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What does the life of a full-time wife look like? Everyone is full of fantasies about the life of a full-time wife, and it is generally felt that the full-time wife is playing with her children at home, going out shopping to do beauty when she has time, no need to worry about life, no need to participate in workplace competition, and no need to be windy, sunny and rainy.
There are many such full-time wives in the entertainment industry, and some of them are originally very popular actors, but after getting married, they are hidden and work as full-time wives at home. The life of the full-time wives they show is all glamorous, fragrant cars and wine, living in luxury houses, carrying brand-name bags, playing everywhere, compared with those stars who are still working the front line, life is not too moist.
Li Nian is also one of them, she played the role of seaweed in "Snail Residence" after a hit, at that time it was the peak of her career, but after this chose to marry, and then retired, at home as a full-time wife, high-profile sharing of The Life of Kuota.
However, what she shared in Weibo is only the tip of the iceberg, and does not fully present the full appearance of a full-time wife. Recently, her TV series "I Really Love You" is being broadcast, and she plays a full-time wife in the play, Yuya.
Yuya has a husband who is very good at making money, can bring her a very good life, after marriage she will be at home to teach her children, unlike other full-time wives, she does not feel anxious because of her identity, nor worry about losing herself, but very satisfied with the status quo, optimistic and cheerful every day, take care of children and husbands, have time to practice yoga, keep in shape.
The Yuya in the play is more like a supplement to Li Nian's life as a kotai, they live like fairies, do not need to worry about their livelihood, just be a happy full-time wife.
She was very happy with her knowledge and felt that she had a husband who loved her very much and had lovely children, and all that was enough.
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But such a happy life as a full-time wife, with the bankruptcy of her husband's company, was finally broken.
When she was excited to imagine the arrival of the second child with her husband, imagining a better life in the future, her husband's company was facing a huge crisis, he did not want this child, but he could not disguise, and almost gave her fetal medicine privately.
When she heard her husband say that he didn't want a second child at all, and his pressure was great, she realized that she was just living in fantasy, and the so-called happiness was just her own silly happiness.
Yes, people who don't know, really think that full-time wife is a very happy profession, but even like Yuya, the real experience of happiness and happiness from the heart is because there is a husband behind her to bear the burden of life, so that she can get such an easy and happy life.
Her years are quiet, her non-cannibal fireworks, are all supported by her husband, she says that it doesn't matter if she has more money and less money, but she has never thought about what life without money looks like. Without money, she will be overwhelmed by the chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea in her life, and without money, she will quarrel with her husband for money.
One of the characters in the play who contrasts with her is Ben's mother, she is also a full-time wife, the second child was just born, originally wanted to live in the confinement center, you can avoid the depressed life of a child, did not expect to live in the confinement center, because of the existence of the mother-in-law, still angry to depression.
Through the two contrasts, we can see that Yuya's life is not so realistic, because most people are actually ordinary people, living a life like Ben Ben's mother, and even worse than Ben Ben's mother, and even the confinement center can't afford to live. They only have a chicken feather in their lives, and they have to fight with their mother-in-law.
The life of the full-time wife that we fantasize about often only appears in very wealthy families, they have the conditions to hire a nanny, a sister-in-law, and leave the tedious housework to others to do, so that they can live the life of a full-time wife who goes shopping and doing beauty.
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Li Nian's full-time wife life is completely in line with everyone's beautiful fantasies, no worries about food and clothing, travel, wear famous brands, and do not have to worry about money. Although there are also scenes after giving birth, it feels more like it is just playing.
Now that she has made a comeback and returned to the entertainment industry, "All Is Well" has once again brought her into the audience's attention. Before that, she suffered a lot.
Is the life of a full-time wife really good? In fact, we don't have to refer to the glamorous looks in the TV series, that is, the beautified full-time mother, the real full-time mother is far more bitter than this.
Yuya in the play "I Really Love You", her so-called happiness, is her self-righteous happiness, she has no idea what her husband is going through while enjoying life, does not know that her husband's company is facing bankruptcy, does not know that her life is about to be lost.
Maybe she was thinking in her heart, it's a big deal to start over, but can she live a life of lower quality than this? She can't, habits are difficult to change, if you really let her do housework, it is estimated that within a few days it will go crazy.
Stay-at-home mothers are far less relaxed, so simple, so comfortable than we think, even if you marry a husband who can give you a happy life, such a life is also a huge risk.
From the moment you choose to become a full-time wife, your life means that only your husband and children are left, the work experience and ability you have accumulated will disappear year by year, your former connections will slowly drift away from you, you and your friends will gradually drift apart, and your world will become smaller and smaller.
Like Yuya, her life seems to be very exciting, but also very rich, but in fact, her life circle is very, very small, although she often goes to practice yoga and meet new friends, but it is limited to knowing, and her real friends who have been playing well are Xiao Yan.
Because of this, she can't see the full-time mothers except herself, what they are going through, don't know that other mothers are struggling to return to the workplace, and don't know how much working mothers look down on full-time mothers. She didn't know any of this.
She was only immersed in the fantasy that she was living happily, thinking that the stay-at-home mothers all over the world were as happy as she was, and she was only too well protected to live so simple, so happy.
In reality, Li Nian has broken out of the siege from the full-time wife and returned to the workplace to become a working mother. And the elegance in the play, we believe her view of the full-time wife, is also changing, and we will wait and see what she will do in the future.
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Illustration in the text | Stills from "I Really Love You"