(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)
After getting married, many people will choose to help and support their mother-in-law when they see that their mother-in-law's family is in trouble, but this is only temporary, not your responsibility, after all, we also have a family to raise.
However, my mother-in-law is like this, at first I just helped to support my mother-in-law's life, but after a while, my mother-in-law took this for granted, when my wife and I went to visit my mother's house, my mother-in-law directly roared: "Where is the living expenses for this month, why don't you call me"!
01
I was born in a small village, and as you can imagine, our family situation is not very good, and being able to raise me to university is already doing my best.
It is for this reason that I did not dare to delay my studies in any way, and I was afraid that all the investments in my family would be wasted, so it seemed to me that my childhood was not a happy one.
While the children in the village were playing, I was helping my parents with the farm work, and while they were playing at school, I was studying hard in the class.
In a flash, I have graduated from high school, and when I was thinking about whether to go to school in other places or in the local school, my father gave me the answer: "Xiaohui, you go out to school, it's not good to stay at home all the time, it's me and your mother who have burdened you and can't give you a happy life, go to other places to learn a long time, broaden your horizons."
I said: "Dad, what is not involved, what kind of family is destined, I have nothing to complain about, you can raise me with hard work, I am very grateful to you, besides, how many people in the village do not let their children go to school because they want to save some money, you and my mother are still very good."
Then, I embarked on the road to school, I was admitted to an undergraduate college, I need to stay in school for 4 years, along the way I looked at the scenery along the way, and finally came out, who can see the hardships of this road?
When I arrived at school, I felt that the people around me were very friendly, and the seniors would come to help me carry my luggage, and I didn't care that I came from the countryside, in fact, as long as a person maintains an optimistic attitude, he will find that all kinds of things around him are beautiful, don't care too much about what others think of you.
We live in this world for ourselves, not for others.
The first thing I go to after school is the school cafeteria, where I can work part-time to earn my living expenses and reduce the burden on my parents at home.
Slowly, with the accumulation of time, I became familiar with my classmates and roommates, and whenever I had time, they took me out to eat barbecue and drink beer.
Happiness is always short-lived, the college years passed quickly, after graduation, I followed the assignment of the school to a company in Jilin, in my opinion, although it is a little far from home, but I am quite satisfied with the salary.
After working for almost half a year, an intern came to the company, and the moment she entered the company, our department looked at a dumbfounded, straight-eyed, never seen such a beautiful North Korean girl.
Because I had seen a lot of North Korean girls in college, and there were many good-looking ones, I wasn't very curious about it, so I just lowered my head and continued to work.
However, at this time, a figure suddenly stood beside me, who was our team leader, and said to me: "Xiaohui, now there is a place next to you, I will arrange this beauty to you, you have to teach you what people can't do."
The colleagues around me all had envious eyes, wondering, why such a good errand fell into my hands, they all wanted this girl to work by their side, after all, watching the beautiful woman go to work every day, that day was in a good mood.
The girl introduced me first: "Hello, my name is Min-eun, I hope you will take care of me".
I responded: "Hello, Min'en, my name is Liu Hui, you can call me Xiaohui, ask me if there is anything I don't understand."
Then we entered the work, each busy with our own things, during which she also asked me a lot of questions, sometimes I couldn't understand the Chinese I spoke, and even wondered if I was Chinese, how Min'en could make such a broken Chinese.
After more than a month of communication, our relationship gradually became acquainted, and occasionally we would make an appointment to go to dinner together, because Min Eun did not have any friends here, and he came here to work hard by himself, and it was under this exchange that I learned that people from their country came to work in China for only three years, and they were sent back as soon as the time came.
I also heard Minen say that the average monthly salary of each person in their country is about 500 yuan, and the salary is really too low, can this support himself? After all, in China, a random waiter has a salary of two or three thousand a month, the difference is really too big, no wonder Minen is willing to work here by himself.
I usually teach Min En to speak Chinese, and they are more difficult to learn Chinese than our English, after all, our Chinese culture is broad and profound, and sometimes a word difference will form a different understanding.
02
Over time, Min Eun and I had a little ambiguous atmosphere with each other, and that day under the urging of alcohol, I confessed to Min Eun, and she felt very surprised when she heard such words, I didn't expect me to confess to her so suddenly, but fortunately, the ending was good, and Min Eun agreed to be with me.
Due to the company's regulations, colleagues are not allowed to fall in love, so we didn't dare to have too much contact within the company at that time, for fear that some colleagues would find out and report us at that time.
I lived like this for almost a year, and I couldn't bear it anymore, so I discussed with Min Eun who would quit to do other jobs, in fact, I felt that Min Eun understood my mind very well, and she knew that if I worked here, I would give full play to my value, so I took the initiative to leave and find another job.
