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(Note: This article is purely fictional, if you have similar experiences, it is purely coincidental, please read it sensibly)
During the May Day holiday, my sister and I discussed going back to our hometown to see our parents, and by the way, we went to see my uncles and aunts, which was also polite.
On the afternoon when I first arrived home, my sister and I packed our bags, took our respective children, and went to my uncle and aunt's house with gifts.
I smiled and said to my father, my second uncle and third uncle have a pension of several thousand, and they are still hungry for your meat.
My father patted me on the head and said, "Call me, you can just call, it's their business whether they come or not."
In the spirit of completing my father's task, I just talked to the second uncle and the third uncle, and before I could say the next sentence, they hurriedly said, go, go, your father finally invited us to have a meal, can we not go, you two sisters go first, and your aunt and I will change clothes and come.
On the way back, my little sister jokingly told me that it seems that our second and third uncles really lack a mouthful of meat from their father, and we both laughed out loud after speaking.
At dinner in the evening, my father and mother cooked more than a dozen dishes, and as far as the eye could see, almost none of them were vegan, and almost every dish had meat.
After the second uncle saw it, he joked to his father, eldest brother, have you made a fortune or won the lottery, why did you suddenly remember to call us to eat today and get so much meat.
During the meal, my sister and I were not honest, always running around the dinner table, I couldn't bear to reprimand my son twice, and my father quickly hugged his son in distress, and complained to me a few times.
The third uncle looked at this little episode and said a sentence without beginning or end, he said, I really envy you, big brother, children and grandchildren are thinking about you, I will come back to see you when I have time, you are the happiest one among the three of our brothers.
When the younger sister heard this, she said to the third uncle, how can my father be an old farmer with you and the second uncle, your monthly pension is several thousand, you don't have to worry about eating and drinking, don't make fun of my father, he should complain to us again in a while.
After the little sister finished speaking, the second uncle took over the conversation and told us, don't look at our pension, in fact, life is not as easy as your father.
The second uncle sighed and continued, the number of reunions like your family is not as many as your family's combined!
Looking at the second uncle's serious face, I can't help but ponder this question, just like most people's thinking, they think that if they have more pension, they will be happy when they get old, but is this really the case?
Not to mention others, let's take my father and three brothers as an example, the second uncle is a retired employee of the company, with a pension of more than 4,000 yuan a month, and the third uncle also eats public food, with a pension of less than 5,000 yuan a month, only my father has been a farmer all his life and has no pension.
Among the three brothers, the third uncle has the highest pension, but it doesn't seem to be as happy as we imagined.
The third uncle's family has two children, a son and a daughter, the cousin is the same age as my younger sister, and the cousin is two years younger.
Because of the patriarchal reasons of the third uncle and the third aunt, the relationship between the cousin and the cousin has not been good since childhood, although they are now married and have children, but every time they see each other, it is like seeing an enemy.
My cousin didn't study for a few years, so I went out to work, and the money I earned was used to buy a house for my cousin's daughter-in-law, and my cousin was also a temperamental person.
When the cousin really left, the third uncle and the third aunt came to their senses, but it was too late, the cousin had already accepted their belated overtures, and the third uncle and the third aunt could only put their eyes on the cousin again.
My cousin has been accustomed to being a fool since he was a child, and he wasted a smart brain, although he was admitted to a very good university, but he couldn't find a job.
Later, I met a girl from other places in the company, and I fell in love with someone for a few years, and I was ready to talk about marriage, but the woman said that there was only one daughter in the family, and she would not agree to marry far away, and if they wanted to be together, they could only be cousins who intervened and became a door-to-door son-in-law.
The third uncle and the third aunt must have disagreed, the cousin had a quarrel with them for a while, and in the end they did not succeed in resisting, and this marriage could only be stopped, but since then, the cousin has never returned to his hometown, and he rarely even makes a phone call.
Later, the cousin found a local girl to be his daughter-in-law again, and only notified the third uncle and aunt to ask them to prepare the bride price and the house, and they did not interfere in anything else, even the engagement and wedding did not call the third uncle and the third aunt to attend.
