01
Just because I sent 2 local chickens to my daughter for confinement, my daughter-in-law scolded me for having no sense of boundaries, being eccentric, and only thinking about my daughter.
My son also said coldly to me: "Mom, 10 local chickens were sent by your daughter-in-law's mother's family to replenish your daughter-in-law's body, how can you make an initiative to give it to your sister?" ”
I explained in a bit of a panic: "I see that 10 chickens are piled up in the refrigerator, and besides, eating frozen chicken for a long time is not good for my daughter-in-law and the child in her belly." ”
However, the more I explained, the more my son and daughter-in-law thought I was covering up, covering up my partiality and selfishness.
02
My name is Su Xiuying and I am 56 years old. has a son and a daughter, and life is plain and happy.
After finishing college, my son successfully found a stable and high-paying job, and married the daughter-in-law of his only daughter. As for the daughter, she pulled her crotch a little. I barely finished college, and the job I was looking for was hard and tiring.
Because of his education and ability, his son is thriving in his job. But the daughter is completely different, because her education is not high and her ability is not strong, she can only find some jobs that are not up to par, and her life is naturally not much better.
Therefore, when my daughter proposed to marry her son-in-law, who had average conditions, I strongly opposed it. However, my daughter was in love and insisted on getting married, and we had no choice but to let her go.
03
At that time, I let go of my cruel words and let my daughter go, after all, this was my daughter's own doing. obviously has the right person to get married, but she just chose such a son-in-law who has no family background, no help to help, and a handsome son-in-law.
However, after all, our daughter is biological, and after a long time, and my daughter has suffered a lot in her married life, we still forgave her after all, and helped her as much as possible.
Since I retired, I went to my son's house to help with my grandson. Originally, before we went, we only needed to subsidize our son's monthly mortgage of 4,000 yuan. But after I went, I not only had to subsidize the 4,000 housing loan, but also had to subsidize 3,000 yuan per month for living expenses.
Coupled with some additional expenses for our grandson, we basically subsidize our son with 100,000 yuan every year. I don't have enough pension to spend, so I have to embezzle my wife's pension.
04
But even so, the daughter-in-law still doesn't have a good look at us. Especially when the wife also retires and lives in the son's house, the daughter-in-law's face is stretched longer.
For the sake of our sons and grandchildren, we can only swallow our anger and let our daughter-in-law do everything, otherwise what can we do? You can't let your son be caught in the middle, right?
Most of our money is spent on our son's small family, and we can't help our daughter's plight. Except for when our daughter bought a house, we secretly sent 50,000 yuan, and we basically didn't subsidize a penny the rest of the time.
But the daughter-in-law refused to believe it and kept a close eye on us, but whenever we went to our daughter's house, the daughter-in-law was always afraid that we would use the money to subsidize our daughter, and always asked our son to get vaccinated with us in advance.
05
After a few years of grievances, my wife and I were going to go back to our hometown to care for the elderly, but my daughter-in-law was pregnant with a second child.
A while ago, the parents of the daughter-in-law bought 10 old local chickens from a relative in the countryside, and all of them were sent to the house, saying that they were giving their daughter a good health condition.
I looked at this large pile of local chickens, even the refrigerator was full, and I started to think carefully. In order to take care of my daughter-in-law and grandson, I politely declined my request to take care of my daughter's confinement. It's just that my daughter is now pregnant, and her body is very weak, and it is the time when she needs to take supplements.
Thinking about 10 local chickens, the daughter-in-law will have to eat it for a long time, and the local chicken has been frozen for a long time, which is neither fresh nor delicious.
So I said hello to my daughter-in-law and offered to send 2 local chickens to my daughter. As for the follow-up daughter-in-law who still wants to eat local chicken, I will find a way to find relatives in the countryside to buy it to make up for it, and I will definitely not let my daughter-in-law suffer.
06
I don't know if my daughter-in-law didn't hear clearly, or agreed, and said that I would arrange it myself. I was overjoyed and felt that my daughter-in-law was more talkative than ever.
On the same day, I delivered 2 fresh chickens to my daughter's house, and my daughter heard that it was sent by her sister-in-law's mother's family, and she was reluctant to accept them at first. After much persuasion from me, and when I promised to make up for my daughter-in-law, my daughter reluctantly accepted two local chickens.
As a result, I came back from my daughter's house, and as soon as I got home, my daughter-in-law angrily asked me if she had sent 2 local chickens to my daughter privately. Why am I so partial, obviously her parents bought it with great difficulty.
I was scolded by my daughter-in-law a little blindfolded, I obviously asked my daughter-in-law's opinion in advance, and she didn't seem to refuse. As a result, the daughter-in-law said that she didn't hear clearly, who let me make an assertion?
07
My daughter-in-law made a big fuss at home, thinking that I was partial to my daughter, giving her mother's things to her, and blaming me for not having a sense of boundaries. After saying that, he angrily slammed the door and went back to his parents' house.
When my son came home from work in the evening, he learned that my daughter-in-law slammed the door and went back to her parents' house because I sent 2 local chickens to my daughter, and immediately became a little angry, and complained to me, saying Mom, how can you give your daughter-in-law's things to my sister? Whether your sister's family eats less or wears less, you are just eccentric.
I was a little speechless and didn't know how to justify. I knew I was wrong, but my daughter-in-law nodded and agreed, so why is she backtracking now?
08
What's more, I subsidize my son with 7,000 yuan a month, and I usually buy clothes and toys for my grandson from time to time, and I even cover the tuition fees of some interest classes. Isn't 2 local chickens worth the 100,000 yuan?
The son said angrily, one yard is one yard, you subsidize us 100,000, and you give the local chicken sent by your daughter-in-law's mother's family to your sister is two different things. You better go back to your hometown, I can't afford to support my parents who robbed the rich and helped the poor.
My son looked at us and shook his head in disappointment. I tried to defend myself, but my wife stopped me, quickly packed my luggage and dragged me back.
But the more I think about it, the more angry I become, because the 2 local chicken daughters-in-law are on the line, in the final analysis, because our contribution is taken for granted, but we can't make decisions in her house.
Since 2 local chickens are not worth 100,000 yuan, then 100,000 yuan per year will be broken. Do you think I did a mistake by giving my daughter 2 local chickens?