Preface
Old people often say: family relationships are like pots and pans, and they will inevitably bump and bump.
This sentence really makes too much sense.
Indeed, yes, it is really inevitable that there will be quarrels between husband and wife in the family, and even very fierce quarrels will break out.
Recently, a 15-year-old junior high school student in Zhejiang recalled that his parents often quarreled with each other, and came up with what he believed to be the correct family relationship: a husband must tolerate his wife.
Boys' memories
Boys' parents, like many couples, often get into heated arguments.
He clearly remembered that the initiator of every quarrel was his mother, and that she was the most irritable person.
But the boy didn't think that there was anything wrong with his mother in the quarrel, but thought that his mother was the most pitiful person.
Because every time the quarrel ends, the boy's father will slam the door and leave in a very dashing manner, leaving behind his emotionally broken wife and children in the storm.
And the mother of a woman can't leave as chic as her father, just because she remembers the responsibility on her mother's shoulders - to take care of the child's life.
So the day after every fight, my mother would still get up early to make breakfast for him.
This makes the boy feel that his mother is not easy, and he feels that his mother is the most pitiful person in the family.
Understanding that it is not easy for his mother, he will also do what should belong to his father after every quarrel - coaxing his mother to be happy and digesting his mother's negative emotions, which enables the family to live a happy life for a period of time.
It is precisely because the boy often sees his parents quarreling that it also triggers his thinking, and finally comes to the most correct family relationship in his heart.
Boys' point of view
The boy believes that the most correct family relationship should be the husband as the emotional container of the wife, to tolerate her, pass on love to her, help her digest all the negative emotions, and then the wife will be the container of the child to help the child digest all the negative emotions, and finally the nourished child and the wife will feedback the love to the husband, so that the husband can also digest the negative emotions.
This kind of family relationship is the right circle of the family.
To be honest, this point of view of the boy is really very reasonable.
When the boy posted a video on the Internet to express his opinion, it instantly caused a debate among netizens.
Netizens have something to say
Many netizens agree with the boy's point of view very much, thinking that the family relationship is what the boy says, but they also know that it is what they say, but it is not the same thing at all.
Some netizens directly asserted that married men are like this, and a married man can't listen to the boy's point of view.
This netizen believes that the stability of the family lies in the woman, and thinks that the mother-in-law should not always move her mouth, but also use practical actions to prove that she feels sorry for her son.
Indeed, this boy sees it very clearly, and he is more considerate than his husband and mother.
This netizen further elaborated and sublimated the boy's point of view.
But some netizens think that the quarrel is not the fault of one person, but the fault of both husband and wife. If a woman is irritable, then the man can only slam the door and leave, simply because the man does not dare to throw you.
The author has something to say
The best relationship in a family relationship is mutual understanding and mutual tolerance, you understand my hard work, I understand your difficulty.
Of course, there is a prerequisite for such a relationship in the family, that is, the man must be an emotionally stable person.
If the man is emotionally unstable and is also a person who is easily irritable, then there are definitely frequent quarrels in the family, which eventually leads to the breakdown of the family.
I don't know what netizens think of family relationships?
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