#头条创作挑战赛#
Once, while browsing a video, I came across a scene that touched people's hearts deeply. A delivery rider, in order to implore customers to be merciful and avoid giving bad reviews, did not hesitate to kneel on the ground and kowtow frequently, which is a sad sight.
This iron-clad man, in the face of possible bad reviews, chose to plead for forgiveness in the most humble way, which may seem disgraceful to outsiders, but who can really appreciate the bitterness?
How could he not know the weight of dignity, but the pressure of fines associated with the bad reviews is an unbearable weight in his life for him.
In this real world, in order to get a better life and earn more income, sometimes you have to temporarily put down your so-called face and make compromises in life. This scene is undoubtedly a profound portrayal of the hardships and helplessness of life.
死要面子,撑坏里子
There is a story circulating on the Internet:
Xiaomeng, born in an ordinary family, as the eldest daughter, shoulders the responsibility of taking care of her younger siblings. Her father's early death made her mature early, and in the face of the needs of the family, she always responded with her mouth, never had half a sentence, and the word "no" of rejection seemed to disappear from her dictionary.
Time flies, and the younger siblings have entered the college campus one after another, but their dependence on this selfless eldest sister has not diminished, and no matter how big or small the matter, they still habitually ask Xiaomeng for help.
At that time, Xiaomeng was studying for a graduate degree and did not have much money, but whenever she heard the familiar sentence "Sister, I have no money", she would always lend a hand without hesitation, even if she could only live with steamed buns with cold water, she had to pretend to be strong and say: "Don't worry, sister's money is still enough." ”
Not only that, Xiaomeng is also known for his helpful image in the circle of friends. One weekend, despite being unwell and suffering from a cold, a friend invited her for a walk in the morning, and a classmate asked her to go shopping in the afternoon.
Although she was exhausted, she endured the pain in order to make everyone happy. In the end, this day's rush left Xiaomeng physically and mentally exhausted.
As Ms. Yishu said, "Face is an existence that is difficult to give up and has no real value, and the more you value it, the more heavy it becomes, even enough to restrain your pace and hinder your progress." Xiaomeng is too concerned about face, and never refuses other people's requests, so that his life has fallen into chaos.
In fact, face is intangible and substantial, and blindly maintaining it will only make you suffer more. Only by letting go at the right time can we truly protect ourselves and return life to its proper order and harmony.
With the lining, there is face
In the initial stage of Vantone Group, its founder Feng Lun also encountered many difficulties. He had to work hard to get his business license right, but then the grim reality that the funding chain was about to break forced the team members to go their separate ways to raise funds.
In order to solve this urgent need, Feng Lun resolutely put down his body and tried his best to seek a loan of 200,000 yuan.
He invited his guarantor to dinner as a sign of sincerity, but he was unable to arrange a high-end restaurant due to lack of money, so he had to set up a banquet in his 14-square-meter cottage.
Unexpectedly, the guarantor fell asleep in bed after the meal due to physical discomfort. Feng Lun and his wife could only sit quietly on the sofa, holding their breath until more than one o'clock in the morning.
When the guarantor woke up, the elevator had stopped running, and Feng Lun personally accompanied the other party down the 15 stairs on foot, and escorted him all the way to the hotel one kilometer away to check in.
When checking in, Feng Lun plucked up the courage to plead: "Please help me pay the room fee first, and I will definitely return the full amount when I check out." He then set out on his way home again, and when he returned home, it was nearly four o'clock in the morning.
Facing his tired wife, Feng Lun's heart was full of sorrow, but she asked distressedly: "Why do you want to beg for someone so lowly?" ”
Feng Lun knows that only by borrowing this money can the company regain its vitality, and only by building the company's "lining" can he truly win the respect and "face" of the outside world.
As the classic line in the movie "The Grandmaster" says: "Only a solid lining can win real face." "The ethereal face is like a castle in the air, which will be overturned when a gust of wind blows; And only by first building a solid inner foundation will the face be relied on, and then as stable as a rock.
Only by putting down your children can you live a good life
Among the many shining faces in the Hong Kong entertainment industry, there is an actor named Mok Ka Gan, who has won the hearts of the people with his outstanding roles in many popular Hong Kong dramas, such as "The Storm of the Heart" and "Forensic Pioneer" series.
However, as the Hong Kong film and television industry has entered a low period, many actors have fallen into the predicament of having no dramas to film. Mo Jiagan did not sit still, but actively transformed, using his business wisdom to open six optical stores, and once became a successful entrepreneur, life seemed to be smooth sailing, rich and comfortable.
However, the world is unpredictable, the epidemic three years ago was like a storm, hitting the real economy hard, Mo Jiagan's optical store business was not spared, and the physical store suffered a serious blow.
In the autumn of 2020, a news broke that was eye-catching, this familiar face on the screen in the past, Mo Jiagan, actually put down his body and devoted himself to the handling industry, working with ordinary workers and eating simple box lunches.
In the face of doubts and even doubts from the outside world, he responded calmly: "As long as it is a job that makes a living from labor, why can't I do it?" What reason do I have to think very highly of myself? This simple answer demonstrates his unique understanding of the dignity of his profession.
Mok's attitude is representative of the sentiments of many Hong Kong actors, who see acting as a profession rather than a status tag. If you blindly cling to vanity, I am afraid that it will be difficult to maintain the food and clothing of life.
Therefore, in the face of the oppression of real life, he chose to generously unload his halo, gladly accept the hardships brought by manual labor, and exchange for a daily reward of 900 Hong Kong dollars through hard sweat, which is meager but enough for him to avoid embarrassment in life.
As the philosopher Santayana put it, "Dignity does not come from what we do, but from whether we understand and respect the value of every job." ”
Whether it's tasting delicacies from the mountains and seas or coarse tea and light rice, whether enjoying the air conditioning in a skyscraper or sweating under the scorching sun, the key is to adapt to and accept various living conditions and maintain love and respect for life.
In Mo Jiagan's story, we see a real microcosm of life: dignity and face do not depend on external identity or environment, but on inner tenacity and open-mindedness.
When life needs to temporarily let go of the so-called face, then you might as well be brave to embrace every fulfilling day, because being able to survive the ups and downs of life is the greatest dignity.
Mr. Yang Jiang once profoundly elaborated: "We have eagerly awaited the recognition of the outside world in the passage of time, and it is not until the precipitation of the years that we realize that the essence of the world is actually a reflection of the individual's heart, and it is not too much involved in the evaluation of others." ”
Our persistent pursuit of "face" often stems from lingering in the world woven by the eyes of others for a long time. Life is like a white horse, why bother to indulge in the chaos and hustle and bustle of the outside world, and let the soul be bound by it?
In fact, only when we have the courage to break free from the shackles of face and bravely face our true selves can we truly step into the life track that we yearn for in our hearts and enjoy our own uniqueness and freedom.