In less than 20 years, the three major problems that second-child families may face, the answers of those who have come over are very realistic
When the two-child policy was liberalized, many families joined the "two-child army". For a while, on the streets and alleys, you could hear discussions about the "second child".
But as time goes by, some families gradually discover that raising a second child is not as simple as they imagined. Don't wait until 20 years later, second-child families may face three major problems. The answers to these questions are very realistic and worthy of every family's deep thought.
1. Economic pressure
"If you can afford to give birth, you can't afford to raise it" is a true portrayal of many families when facing a second child. Milk powder, diapers, early education classes...... Each of these is a significant expense. Especially when two children are of the same age, parents need to bear the cost of two education at the same time, which is undoubtedly a heavy burden for many families.
Ms. Li is a mother of two, the eldest daughter has just entered primary school, and the younger son is not yet one year old. She told me that since she had Erbao, her family's expenses have skyrocketed.
The expenses for entertainment and travel that were originally used for herself and her husband have been compressed, and instead they have been invested in various childcare supplies and children's education.
Although tired, seeing the children healthy and happy, Ms. Li felt that everything was worth it. But she also admitted that if she could turn back time, she might think more carefully about whether to have a second child.
Second, the energy is scattered
After having a second child, parents will find that their time and energy are distracted. The time that could have been spent wholeheartedly with a child growing up is now divided into two, or even three. This has left many parents feeling exhausted.
Mr. Zhang is the father of two boys, the eldest son is in junior high school and the younger son is still in kindergarten. He said that since having his youngest son, he has clearly felt that his energy has been distracted. In addition to work, I have to take care of the food and daily life of my two children when I go home every day, and I also have to pay attention to the study of my eldest son. After a long time, Mr. Zhang felt that he was about to become a "superman".
3. Family relations
Another problem that second-child families may face is changes in family relationships. Especially when there is a large age difference between the two children, parents need to be more careful in handling the relationship with Dabao to avoid estrangement.
Ms. Wang is the mother of a 10-year-old girl and a 2-year-old boy. She told me that since she had Erbao, she clearly felt that her eldest daughter's emotions had become sensitive.
Sometimes, she loses her temper over small things and even becomes hostile to her younger brother. Ms. Wang said she has been trying to balance the relationship between her two children and hopes that they can get along harmoniously.
In the face of these questions, the answers of those who have come over are very realistic: before deciding to have a second child, you must fully consider your financial ability, time and energy, and changes in family relationships. Don't be easily swayed by the voices of the outside world, and make decisions based on your actual situation.
Raising a second child is a long-term and arduous task that requires more effort and sacrifice from parents. But as many parents say, seeing their children healthy and happy makes it all worth it. I hope that every family can make the wisest choice according to their actual situation.