Contributor: Colleague Brother Zhou (Disclaimer: This article is not my own experience, it is the real experience of the contributor)
As we all know, India is a patriarchal country, and the status of women in India is very low, although many people are demonstrating and fighting for women's rights, but the end is often tragic.
I have a deep understanding of this, because I married an Indian daughter-in-law, and my daughter-in-law has a twin sister, and she also asked her to marry to China, and she didn't want to live or die, and then she cried and cried for us to save her.
I really can't do anything about this situation, after all, India is different from China, time has changed, and now when I see my wife's sister again, the gap between the two is a little too big, and my wife's sister cried and said to my wife, "I really regret not listening to you!"
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My family belongs to a petty bourgeois family, which is not rich and expensive, but it is also a day when clothes come to reach out and food comes to open mouths.
I am also happy to be alone, I often go on sightseeing and sightseeing, even during school, I will take advantage of the holidays to travel, and it is in the process that I met my current wife.
It was a summer vacation, when I heard that the water of the Ganges River in India was dirty, and Ah Sange made it thin after eating, and everyone had to say "clean and hygienic" before eating.
These things made me curious to go, so I bought a plane ticket to India without saying a word, wanting to experience it firsthand.
Sure enough, big data is not wrong, I experienced the "dilution package" on the first day I arrived, which made me spend a whole night in the hotel, and I didn't have the energy to play at all the next day.
But I didn't want to just go back, and after recuperating my energy, I started my trip to India again, and this time I deeply felt what it means to be not dry and clean, and I don't get sick after eating.
My stomach seems to have adjusted to life in India, and I haven't had anything like it for a few days after that, except for the first day.
In addition to the heat, the deepest impression on me when traveling in India is that I am the most afraid of heat, and one day I can't do it when it is too hot, I go to the roadside to buy popsicles.
In fact, after being in India for so long, I usually don't buy popsicles from the roadside, but only at convenience stores, because I have palpitations when I see the process of making popsicles on the roadside.
And they sell popsicles and buy cold drinks at the same time, the third brother's hand touched and touched on the ice, which really made me unable to drink, but I couldn't find a convenience store around that day, so I could only buy popsicles on the side of the road, and it was this time that I had an indissoluble bond with my wife.
When I went to buy it, my wife was looking at the stall, and when she saw me, she came up very enthusiastically and asked me what I wanted, and before I could speak, a few thugs came over and asked her to make them a cold drink.
My wife gave me the popsicle first, and then went to make it for them, during which they kept harassing my wife, and I saw that I didn't want to take care of it, this is a foreign country, and if I don't manage it well, I will get into trouble.
But the blood in the bones of Chinese men made me unable to watch coldly, and when I stepped forward to negotiate with those punks, my wife hid behind me, and those punks saw that I was Chinese, and they did not dare to do anything very excessive, scolding and grinning a few words and left.
I know it's a very old-fashioned hero to save beauty, but the reality is that my wife fell in love with me at first sight, and at that time I just wanted to cool down quickly, and I didn't have time to think about it so much, so I ate four or five popsicles at my wife's stall and left.
I thought it would be the last time we met, but I didn't expect that we would meet again the next day, and this time she said she wanted to invite me to dinner and give me a tour guide without money.
I thought it would be okay, I didn't have a tour guide at that time, and I was walking around alone, but I still didn't agree to let her have a meal.
And so she took me to various parts of India for the next week, and I felt different feelings about her in the process.
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My wife is a very gentle woman, especially her smile, which is very contagious, and you can feel it in the conversation with her that she has gone to school.
Later, I learned that she didn't go to high school again, and that she had two younger brothers and a younger sister at home, and that girls were very unpopular in India, which is why she couldn't go to university even though she was so good at studying.
After learning the news, I felt very sorry for my wife, and before leaving, I invited her to come to China to play, she smiled helplessly and nodded, I knew that my invitation was probably going to become a dream.
After returning to China, I couldn't forget my wife, and when I graduated, I still missed my wife, and suddenly there was an opportunity for the company to go on a business trip to India, and I didn't say a word about applying to go.
I finished my work a few days after I arrived in India, and I had a few days to spare, and my colleagues who came with me wanted to wander around, so I told them that I had something important to do, and we went our separate ways.
