I have a friend named Sister Ajin, she is a nanny, she has worked in my brother's house for many years, with my brother moving to the north and south, she has lived in Beijing and Xi'an, and now, Yi has taken pots and pans and this boss to Shanghai Beach.
Sister Ah Jin is a very powerful cook and my friend, and even in the future, she may become one of my relatives, because my brother has decided to support Sister Ah Jin, which means that Ah Jin will become a family member in our family for the rest of his life.
Sister Ajin, who has worked in her brother's house for nearly 20 years, is not the kind of person who has a sense of distance from her employer.
Just imagine, a nanny, even if she works in a very friendly master's house, will look at the importance of the landscape and will not deeply involve the affairs between the master and the wife.
But Sister Ah Jin works in a very picky boss family, but she can point fingers at all family members, which does require a kind of fate, which can't be explained by a normal way of doing things!
Two years ago, I lived with Ah Jin in Shanghai for a while, and at that time she recommended two nannies to me. Because Ah Jin herself is a nanny, she is very willing to read and write novels by her peers, these two nanny essays are quite famous now, it seems that Ah Jin is really discerning!
One is a "female writer to be a nanny" in the Northeast, and the other is a "nanny in a wealthy family" in Shenzhen. In a building by the Huangpu River, Ah Jin, a little old lady, sat in the middle, looked left and right, and then she wanted to express some thoughts.
According to Sister A Jin, none of the so-called wealthy hostesses in the two nannies' texts are called Mrs. Li and Mrs. Xu.
Ah Jin commented:
"The one in the north is a thirteen o'clock, relying on the family to love her very much, not abiding by women's morals, and daring to do anything. Oops, I recently ran away with my ex-husband, saying that I accompanied my ex-husband to Beijing to see a doctor, but in fact, people are not critically ill and can't move, and her ex-husband himself is a doctor and married a new wife, the reason why this daughter-in-law dares to do this, hmph, isn't this just relying on her current husband to tolerate and be polite to her ex-husband and wife?
The lady in the south is a big man, she can't do anything, and her eyes are dark. At home, I just watch the children, and outside, I can't do anything about socializing, and I don't contribute to the family business in the slightest. ”
Sister Jin commented slightly harshly, the hostess in these two novels. Isn't that so? I can't figure it out either. Because the female writer went to work as a nanny, I didn't listen for a while, and I've been too busy lately. I can't take care of it. As for the other nanny article in Shenzhen, I haven't read it. But I can also hear that this is Ah Jin aggrieved for his hostess.
In Akin's words:
"These two women together are not as good as our Mrs. Wenying, hmph, but they are such two ordinary women, the husband of Naba, they are all very spoiled, hold them to the sky, I don't know what kind of marriage this is, cultivated in the previous life?"
The younger brother always said that Ah Jin was at home, and she often criticized him in front of her brother: "You, you, make less flowers, don't take anyone home." ”
Ah Jin, an old lady from Inner Mongolia, has been adrift on the map of China for half her life, has seen many worlds, and at the same time has great skills in her hands. As a gold medal chef who has mastered the master's taste bud code, she has her own portion in this home. Therefore, she dares to speak out, chivalrous and loyal, Ah Jin with her round figure, in this family, sits firmly on the throne of the first housekeeper.
Now when I look at my brother, I am a little afraid of her. Because his younger brother, who is extremely picky about his diet, can only feel his stomach and stomach feel comfortable when he eats the food cooked by Ah Jin.
This really fulfills the saying: if you want to master a man, you must master his stomach. However, on the other hand, what the old lady said is indeed reasonable. In the past few days, I have been helping my brother's family in Beijing to take care of the children, taking a hand, oops, looking at my brother-in-law Wenying's dazzling schedule, it is really staggering.
