Is the blind date software reliable?Parents find a partner for their children on the dating platform, and the result is done!

Research and Evaluation Center for Rural Revitalization in the Yellow River Basin, Northwest A & F University

When I went home for the New Year, I saw my cousin for the first time, and my cousin said happily, your nephew Xiaoyong has a partner, and he will do things when he has time this year, and he must participate when he is free. Xiao Yong is 26 years old this year, has graduated from college for three years, has never been in a relationship before, Xiao Yong did not have a partner when he saw his cousin during the Chinese New Year last year, and this year he has and will get married immediately. The cousin said that in November 23, the parents of both parties met and got married, and the next thing was to hold a wedding. I was a little surprised to see why it was so fast. After asking in detail, it turned out that it was my cousin who successfully introduced his son on the blind date software, so I was even more curious. And when I was at a reunion with my classmates, I saw a single woman and said that I could also try it on a blind date software. Classmates said: Blind date software is all deceptive, don't believe it. Why are parents so hot on blind date software? And young people don't seem to be interested in blind date software, and even have a strong resistance to it.

1. Why can parents register on the software for their children's blind date?

Xiao Yong, the son of his cousin's family, worked in a prefecture-level city in Guangdong after graduating from his bachelor's degree, and his job was relatively fixed and difficult to transfer, so Xiao Yong planned to settle in Guangdong. Xiaoyong's hometown of Henan, usually not good at talking, but down-to-earth and diligent, through his own efforts, he successfully entered 211 University, and went directly to work in a state-owned enterprise in Guangdong after graduation. In the two years of work, I didn't look for a partner, so my cousin was very anxious, and at first I started to ask acquaintances to introduce me everywhere in my hometown, but due to the inconsistency of the work location, it was difficult to find a suitable partner. Later, my cousin heard that there were various software on the mobile phone that could be registered to help the child find a partner, so he began to explore.

The current blind date software is mainly divided into three categories: APP, official account and small program, and my cousin is registered on a small program called "Blind Date for Families", which is mainly for parents to find partners for their children. To register, you need to register your child's gender, place of residence, age, height, education, and monthly income, and then verify the login with a mobile phone verification code. In the personal information section: first, you need to upload your child's photo, relationship with your child, and contact information, and second, you need to fill in the personal information of the person you are looking for: gender, current place of residence, height, education, income, hometown, occupation, school, real estate, car property, ethnicity, body type, marital status and other personal information. The third is to write a clear description of the blind date: your personality, characteristics, advantages and mate selection requirements. Fourth, it is necessary to carry out real-name authentication and information authenticity commitment. The information shows that it has been verified by real-name authentication and verified by the name and ID number of the public security system. And set up a button to "report the other party". If there is fraud in the blind date process, you can report it directly. The personal information on the blind date will be displayed on the home page, you can scroll through your information of different people, and there is the contact information of your parents below, which can be contacted by phone or the chat window of the website. In addition to uploading information such as photos of his son Xiaoyong, the cousin also uploaded information such as Xiaoyong's high school competition awards, various activities and certificates participated in by the university, graduation certificates and degree certificates, etc., because this can be more transparent, win the trust of the other party, and avoid unnecessary trouble.

After registering the information, the background will be based on the personal information and the other party's requirements to match the push, in the push page, you can see which parent has seen your information, which parent has invited you, so as to contact and communicate. The cousin chatted with the woman's mother on a blind date app, and the two sides talked about the main characteristics and requirements of their children. After the parents of both sides first reached an agreement, they began to tell their children. At the beginning, my cousin's son Xiaoyong said that the blind date platform was all a lie, don't believe it. But after the cousin told the child the details and provided the details in the future, Xiao Yong started the formal offline meeting with the mentality of giving it a try. The first offline meeting was when the woman's mother accompanied her daughter to a blind date, chatted about the basic situation, and then felt that it was suitable for the young people on both sides to start dating. In the process of dating, the woman's mother also chatted with Xiao Yong from time to time to increase mutual familiarity and understanding of Xiao Yong. After half a year of dating, the parents of both parties met and exchanged gifts, and made an appointment for the wedding.

