01
"Brother-in-law, I took my parents and my family out on a trip, and the cost was about 20,000 yuan, and you can help reimburse this money."
The brother-in-law said with a hippie smile on the phone, although his wife scolded with a smile, but turned around and persuaded me to give her brother 20,000 yuan, and said that it was her filial piety fee to her parents.
My wife's understatement gave me a headache. This has been an unknown number of times, and every time her parents or younger brother speak, his wife responds to their needs, without exception.
I tried to reason with my wife, but she said that 20,000 yuan was neither too much nor too little. I can't take my parents out to travel, and my brother has done his best to take them on a trip, so I naturally have to pay for it.
02
However, why can't the wife think about it, have her parents and younger brother asked for money less times for various reasons over the years?
Every time, the brother-in-law said with great fanfare that he would take his parents to enjoy happiness and travel everywhere. But he took the reputation of filial piety, but he threw all the bills to me to pay, and I became a proper wrongdoer, an ATM.
My wife and I were college classmates, and we had a good relationship foundation, and we got married and started a family in the third year after working. At that time, everyone envied our love from school uniforms to wedding dresses.
And I am also complacent about this, thinking that the relationship between myself and my wife can be stronger than Jin and can stay together for a lifetime. That was until I found out that I had become an ATM for my wife's mother's house.
03
My wife is a very nice person, gentle and kind to my parents, and my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along well. Therefore, in the first three years of marriage, no matter what my parents-in-law asked, I basically responded to them.
Gradually, however, I realized that something was wrong. My parents-in-law have a headache and brain fever, and we need to pay for it, which is understandable.
But I found that even my brother-in-law needed me to pay for a house, a car, a child, and a child, so I was a little reluctant. Whoever wants to marry a wife is equivalent to the whole family who takes a wife.
The wife is very calm about this, saying that marriage and marriage are a matter of two families, not two people, even if she is married, she has to honor her parents.
04
Since she said it, her wife no longer hides it, but has more blatantly helped her mother's family. As long as her parents or brother make a phone call, the wife will take the money back.
It's just a matter of asking for money for usual expenses and big things, but since my brother-in-law ate the sweetness of his whole family's trip to the mountains and rivers and the help of his sister and brother-in-law, he has become more and more inch-in-progress.
Not only during the New Year's holidays, they are clamoring to travel, but even on their parents-in-law's birthday and wedding anniversary, they will find an excuse to travel. In the end, I silently bore all the costs.
I also lost my temper, and my wife promised me that there would be no next time. But when she turned around, she forgot about it, and she went her own way. When her parents-in-law came to her and cried, her wife would be soft-hearted and willing to be the cash cow of her mother's family.
05
My parents felt sorry for me and my son, but they didn't have a position to reprimand my wife, so they had to use their pension to subsidize our family from time to time, so that our lives would not be embarrassed.
Some time ago, on my mother-in-law's birthday, my brother-in-law proposed to take his parents, wife and children on a trip, and invited our family to go with him. My wife was eager to try, but I refused.
Where to go, we have to be wronged again. Even when I go on a trip, I'd rather go out alone with my family than get involved with my brother-in-law and the rest of the family.
I thought that if my family didn't go, they would be able to avoid paying the bill. As a result, my brother-in-law's family had a lot of fun and chic, but the next day after I came back, he sent me a bunch of bills and said that I would help him reimburse 20,000 yuan.
06
The brother-in-law also said confidently, my parents belong to everyone, and my wife and I will help to take our parents on a trip and take care of our parents to eat, drink and have fun, so you and my sister will pay for it. Anyway, as a child, you always have to be the same.
I was so angry that I jumped to my feet and refused my brother-in-law's unreasonable request on the spot. My parents-in-law are not my biological parents, but I have to pay for all the expenses of each trip. As for my parents, I don't have the ability to take them on a trip.
In such a strong contrast, how could I continue to pay for my brother-in-law's travel? After I refused, my wife had a cold war with me, and my mother-in-law came to the door the next day to ask for justice.
My mother-in-law ignored my explanation, but repeatedly emphasized that raising children is to support the elderly and enjoy happiness, my son and daughter-in-law have contributed, and you should pay for your daughter's son-in-law, not to mention, I am in charge of my daughter's money.
07
The mother-in-law has repeatedly emphasized that the wife's money belongs to them and their brother-in-law. After all, my family has only one daughter, no son, and the real estate and savings in our name will be left to my brother-in-law and his children sooner or later.
Originally, I wanted to explain to my mother-in-law calmly, after all, I could try not to turn my face as much as possible. However, my mother-in-law is just going to arch the fire, and she keeps crying and crying that her wife is not filial, and that my son-in-law is not filial.
My wife was also reluctant to let her mother humbly ask for money, and kept persuading me that I agreed, saying that 20,000 yuan was not too much, and it would be the last time to reimburse the travel expenses.
I snorted, saying it was the last time each time, but there would always be a next time. After being reimbursed this time, do I have to reimburse countless times? My money is not blown by the wind, and I have not even been able to fulfill my filial piety to my parents.
What my wife did made me feel cold, and I also felt unworthy for my parents who had been subsidizing our family. My parents spent hundreds of thousands of yuan to help me marry my daughter-in-law, but my daughter-in-law only helped her mother's family with all her heart.
I filed for divorce, but my wife did not agree, but blamed me for making a fuss and getting a divorce for 20,000 yuan. But I don't think it's a big fuss, if I don't get divorced, I don't know how many times I can be reimbursed 20,000 yuan?