When she gets up in the morning, she has to help her younger son check and recite, and then send her eldest son to school, and now that the weather is good, Wenying will ride an electric car and take turns to send her two treasures to school. You must know that the little boy in my family has a soft spot for electric cars. Take the driver's nanny car, how can you sit in the back seat, close to your mother's fleshy back, and come comfortably! Oh, children can only be so close to their mothers when they are riding an electric car, this is a kind of faint coquettishness of big boys!
One is in the sixth grade and the other is in the second year of junior high school.
These two treasures are Mrs. Wenying's inheritance and future, she pours most of her energy into her children, and that kind of immersive companionship cannot be replaced by anyone. But in addition, Wen Ying has two other burdens.
Recently, after she delivered the baby, she had to rush to the hospital. Go and see the various indicators of my mother's hospitalization, sometimes good and sometimes bad. There is no way, after all, he is in his 80s, he is old, and Wen Ying's brother has had some problems recently, and he can't take care of his mother at all, and her mother and sister-in-law get along quite a pimple. Alas, forget it, in the end, it's still my own daughter, don't look at my mother's favor since I was a child, and I beat and scolded, but at this time, the most intimate person who takes care of the old lady is still the girl.
It is very tiring to accompany the elderly in the hospital.
To be honest, Beijing's medical resources are unique in China and even in Asia. However, the hardware facilities and subtle services of many large hospitals are really inferior to those of Shanghai and Hong Kong. The nurses and grandmothers are more than one by one, and the people in the corridor are wuyang wuyang.
This old lady will go up to the third floor for a while, go down to the eighth floor for a while, go back to the ward for a while, and then have to push it out again, what code to scan? What is the result, one trip at a time, Wen Ying, who follows as a family member, does not touch the ground.
On top of that, she had to be scared. The results of various inspection reports are typed out. What do you mean, I first looked at those unfamiliar numbers and muttered in my heart. Then he didn't dare to stop under his feet, and went to the chief director to analyze it!
You think that's the end of it, that's where it goes.
That uneasy patient old lady will set up another obstacle for you. You asked her to hurry up and untie her clothes, and we will do B ultrasound soon, the old lady said, I am in a panic now, go back first?
You tell her, get up quickly, the doctor will do the ward rounds in a while, we have to inquire about something, the old lady said that I am very sleepy now, and I don't want to see anyone. There was a time when the anxious girl cried, and she shouted while wiping her tears:
"Mom, we're not the one with a medical team, you can't cooperate."
I found that a hard-working woman must have one or several unreasonable young ladies living next to her. Just like Wen Ying's current situation, she is like an unlucky ghost with one servant and many masters, serving this unreasonable senior fairy mother!
After returning from the hospital, Wenying had to go to an investment company without touching the ground, because she was there to negotiate business with an account manager, and it was about some investment and financial management of their family. Before leaving, Wenying had to do a lot of preparation work on the computer, pay attention to some data dynamics, and have a consultation and discussion with relevant people first.
This is not the kind of thing in idol dramas where you can go out and do it with a beautiful dress. For Wen Ying, she must grasp and see many assets in her family, and how to maintain and appreciate the value of these money is also something she must consider.
Therefore, she is very sensitive to a lot of financial news, of course, in the imperial capital, she can also inquire about some gossip, but how to identify these gossip news, this matter is more difficult than hearing them, otherwise everyone in the imperial capital will be rich!
After returning from the account manager, Mrs. Wenying ran to the refrigerator as soon as she entered the door, she picked up a macaron, stuffed it in her mouth, and ran upstairs to see her mother-in-law, during this time period, the mother-in-law usually sleeps well, is very energetic, she will scream, and at this time, the daughter-in-law has to appear in front of her mother-in-law.
"Let's go take a bath, I'll blow bubbles for you after the shower, okay?" Wen Ying coaxed and persuaded at the same time. came up and took another little fairy in the family to the bathroom. Thanks to her big size and strength, if I really can't do it. The nanny had prepared a jar of water there, and the old lady liked the sitz bath very much, sitting in the bathtub, she pinched the rubber yellow duck, enjoyed the fun of flushing the shower, and had fun, she then turned her head and smiled at Wen Ying, and called her "Mommy."
