People of every era face different challenges and enjoy all kinds of fun. Professionals have studied that the long-term agrarian civilization and lack of faith have made our yearning for "inheritance" more significant.
In the face of the situation of "no descendants", not only those elders who are more important in traditional concepts, but also many young people who have received higher education may also attach great importance to whether they can have offspring.
However, based on the consideration of practical ability and life pressure, most of this generation believes that one-child families are more in line with the needs of the public. Even in the context of openness, without sufficient economic conditions and a harmonious family atmosphere, it is not an easy decision to have another child.
However, there still seems to be a part of the population that is keen on childbearing. On the Internet, the author saw a woman who was nearly 50 years old, and although her son had graduated from college, she chose to be a mother again. But does old age really bring happiness?
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Let's take a young man in Guangxi as an example. In the eyes of many old people, having a child at this age may be considered a great move to "sing and cry". But the price paid for having a baby is enormous, especially the irreversible damage to the female body. Pregnancy at an advanced age is more special, with more health risks and physical function problems, increasing the risk of accidents and recovery.
Parents who choose to have children again at an advanced age may feel happy and proud, and even feel moved by their "feat". However, looking at it from another angle, the child's perspective may be completely different.
Describe this young boy who, despite his young age, lacks the liveliness and desire for beauty of his peers. He already felt the emotion of "no hope", and thought that his life seemed to be destined from birth to turn around.
He dropped out of school and did not finish junior high school, and his family's finances could not support him to pursue further education. In short, he has neither academic qualifications nor relevant skills; At the same time, due to insufficient diet, the body is very thin and cannot withstand the pressure of heavy physical labor.
However, is it all because he himself is "not trying hard enough"? In fact, the boy's father can almost be described as "destitute" and barely had a family until he was nearly fifty years old.
Perhaps "staying behind" is the pursuit of many Chinese men, even if their lives are already very difficult; Even they know that their children will have to suffer with them. From a father's point of view, being able to have children may be satisfying: he finally has a family.
However, the boy is full of inferiority complex from an early age and has experienced hardships and hardships, which makes it difficult for him to feel pleasure during the flowering season. Now, he's at an age where he needs to focus on his career, have the right resources, and have a new home and objects like his peers.
However, his parents did not give him a good education, nor did he develop a strong body, let alone provide him with a new house. He can only work on the assembly line of the factory, and occasionally has to pick up scrap. Since parents do not have stable jobs, the issue of providing for the elderly has also become a huge burden.
The boy admitted that if he could choose, he would not want to be born in such a family. Poor and confused, not only does he lack the support of his family, but his parents are old, which also means that he has to take on the responsibility of caring for the elderly in advance at the age when he needs the most struggle and support.
The parents hid that their daughter gave birth to a second child, but the girl chose to "lie flat" and resist.
Compared to those who are worried about the disconnection of the family, the other situation is more puzzling. is that the children are over 20 years old, and the parents are quietly having another child behind their backs. A female student had just graduated and had a barely stable job.
However, the mother did not dare to show her after giving birth to her younger brother. Adults should understand the implications behind this. If this is a good thing that "everyone is happy", why should parents deliberately hide it?
Even if the eldest no longer needs to pay tuition fees after graduation and is able to support himself, for graduates from ordinary families, survival itself requires hard work. The status of the family of origin can also have a serious impact on their choice of marriage.
Unless it's a very wealthy family, how many people can take it for granted that a baby pops up in their home? The girl has been dating her boyfriend for a few years, and after learning the news, she had no choice but to break up.
The girl's parents thought that their daughter should understand them, and even asked her to take money out of her salary every month to buy milk powder for her younger brother. They believe that they are old and powerless, and that their daughter's ability to help take care of her younger brother is a reward for their "nurturing grace".
This kind of logic is really difficult to call responsible parents. The girl is no longer obedient, and she thinks that her parents have not considered her pressure and situation at all. So she chose to "lie flat", quit her job, no longer be a good daughter who "reports good news but not bad news", and will no longer work overtime until she has no time to eat dinner for some meager remuneration. I simply went back to my parents' house and stayed in bed all day so that they could experience for themselves what it was to worry about their daughters.
【Topic】Do you think this situation is happiness to "grow old and have children"?