But at this time, I was about to face a problem, what to do if Min Eun's time in China was up, whether I should marry her to China or part ways on the spot, it can be said that I was stumped for a while.
I started calling my parents to discuss the matter, and after I explained, they replied, "You see whether you really want to marry Min Eun or whatever, we don't have a problem, as long as you two can be happy."
If I go as I wish, I still want to marry Min-eun!
Time flickered, and when the three-year deadline was up, Min Eun told me about it: "Xiaohui, are you willing to marry me? If you don't want to, I'll go back to China directly."
I teased her first, and the moment I saw her turn around and leave, I quickly chased after her and said, "Oh, just kidding, I'll go home with you and discuss marriage with your parents."
By the time we arrived at Min'eun's house, I had already seen my father-in-law and mother-in-law standing at the door to greet us, greeting me very warmly, which relieved a lot of tension at once.
After sitting at the dinner table, I still didn't know how to open my mouth, although Min Eun hinted at me vigorously next to me, and it was not until after eating that I finally opened my mouth: "Uncle, I came today to discuss something with you, I want to marry Min Eun."
The father-in-law was stunned for a moment after hearing this, and the mother-in-law took the lead in opening her mouth: "We agree to your marriage, but didn't I hear that your Chinese daughter-in-law wants that bride price, don't you, you see how much you are going to take at that time."
At this time, he breathed a sigh of relief, as long as he agreed, he could say whatever he wanted: "Auntie, there is indeed a bride price, and we basically give about 1120,000 yuan over there, do you think it's okay?"
I felt like I was talking too much, and my mother-in-law said very happily: "Okay, okay, okay, then we decided so happily."
This sentence made me very uncomfortable to listen to, and Min-eun was traded out like an object!
After we got back, Min-eun and I started to prepare for the wedding, and after setting a date, we sat back and waited for the time to come.
On the day of the wedding, the father-in-law and mother-in-law were very surprised to see such a wedding, and called it too beautiful, too romantic, and the wedding process went very smoothly.
Life is slowly on the right track, almost a year later, the "crystallization" of our love was born, it was a son, and we brought our parents to live here, and by the way, let them take the child or something.
But at this moment, we were still immersed in the happiness of the family, and my mother-in-law called and said: "Your father-in-law's leg has been broken, or come and take a look, if people can't come, let's make a little money, we don't have any savings in our hands."
But at that time, I really couldn't get out of my body, Min En was still conditioning her body after giving birth, and I still had to go to work to earn money to support my family, so I didn't tell her in order not to worry Min, and directly transferred 20,000 yuan to my mother-in-law.
I would have thought that it was Min's parents anyway, and her parents were my parents, so it would be nice to help me, and it would just be a good impression on me.
Since then, every month Min En's mother will ask me for living expenses, which is only 2,000 yuan, although it is not much, but it can accumulate a lot in the long run, and from time to time I mistakenly think that they are my biological parents, and I have to give me pension money every month when I am old.
However, I didn't tell Minen about these things, and after about two years, Minen suddenly asked to go back to her parents' house to see, after all, we have been married for 3 years, and Minen has not been back to her home once, so we booked a ticket to Min's house.
The moment I arrived at Min-eun's house, I thought that my father-in-law and mother-in-law would continue to greet them at the door, and the money I had given them over the years was not small, but I only saw my father-in-law standing alone at the door.
I stepped forward and asked, "Dad, what about my mom? Isn't she home?"
However, I glanced at the house and saw my mother-in-law sitting on the sofa with a black face, and I wondered if they were quarrelling, and Min Eun quietly asked my father-in-law next to me, "Did you make my mother angry"!
But the father-in-law spread his hands and said that he didn't know.
03
We changed our shoes and went into the house to talk to my mother-in-law, and I had just opened my mouth to ask her what was wrong.
My mother-in-law yelled at me directly: "What's wrong with you, I still have the face to ask me what's wrong, why didn't I pay for living expenses this month, are you going to starve us to death?"
At this time, Min En didn't know what was going on, and looked at me with a puzzled expression: "What's the matter, Xiaohui, what does my mother mean?"
I just motioned to Min-eun and said I'd talk to her later, and then I explained to my mother-in-law, "Didn't I forget it when I came here, as for making such a big fuss?"
My mother-in-law didn't give me the steps at all, and said directly: "If you forget it again, don't let me step into the house half a step in the future, what kind of memory, I'm afraid you don't take us to heart!"
I didn't know how to answer, and Min-eun kept asking what was going on.
I feel that I am very wronged by this scolding, I support you for the sake of Min's face, but you can't take my contribution for granted, I also have Min-en and children to raise.
Do you think I'm going to continue to support them in the future?
(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)