This is Wenying's other child, although when she first met her, she called Wenying a child, but now, this Hemel's patient has been lost in the corridor of memory, so she needs someone she can rely on, and this person is her daughter-in-law who has been with her for 20 years!
Playing with her mother-in-law until more than four o'clock in the afternoon, Wen Ying blessed the tutor and the driver, and asked them to pick up the children in the two places, and then, non-stop, packed up, changed clothes, and hurriedly ran to a hotel, gathered with those members of the wife group, and then arranged the itinerary for tonight. This is another important task for her, to carry out lubricated socialization for her husband.
Wen Ying has one thing that I can't do, and it is also a skill that I admire very much. That's upward socializing. To be honest, I'm a very loose person, and I'm not very inclined to socialize purposefully.
In the past, in the unit, if I met a leader who fell in love with me, I would have in-depth contacts, and if I didn't, I would do things according to the rules. Of course, this is feasible for an agency personnel, you can set up a bad-tempered character for yourself, and you can go up with this character.
But for a businessman's wife, a resource-based businessman's wife, a bad temper? Hehe, even the boss himself didn't dare to have a bad temper. Sometimes I listen to the story of the nanny in the Northeast, and there is a slight pain in my heart, there is a nanny named Su Ping in the story, she often goes to the master's house, and beats the back and feet of the old lady, of course, I also know that Su Ping and the old lady do have feelings, and I also know that Su Ping gets a salary.
But when I think of my family's Wen Ying, she will often go to a certain house, just like the nanny named Su Ping, chatting with other people's old ladies, pinching people's old ladies and beating their legs, and calling others godmothers. Other family members of the same family, aunts and grandmothers, big brothers and sisters-in-law, say hello. Alas, I feel sorry for this social girl. People now say that there is a term called the only daughter of Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, which means that such a girl has been a little princess all her life, and she has been held in the palm of her parents' hands all her life, and she has not looked at anyone's eyes all her life. It's a pity that Wen Ying didn't live a day like this. Whether it's at my mother's house or my mother-in-law's house.
Therefore, she is especially good at being an obedient back-beating nanny, and a businessman's wife with a pleasing personality.
You know, it's not a day or two! I've done this before, for a short time, but not for a long time. I don't feel my face at every turn, but according to my brother, I will croak, sink my face, and sweep everyone with a pair of slender eyes, although this situation may only appear for a moment, but immediately there is no affinity.
I guess that's because I'm upset. I'll also wear a mask to show people, but that would hurt. Why? Feeling tired. So I don't generally do that. But Wenying is not, or rather, Wenying is different. She has been a well-behaved little rabbit since she was a child, and she will look at her eyes and listen to her voice.
In the social circle of the capital, it has always been exquisite: "Burn the cold stove and play idle chess." ”
A relationship, maybe you maintain it for three years and five years, and you don't need anyone else. The same is true for ten or eight years, but this is like an underground party in a spy war movie, as soon as something happens, it starts, and many problems can be helped by a word. Of course, this gang also has a degree, and some things can't be solved.
But just those things that people can solve are hard for you to compare.
For so long, Moon Young has been working as a steady public relations manager for her husband, building a firewall for his business.
Her husband knows about this, too. In the words of my younger brother: "Sister Ying is my right-hand man, the minister of the humerus!" ”
But often for women like Wenying, this sentence is what they hate the most.
Yes, some women can become the pearl of men's palms, ecstasy babies, they can be arrogant and unreasonable in front of men, pouting and coquettish. Can let men protect them, protect their innocence, protect their helplessness, protect their stupidity, who knows if it's really stupid or stupid......
They are like men's little sisters, little daughters, the kind of women who are pampered.
And what about other women?
They were born as sisters, mothers, wives, the heads of the house, the pillars of the family! They don't know how to be coquettish, they always talk well, they suffer by themselves, they bear the burdens themselves, they do the work themselves, and they carry the work themselves.
