In this world, the original intention and the result are often two different things. A lot of people are hell-bent on getting things done, but end up messing everything up. On the contrary, it is the unintentional actions of some people that make it beautiful.
Family is a sweet bond for everyone. Everyone wants to have warmth and happiness, but the reality is that many people will fall into endless pain.
The love of parents is like a towering mountain. It's just that some mountains can be relied on, while some mountains are pressed on the children's bodies and become a burden for a lifetime.
The vast majority of parents are willing to give everything for their children. But the reality is that not all efforts can have a positive effect.
Sober parents are self-aware. Discipline when it's time to discipline and let go when it's time to let go. Stupid parents have extremely high self-esteem. Not only does they not want to grow up, but they also force their children to copy their own ideas.
For individuals, luck is the warmth and harmony of the family, and misfortune is the suffocation and control of parents.
The greatest sorrow of a family is that parents borrow luck from their children and don't know it stupidly, especially the following four behaviors, I hope your family doesn't have it.
Habitually complaining to children
In interpersonal communication, many people will choose to confide in their troubles and unhappiness as a way to unravel their hearts. But it never occurred to him that this kind of complaining behavior would have a negative impact on others.
The world always follows the law of conservation of energy, and if a person tries to relieve his bad mood by complaining, it will cause the negative emotions to transfer to the listener.
Some people may say that complaining to others, as long as the other person does not care, will not be affected. But the reason why the complainant's emotions are released is because the listener cares enough.
If you look closely, you will find that most people will choose to sell miserably in front of those who value them. The child will be spoiled by his parents, because he knows that it is only useful to be spoiled by his parents.
In the same way, parents will complain to their children because they know that only their children care from the bottom of their hearts.
Parents who habitually complain to their children are actually borrowing luck from their children, and there is no such thing as the best of both worlds in the world.
Forcibly interfering with children's lives
In our lives, it is especially common for parents to care about their children and interfere in family life.
A lot of people think that what everyone is doing is the right thing to do, but that's not the case.
Parents who forcibly interfere in their children's lives, although well-intentioned, do not necessarily reap good results.
Once parental interference is beyond the bounds of reasonableness, it is necessary to seriously consider the motives and influences behind it.
If you look closely, it is easy to see that some parents seem to be thinking about their children, but in fact they are satisfying their own desire for control. More often than not, they are trying to use their children's lives to fill their unattainable dreams.
To put it more popularly, two stupid birds can't fly, so they build a nest and lay eggs, and then desperately force the birds to become eagles.
Many parents try to rob their children of their lives under the banner of being good for their children. That kind of coercive interference is borrowing luck from children to fill in their own life regrets.
True love is letting go, not bondage.
Educate in a repressive way
Is there really a filial son under the stick? This is a question worth pondering.
In ancient beliefs, it was believed that only under the stick could there be filial piety. It seems that being beaten is the only way to become a talent.
In fact, everyone's personality is basically the same, some children do need to be forcefully suppressed, and some children need careful care.
Everyone is an independent individual, batch education, is destined to have defective products, only according to the aptitude of education, in order to make life bloom their own beauty.
Regardless of it, directly carrying out repressive education is actually a selfish act.
Many parents are filled with fear and insecurity, believing that only through severe punishment and control can their children become what they want them to be. But they forget the most important point, which is that no one is perfect.
It is impossible for a person to be perfect because he has parenthood. The most valuable quality of being a human being is self-knowledge.
Parents who repressive education of their children are forced to copy themselves while hindering their children's development. Suppression is borrowing luck.
Easy to be emotional, compare with the heart
It is the nature of human beings to love face, it is the characteristic of some people to save face, and it is the rationality of a sober person to look down on face.
Parents' love is a particularly important pillar on the road of children's growth, but some parents are too face-saving and often fall into a cycle of comparison and emotion.
Parents who indulge in comparisons will pass on anxiety and competition to their children, a notion that will not only confuse their children with external evaluations, but also disrupt their plans to move forward steadily.
Emotional and competitive parents can bring instability and insecurity to their children, and they are characterized by making strange demands when stimulated by the outside world.
You must be no stranger to this kind of sentence structure: you look like this, where to put your parents' faces!
If in a family, parents often say similar things to their children. Children's fortunes tend to get worse and worse.
Agitation is a psychological tactic, not an emotional suppression. If some methods are not used well, they should not be used, and once they are used incorrectly, they will cause irreversible damage.