbo is the first master of Liaoning." ”
He has represented the Chinese team and won the Asian chess tournament. In 1998, he was named "Chinese Chess Grandmaster".
However, Bu Fengbo was "proud of the chess field and frustrated in the love field", 16 years ago, he divorced zhishu Dali's ex-wife, and since then he and his wife and daughter have been separated.
In a "confession letter" to his ex-wife, he said, "I didn't care about anything else for the sake of chess."
He used a long and lengthy paragraph to describe his guilt and apologies, but these affectionate comparison sentences actually revealed the hidden feelings that were not revealed:
Like many people who have been addicted to chess for many years, they have even abandoned love, affection and family for the sake of chess.
How many jianghu chess players and professional chess players have been running around in the north and south of the world, and have long forgotten their families and lovers;
They conquered the xiangqi rivers and lakes and were handy in the art of chess, but they often treated their families like "Da Yu zhi shui" and "three times over the door without entering", immersed in the Chu River han world, they could not extricate themselves, and they were unwilling to allocate more energy and thoughts to their relatives.
They are very devout for "art" and yearn for "hobbies", but they are not willing to expend energy on family chores- this kind of value that dooms them to tragedy in married and family life.
Bu Fengbo's daughter is only in her 20s, and he has been divorced from his ex-wife for 16 years — that is, in the half of her growth, he has not given her a complete home. It is conceivable that this once fragmented family has encountered setbacks and tribulations.
Bu Fengbo's re-confession on the TV show, re-marriage proposal, and the marriage proposal ceremony on one knee, full of fairy tales and romance, did earn enough tears from TV viewers, this beautiful story of "breaking the mirror and reuniting" is indeed gratifying - but life cannot be maintained only by a two-game romance, if Bu Fengbo still fails to deal with the relationship between chess and family in the years to come, then this tearful "apology", this sincere "love letter" It's just a blank check.
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In fact, it is not uncommon for professional chess players and jianghu chess players who are similar to Bu Fengbo's encounters, family relations and marriage relationships. These chess players who have a certain degree of achievement in chess skills are sometimes "addicted to chess" as difficult to extricate themselves from. Although playing chess itself is not a "bad hobby", if it is extremely obsessive, so that it affects normal life, then this hobby of "puzzle brain" has become a bad habit.
Professional chess players and jianghu chess players, whether it is due to the needs of the game or the reality of earning "color chess fees" all over the country, it is difficult for them to avoid the state of life without a fixed place. In addition, the poor economic conditions of chess players often become the dilemma of their marriage and family life. "No money" - "play chess to make money" - "run away from home" such a vicious circle, prompting many chess players to end up farther and farther away from home.
Someone analyzed the psychology of chess players in this way: "In fact, the reason why these chess masters and jianghu chess players are particularly addicted to chess, so that they are deaf to other things or even indifferent to other things, I think there are mainly several reasons: First, chess players need to find a kind of 'victorious' vanity from the chess world, so as to escape from reality, anesthetize themselves with a sense of dreaminess and success, so as to cover up the misfortune of life; second, in the chess world, the results and footwork are generally controllable, as long as the concept is tight enough. Basically, it can lead the situation to the way you want it to be; but the real world is not like this, it is always full of uncontrollable, people always tend to do things that can be 'controlled'; third, chess is the main source of income for chess players, and when a thing is linked to making a living, it becomes a professional life that he cannot give up; but when there is a conflict between career and family, they are caught in a dilemma. ”
In the real world, women who are as generous and reasonable as Bu Fengbo's ex-wife, and have been waiting for her ex-husband to turn back, have not reorganized the family, and are willing to be generous and considerate of her ex-husband's faults, can be said to be rare. This touching story of "after divorce 16, rescuing the family with a confession letter" really needs too many fortuitous conditions to achieve.
Those "masters" and "masters" who have failed their families, wives and children, I hope that you will calm down and think about it, wandering your life for the sake of "chess art", discarding the family responsibilities that should be borne for the sake of "chess" and "freedom", is it really the work of the big husband? When you are satisfied with the joy of the game, have you ever thought about the sweat and tears of your family?
In our lives, we are always doing multiple choice questions. Between hobbies and responsibilities, interests and reality, we always have to try to find an ideal balance.
Chess is about "harmony is precious", and the family also pays attention to "home and everything"--please be like Bu Fengbo, find a "harmony chess" for your home.