In fact, this kind of woman exists in all strata of society. It's just that it comes in a different version.
I also know a supermarket sister, her place of work is downstairs in my house, she works fifteen or sixteen hours a day, she sometimes brings her son who is in elementary school to this small supermarket, let him write homework on the side, read books and play, the eldest sister goes home to sleep, opens her eyes to work, she has two children.
I always thought that my eldest sister didn't have a husband, but in fact, she did. In the hometown. But the husband doesn't earn much money, so he just takes care of his parents there, but the eldest sister is also very content with this. She said, "He cares about my parents, too!" ”
The eldest sister is very satisfied with her husband, saying that he doesn't play with money, he doesn't mess around outside, and he is very honest, but I am not worth it for the eldest sister.
When a man is born between heaven and earth, should he have some other virtues in addition to his honest duty? For example, hard work. For example, earning money to support a family. Or conversely, in addition to the ability to earn money to support the family, should a man also have some virtues of loyalty to his wife?
Hey, maybe I want too much, and women like Wenying or supermarket sisters will always know that they are content and happy!
I also know an eldest sister, their family is even more desperate, a family of three, except for the eldest sister, the rest are all lying flat people.
I suspect that the eldest sister sits up from a very large kang every day, and then freshens up and goes straight to the workplace. And what about the rest of the family members? All of them are hemiplegic or total paralyzed patients, and they are all recuperating on the kang and cannot take care of themselves!
But I heard people say in the rumors:
"Hmph, it would be nice if the eldest sister's husband was really paralyzed at home, in fact, as soon as his wife went out, he was also messing around outside, washing his feet, playing cards, well, you know. While a man is lazy to eat, he often has complications from getting involved in flowers. ”
The man who spoke winked at me.
As for the eldest sister's son, his life is even more colorful. His play is over the road. After his mother went to work, he would jump up, like a big living dragon, energetically go to pick up girls, go to nightclubs, go to drunken gold fans, and go to spendthrift.
His greatest contribution to the family was reproduction. He is a passing student when it comes to having babies, and he has already provided his mother with two grandchildren from different women!
And what about the eldest sister?
The eldest sister is the only able-bodied person in this family, aren't the others paralyzed? So she has to work, and the eldest sister has to be like a donkey in a mill, endlessly dragging her business around, trying to make money every day. It's good to feed the two disabled people at home!
Two days ago, I sent my eldest sister a packet of olives, which is the kind of herbal tea in Guangdong. There is some tangerine peel wrapped in the olives on the outside. Anyway, I heard that this thing is going to fire, and the eldest sister is now swollen with her teeth.
Because a project doesn't go well, you may lose a big order. The eldest sister cherished the words like gold in the mobile phone, and didn't say please!
Hey, I guess she's very busy at this time, so let's not bother!
I have spread out the heroic deeds of these three women here, not to denounce their families, because their families are already like that, dying and giving up treatment.
And these pillars have already resigned themselves to their fate.
In the words of the entrepreneur's eldest sister:
"I can't get through it, and this family depends on me."
In the words of the supermarket eldest sister: "Okay, he is a nominal husband, I don't point to him." ”
In the words of my brother's daughter-in-law, Mrs. Wenying, "I can't leave this family alone." I ran away, what about home? What about children and the elderly? ”
In view of the above, I would like to ask the following questions.
What are these people trying to do, do these stupid women know that they have paid so much for their families, but they have received very little. What are they trying to do, why can't they be like those dashing women in Douyin, be a person who just walks away, goes on a trip, goes on a vacation to make themselves relaxed, leaves everything behind, and does it regardless of being themselves, instead of living for others.
Some people may sum this up as: I don't understand!
I recently revealed this answer in a hospital, which means that in the past two days when I accompanied my mother-in-law, my brother-in-law's mother, and my own mother in Beijing, and accompanied these old ladies to the hospital, I discovered this secret.