Parents are in stark contrast to their children's attitude towards blind date software and young people's own attitude towards blind date software, mainly because the parents themselves are running for the purpose of finding a partner for their children, so they will carefully screen the conditions for finding a partner and judge according to their own experience, so as to find a suitable partner for their children and reduce the potential risk of marriage fraud. Parents have plenty of time to get to know each other in between, and for young people, time is the biggest cost. Therefore, in general, the long-term screening and identification of parents reduces the possibility of deception, which can reduce unnecessary troubles in the real relationship process in the future. As long as the children are intended, the parents will not be too opposed to the children who are looking for the object of the child, and will have the mentality of giving it a try, which can improve the possibility of marriage. Parents find a partner for their children is essentially the result of mutual consensus between parents and children, parents can only reach a real connection for both parties after finding a satisfactory person, only with the consent of young people, and the consensus between parents and children is itself conducive to improving the success rate. The third is that young people themselves have direct contact with the blind date software, and there may be "deceptive feelings", "malicious hidden information", "various expenses for socializing and eating", etc., which reduces the trust of young people in the blind date software, improves the time screening cost and input cost of young people, and leads to the more rejection of blind date software by young people. Parents are different, "As long as I don't transfer money, how can I be deceived, we only talk about our children and family, and there is no other relationship."

Second, the problem of marriage matching is also the key reason why it is difficult for young people to get married

At present, it is difficult for unmarried young people to get married, not only because of the absolute imbalance in the sex ratio of the population, but also because of the problem of marriage matching. Especially with the improvement of young people's education level, marriage is no longer "the order of parents, the words of matchmakers", but the selection process of individual emotional experience, to be in love, to like each other, to each other's temper. With the strengthening of population mobility, many young people who have graduated from college work in different places, facing the dissolution of the acquaintance society and the limited range of their own friends, making it more difficult to find suitable people in their own places, so they are forced to stay. With the increase of age, the remaining matching marriage circle group will also shrink at a faster rate, which will increase the difficulty of marriage matching.

When chatting with classmates who work in big cities, almost all of them think that the reason why they are single is not that they don't want to find a partner, but that they can't find a suitable partner. In a limited social network, a person who wants to find the right object in time also faces the problem of insufficient resources. "Do you think I don't want to find a partner, the circle around me is so big, basically many of them are married, and I can't find the right person around," said a 32-year-old unmarried female classmate. "It's not that I don't want to find a partner, I found that good men are married, and I can't look down on the rest, so I can't wronged myself," said my cousin, who graduated with a master's degree. "Most of the people in my company are boys, and there are too few people of the opposite sex, so I don't have the opportunity to meet more people," said a classmate who works in Shanghai. Therefore, the problem faced by young people is that if they look for acquaintances in their hometowns, but because of the different places of work, many of them end up not together, and some are looking for them in the place of work, but the circle around them is so large.

However, with the application of blind date software, to a certain extent, it can allow some interested people to find the right person. To a certain extent, accurate algorithm matching can be implemented through the software, especially for hard conditions such as the place of work, the nature of the work unit, education, height, family environment, etc., the blind date software can achieve accurate matching. Through online accurate matching and offline communication, young people who are willing to marry can be promoted to find suitable partners, and avoid being forced to leave due to too few circles. However, most of the young people around me have distrust of blind date software, "Blind date software is not daring to use, it is some men who are chatting nonsense, wasting time, and afraid of being deceived", Xiao Lin mentioned. "It's a waste of time to go on a blind date, I'm so busy with work, how can I have time to screen them one by one," said the classmate.

The distrust of young people in marriage and dating software is not a problem with the technology itself, but some problems have arisen in the process of technology application. The supervision and improvement of blind date platforms should be strengthened, and the trust of young people in blind date platforms should be improved by setting up more real-name transparent information, punishing deceptive information, and evaluating the application of APPs, which may be helpful to increase the success rate of mate selection for interested parties.

Most of the current blind date websites are established by market entities, and there are also deficiencies such as high fees, difficult supervision, and uneven results, such as many marriage and love platforms implement a membership system, ordinary members are 399 yuan for 3 months, and you can view 12 marriage information and unlock contact information every day, and the annual fee membership is 699 yuan for 1 year, you can view 15 marriage information and unlock contact information every day, which is still the main goal of profit; The phenomenon of deceiving or destroying other people's families has led to a further decline in the reputation of marriage and love platforms. In the future, the government or public welfare organizations can also establish relevant marriage and love platforms to further provide more opportunities for unmarried young people to get acquainted, which may be helpful in promoting young people to start a family and start a business.