In the eyes of parents, children are seen as the continuation of the family and the hope for the future, and at the same time as the motivation to motivate their parents to work hard. Since the children are in school, parents have invested considerable time and money in nurturing them.
As a parent, the most basic responsibility is to nurture the child's ability to be independent, and of course, there are many parents who expect their children to achieve success and success.
Sometimes children are not effectively taught how to evaluate their abilities rationally, and this expectation can be misleading. At this time, I hope that my children can accept an ordinary job.
Someone shared their experience online, not knowing if it was out of regret or other reasons. He was the only child in his family and worked in a relatively stable state-owned enterprise, but eventually chose to quit because he had been a contract worker.
Like many people with ideas, he decided that there wasn't much to be gained by just working, so he tried his hand at entrepreneurship. Initially, he only tried to make some small trades, but soon faced losses.
Perhaps for some graduates, they will stop their losses in time, but this man believes that the problem lies in the choice of industry and the lack of investment. Therefore, not only did he not stop, but decided to open a fish farm, as a result, he lost 1.5 million in one year.
That's when he realized that he could only earn "hard-earned money", but he was still reluctant to look for a regular job. When he asked his parents for support again, he finally heard what they really thought: I'd rather you continue to rely on your family than take any more risks and start a business.
The advice of this elderly couple is thought-provoking, revealing a kind of helplessness faced by families with "children". It is not without reason that many parents have high hopes for their sons, but if they fail to train them to become talents, they may bring a greater burden. Men tend to have higher expectations of their ability to work, and the issue of income is particularly important.
As a result, many male students may be reluctant to take up ordinary jobs after graduation and are more likely to have the idea of starting a business, which is more common than that of female students. Parents have a certain understanding of this, so they are willing to use their savings to support them.
It's not as simple as it seems. Even if you perform well at work, it is difficult to ensure a deep understanding of the entire industry model, and there is a risk of failure.
If even ordinary jobs are not up to the task, there is a greater chance of losing a parent's savings, especially as many industries have changed in recent years. For most graduates, finding a stable job is a relatively reliable option.
In the case of this gentleman, who did not fully understand his level of professionalism and ability to handle affairs, and did not stop losses in time, it is no wonder that parents are more inclined to make him dependent on the family than to continue to take risks. This truly reflects the helplessness faced by families with children.
If you can stick to your ordinary position in a down-to-earth manner, even if you don't have a lot of room for career development, you can at least live a relatively stable life with the support of your parents. However, these setbacks have made the situation even more difficult for him and his parents.
There are early signs of entrepreneurial failure for some graduates, mainly due to a lack of rational judgment. In fact, it is understandable to encourage graduates to try more, but only if they have enough understanding and planning for themselves and the industry they are in. An example of this may be the entrepreneurship competition I participated in in college.
Although this is only a simulation phase, it is still necessary to gather all the relevant information and conduct an investigative and financial plan to ensure that there are sufficient reasons to assess the feasibility of the plan.
When it comes to investing, many people only think about what is going on and do not make a rational assessment of the failure, and more seriously, they and their parents lack sufficient capacity to bear it.
The author once witnessed the experience of a college student: after graduation, a classmate from a well-to-do family offered to work with him on a business project, but he eventually refused.
Surprisingly, that classmate really made a lot of money later. When asked if he regretted missing out, his answer seemed very sober. He said frankly: Although there are regrets, there are no regrets at all. This is because people only see good results and do not consider other possibilities.
For that classmate, his family is well-off, and even if he loses, he only reduces his pocket money by two months. And for the university student himself, the situation is completely different.
If he really fails, it means that he has to rely on the "old book" of his parents and let the whole family change their living situation because of his own decisions, which he cannot afford.
Here, the author mentions that the words of this college student are worth learning from, especially when faced with other things that are difficult to decide, such a way of thinking can be used to make judgments. The words of the elderly couple in the article cause for thought, when parents are more willing to provide for their children than do not want them to venture into entrepreneurship again, graduates do need to seriously consider their own behavior.
Topic: Do you have such people around you?