I got in the car and immediately went to the place where my wife bought ice drinks, but her sister was there, and when she learned from her sister that her father wanted her sister to marry, but she refused, she was severely beaten by her father and locked in the house.
I immediately asked my sister to take me to the house to find my wife, and my sister and my wife had a very good relationship, in fact, she didn't want to take me there, but because she didn't want to see my sister beaten again, she also wanted me to rescue her sister.
When I arrived at my wife's house, my father-in-law knew that I was from China at first and was very enthusiastic about me, but when he heard that I was coming to find his eldest daughter, his face changed instantly.
At this time, I realized that my wife was also interested in me, so I refused to talk about marriage in the past few years, and even wanted to run away from this home and go to China to find me.
When the father-in-law learned that I had come to ask for a wife, he said that it was impossible, that they did not want their daughter to marry so far away, until I told them that my wife would come back once a year, and that alimony would be paid every year, and that it would be paid according to the Chinese bride price, that the wife's father agreed.
My parents agreed to marry my wife, my parents were very open-minded, they were just worried about my wife's parents.
Later, after I brought my wife back, my parents were super nice to my wife, and they really treated my wife as their own daughter, and after seeing the injuries on my wife's body, I was even more distressed.
After feeling the love here, the wife cried silently one night, and immediately decided to find one for her sister in China to marry in China.
But before his wife's wish could be realized, her sister was forced to marry by her father-in-law, and the man was still married for the second time, just because he gave more money.
For this reason, his wife also went home to make trouble for her parents, and she also hated iron and steel, and asked her sister why she agreed, didn't she say that she would let her go to China too.
The sister-in-law said, "My father said that this man's wife died of illness, and it is said that the man was super good to his ex-wife, so I think that no matter where I go, as long as I marry a man who loves me." ”
But the imagination is beautiful, the reality is cruel, the sister-in-law became a stepmother directly after marrying, and I can also call the man my brother-in-law, who originally had two sons and a daughter.
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After the sister-in-law got married, she had to get up early every day to take care of the family, and she did laundry and cooking until the evening after the whole family rested, and the sister-in-law was able to rest for a while.
We only found out about this when my sister-in-law and my wife made a video, and then when we came home to the annual homecoming, we met my sister-in-law, which was just like the two of us before we got married.
Before getting married, the sister-in-law was in better condition than the wife in terms of skin and health, because at that time, the wife had to help the family with housework, and the sister-in-law did not.
But now, because his wife was well taken care of at home when she was pregnant, her whole person has become red and shiny, and her sister-in-law looks ten years older than her wife.
Later, I learned that after my sister-in-law married into the man's family, she had several miscarriages and was not well taken care of, so the whole person's body is now very weak.
The in-laws felt that she couldn't even keep the child, and they disliked her even more, but the wife said that if it weren't for the fact that the sister-in-law was still doing so much heavy work when she was pregnant, how could she not be able to keep the child.
Seeing the appearance of the sister-in-law, the wife cried directly and wanted to bring her to China with her, but she couldn't, after all, the culture between the two countries is different, and we can't forcibly interfere, so the sister-in-law's life will only be more difficult.
On the contrary, the sister-in-law persuaded his wife to look away, after all, compared with other Indian women, her life was already very good, first of all, her husband did not beat her, and she was very satisfied with this.
And the fact that the husband allows him to go back to his parents' house for a short time is very satisfying, because in India women are not allowed to go back to their parents' home, which will make the husband's family feel very disgraced.
In addition, there is also a possibility that the Indian woman will return to her parents' home, which is that she will be returned by her husband's family, so the mother's family will also feel embarrassed, so under normal circumstances, Indian women will not return to their parents' home.
When the wife saw the back of the sister-in-law, she began to blame the father-in-law for her original choice, but in the father-in-law's opinion, the sister-in-law's life did not know how good it was.
Later, after my wife gave birth to a second child, I didn't plan to let her give birth again, and my parents took care of my wife very well at home, but my sister-in-law's state was getting worse and worse.
Probably because she was afraid that her wife would worry, her sister-in-law would report good news and not bad news every time, but the more she was like this, the more worried her wife became, and she would try her best to make her happy.
Until the two called a while ago, when the wife told her about the strange things in China, she didn't receive a reply from the other party for a long time, and the wife called her sister-in-law, and the sister-in-law cried bitterly, and the wife cried here, and a deep sense of powerlessness filled the two sisters.