After my cousin got married, I completely let myself go, and my cousin and daughter-in-law took the hundreds of thousands of yuan in bride price given by the third uncle, eating, drinking and having fun everywhere, but I didn't want to work.
Two years later, the nephew was born, and the money in their hands was no longer enough to support the child, so the third uncle and the third aunt asked for money, and finally took the third uncle's salary card.
So that the third uncle and the third aunt can only live on their own old bottoms now, and sometimes they want to ask their cousins and cousins for money, and the cousin says that you are so partial to your youngest son, and you are looking for your younger son to go.
When I asked my cousin, my cousin said with a look of carelessness, where do I have money, do I want to use your pension if I have money, if you really don't have money, you can go out to find a job while you are still young, and you don't have to worry about us asking for money.
Let's talk about the second uncle, the second uncle has a son in the family, and he got married and had children early, so he didn't let the second uncle worry too much.
So after retiring, the second uncle "let go" of himself, and followed his retired old colleagues every day to make dinner and drink, or play cards, anyway, there is nothing serious.
It's just that my second uncle still likes to pretend to be a "big name", and after every party, he rushes to check out, and over time, he has formed a habit, as long as the second uncle is at the wine and dinner, it must be him who checks out.
In this way, the second uncle's pension of more than 4,000 yuan is not much left in a month, and sometimes there is an overspending, so the second aunt quarrels with the second uncle a lot.
The second uncle didn't want to change it, but as soon as the old colleague called him, he couldn't help but go again, and he was going to be stubborn and not settle the bill, but in the end, he couldn't help the compliments of the old colleagues, and coaxed him to check out happily in three or two sentences.
Later, in order to put an end to this phenomenon, the second aunt and cousin teamed up to hide the second uncle's salary card.
The second uncle told me that the only fun he had now was to quarrel with the second aunt, and he didn't dare to quarrel too much, for fear that the second aunt would take his salary card to his cousin in anger, and then he would really become a loner.
Finally, let's talk about my father, there are only two children in total, my little sister and me, although our parents are both native farmers, but we also rely on our own hands to support my sister and me to finish college.
After my little sister and I graduated from college, we both stayed in the university city to continue to develop, and after our jobs were stable, we both got married and had children, so we didn't let them worry too much.
Because my sister and I can't get married, whenever we have time, we will bring our husband and children back to see them, so as not to make them feel too lonely.
In fact, my sister and I persuaded them to move in with us, but they refused, saying that this is a place where they have lived all their lives, how can they just leave.
They refused to leave, and my sister and I didn't force it, after all, the transportation is convenient now, and we both have cars, so we can come back at any time to see them.
In the past, my father was always envious of the second and third uncles who had pensions, but he didn't, feeling that he was useless and couldn't help us.
After my little sister and I heard this, we discussed giving them 2,000 yuan per month, which is considered a "pension" given to them by the two of us.
At first, my father refused to accept our money, saying that he could not help us and asked us to give him money, but he was reluctant to accept it.
In the end, I told my father that we young people love to spend money and can't save money, so he gave him this money to help us save it, so he reluctantly accepted it.
In the end, I had to nag me a few words, saying that we were young, we had never lived a hard life, and we didn't know what it was like, so we didn't know how to save money.
Although in the end, my father accepted the money on the pretext of helping us save money, but this is also our filial piety to them, after all, my sister and I never thought of asking for the money back.
In such a comparison, it is indeed like what the third uncle said, it seems that the father who has no pension lives more freely and happily in his later years, on the other hand, the second uncle and the third uncle always have some trivial things that affect them.
In fact, judging from the experience of my father and his three brothers, I think that whether or not they are happy in their later years is not directly related to the amount of pension.
The most important thing depends on your own mentality, as long as the mentality is good, it doesn't matter if you have more money or less money, if your mentality is particularly bad, no matter how much money you give, you will still feel unhappy.
So, elderly friends, you don't need to define your happiness by the level of pension or whether you have a pension, everyone will have everyone's troubles, but we don't know, all we can do is to calm our mind, less comparison, and live every day!
(The story comes from life, but it is higher than life, this article aims to remind elderly users to avoid the risks that may be encountered in retirement life through fictional plots, and face life with peace and joy)