When I was a child, I always felt that the phrase "the son follows the father's surname" is like a star fixed in the sky, dazzling, grand, and never change. It wasn't until I grew up that I realized that this was not a matter of course, but a blind obedience to our social concepts. I am Jiang Xiaoming, a child in an ordinary family, who has been instilled with the concept of "son follows father's surname" since childhood.
There are two elderly people in the family, grandparents and they are an integral part of my life. My grandfather was an old man who loved to play chess, and his temper was a bit stubborn, but he was always kind to me. My grandmother was a hardworking and kind housewife who took good care of me. They raised me from a young age and I am full of gratitude to them.
My parents divorced when I was younger, and I lived with my grandmother. When I was a child, I always heard my grandmother tell me about "the son follows the father's surname", and she said that it is a tradition, a rule, and must be followed. I naturally embraced this notion and never thought it would change.
Until I met Su Yu, who was my college classmate and my lover. We fell in love with each other, and we also came to the stage of talking about marriage. However, when I asked my grandparents to let the child follow the surname Su Yu, they firmly objected.
"The son follows the father's surname, this is a matter of course!" said the grandfather categorically.
"It's our house rule and we can't change it. Grandma also joined the opposition.
Su Yu and I quarreled several times about this, but to no avail. In the end, I reluctantly chose to give up, and in order not to destroy the family harmony again, I agreed to let the child take my surname.
However, life is always full of surprises. When Su Yu was pregnant, she suffered an accident that led to a miscarriage. It was a blow that left us exhausted and made me realize that family harmony is not something that can be achieved simply by following the rules.
"Maybe we need to make some changes. I said to Su Yu gloomily.
"But grandparents, they ......," Su Yu looked at me worriedly.
"I'll talk to them so they can understand what we think. "I made up my mind.
So, I found my grandparents again and had a good talk with them. I told them that we wanted our children to follow Su Yu's surname, because it would make us more united and more harmonious.
"But it's a rule, you can't change it casually!" Grandpa was still unwilling to compromise.
"Grandpa, grandma, I know your ideas, but times are changing, and we need to make some changes. It doesn't matter what our children's last name is, what matters is our family harmony. I said to them sincerely.
My grandparents were silent for a moment, then finally nodded and agreed to my request.
"Child, you are right, we should also adapt to the changes of the times. Grandma said with deep feelings.
This time, we finally came to a consensus. With the support of my family, my relationship with Su Yu has become more harmonious, and we are looking forward to the future.
The concept of grandparents may be limited by the times, but we should not blindly follow it, but should bravely pursue our happiness. In life, we must learn to compromise, but also learn to stick to our own choices, which is the attitude of being an independent and assertive adult.