This is also an old lady, the old lady is ninety-five years old this year, her whole life has come through hardships and hardships, and the sins she has suffered have to be multiplied by ten times a hundred than ordinary people, because she is an old revolutionary! An old revolutionary, coming from the smoke and flames of war, from the hard struggle,
Thinking about this way, the ninety-nine-eighty-one difficulties she faced, that was very humanly bearable. She had lost her first husband. She had been shot twice in the body during the war.
And really after the founding of the country, will she be able to nourish and nourish? Not really. Many disasters continued to befell her. First of all, the second son died of illness, and the old lady began to pull the two little grandsons left behind by the second child. He was only a few years old. Later, her second wife was paralyzed again, so she had to serve the old man again, until the old man died, she began her long widowhood life, so many years, how did she come over? I don't think I can write with a pen anymore!
Last year. Her eldest daughter died suddenly of a heart attack, and of course her second son had already settled in the ground, so now her sister went to find her younger brother. The two grandsons raised by the old lady "are now also implemented."
This is the old lady's words, her so-called implementation is not the implementation of any policy, but the eldest grandson has experienced a series of problems such as marriage change, resignation, going abroad, and returning to China, and now he is down-to-earth. The second grandson has finally stopped after two entrepreneurial failures......
There is also a great-granddaughter abroad, but after the divorce lawsuit is over, she will soon return to China and return to the old lady.
So, the old lady said, "I'm finally able to rest, I'm finally going to get out." ”
As she said this, a quiet smile spread across the old lady's face.
She took me by the hands of those dry spots of displeasure and said to me:
"In my life, I have lived a very fulfilling life, I have lived a very energetic and meaningful life, and I have also called it a lifelong struggle!"
The old lady showed me her family portrait, good guys, full of children, four children and grandchildren, around this old grandmother, the old birthday star, everyone had a smile on their faces. The old lady sat in the middle, with a kind face and a calm face.
Behind her, in order, are the eldest son, the eldest daughter-in-law, the third son, the third daughter-in-law, the daughter and son-in-law, the grandson and the daughter-in-law, and the great-grandson...... Oh, this big team of fifty or sixty people was brought to this world by her, and they were all gathered together because of her!
This old grandmother dedicated her life to these people.
The old lady said: I have lived a meaningful life in this life!
Because she knows that her children and grandchildren need her, and without her, the quality of life of the children will definitely decline. So, she has to fight hard for it.
Just like when she was young, she fought hard for the cause of liberation.
The old lady has been a struggling person all her life, and through her selfless dedication, she has been sublimated in personality! I also found the only way to pursue happiness.
In fact, Mrs. Wen Ying also thinks so, and the supermarket sister and the entrepreneur also say the same, they are the kind of people who "take Kun as virtue".
Kun is the earth, carrying all things. Virtue is heavy, tolerant and supple. They represent the virtues of traditional women, perseverance, generosity, integrity and grandeur.
Selfless altruism, affectionate upbringing. Some people say that there will be fewer and fewer women like them in the future, and in intimate relationships, if there is no corresponding response, then the vast majority of women will leave, think maybe it will be like that!
That kind of selfless mother, selfless wife, will be less and less.
Nowadays, it is important for women to love themselves first. That would be to say, a woman like this is a rare treasure, even if it is out of print.
The night before yesterday, I just returned to Tianjin, and early this morning, I received a message from the old lady's eldest daughter-in-law.
It's a smiling photo of the old lady who has struggled all her life.
I called to ask the relatives over there, and they said calmly:
"The old lady had gone to see Marx last night, and she had gone there to be reunited with another group of her relatives, and the old man's task here had been successfully completed. She returned victorious. ”
Oh, I see.
This old lady is an old revolutionary of a certain level, but I don't want to attend her memorial service, so let my brother and daughter-in-law represent it. I just said to her in my heart:
"Old mother, hard work!"
Then I seemed to hear a tough voice wafting in the air:
Serve!
