A person spends his whole life in the family, when he was a child at his parents' house, and when he grows up, he starts a family on his own.
Whether a family is rich or not, whether the family atmosphere is harmonious, and whether there is tolerance and understanding among family members are the determining factors for whether a person is happy in his life.
It is said that a happy family is the same, but what is the standard of happiness? The family is rich and loves each other, no matter whether it is beautiful or downtrodden outside, when you return home, you will find a place of happiness. So how can you have a rich and happy home?
When a family shows the following three signs, it will begin to become rich and wealthy, and accounting for one of them is also a good sign.
First: family harmony
Mencius said: "The time is not as good as the place, and the place is not as good as the people."
A simple word "harmony" expresses the wisdom of the Chinese nation after thousands of years of survival.
Life is precious in harmony. Let's take a look at the idioms related to "harmony", harmony and difference, harmony, kindness, kindness, and so on, which all mean harmony and happiness. Think about your family being in such an atmosphere every day, and everyone is comfortable physically and mentally.
If you are interested in Chinese history, you will find that those large families that have been around for thousands of years have all lived in harmony. Four generations in the same house, dozens of people, old and young, have lived together for decades, without you arguing with me, without you fighting with me, without fighting for property status, and not because of their own selfish interests in the end......
If you look more closely, such families have fine traditions, family customs and family mottos are passed down from generation to generation, and even some family rules clearly stipulate that there are any family laws that destroy and disturb unity and harmony, and these are the foundation of harmony.
It is conceivable that parents and children have deep feelings, brothers and sisters live in harmony, and husbands and wives are of one heart and one mind.
Second: be diligent and thrifty
Zeng Guofan said in his family motto: "If you are thrifty, you will be prosperous, and if you are diligent, you will be healthy; ”
Diligence and thrift are the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, but this virtue is becoming more and more difficult to implement.
In a materialistic society, people are in a city where they are drunk and obsessed with money, and they are constrained by all kinds of desires every day, and they forget their roots in luxury. This is a red flag for both an individual and a family.
No matter how rich a family is, once the family members fall into the whirlpool of luxury and desire, they will soon fail, which is often said to be "success due to diligence and thrift." defeat by luxury".
Tsang never allowed his family to pursue a life of luxury. His original wife has been living in his hometown in the countryside with his children, and the plaques of "Prime Minister's Mansion" and "Hou Mansion" are not allowed to be hung outside the door.
He also asked his family to cook what they eat, wash their own clothes, and even grow their own vegetables, for fear that their family would cause a catastrophe because of their enjoyment.
Some people say that now they are all pursuing a well-off home, isn't it too stingy to pick the door like this? Diligence and thrift are not stingy, thrift is not consumption, the key is not to waste, and make the best use of things. You can't save the money you should spend, and try to save the money you shouldn't. Everyone can be diligent in running the family, which is the image of the prosperity of the family.
Third: children and grandchildren become talents
"Yan's Family Motto" has a cloud: Although the ancestors are far away, the sacrifice must not be sincere, and although the descendants are foolish, the scriptures must not be read. Each child's talent is different, and it is impossible to expect all of them to become dragons and phoenixes, but at least ensure that the child has good moral character and will not cause trouble.
The case of Sun Xiaoguo a while ago sounded a wake-up call for the people of the whole country, if it were not for his mother's protection again and again, Sun Xiaoguo would not have disregarded morality and human life, did whatever he wanted, and committed heinous crimes. A family is most afraid of depraved children and grandchildren, who are not angry and do not succeed, which is the misfortune of the family.
Lin Zexu said a thought-provoking sentence:
If your children and grandchildren are like me, and you keep money for what you do, and if you are virtuous and rich, you will lose your ambition, and if your children and grandchildren are not as good as me, you will be foolish and rich, and you will increase their faults.
How penetrating and detached is this. If my children and grandchildren are as brilliant as I am, I have no need to leave money to them, but if they have too much money, it will wear down their fighting spirit;
If the children and grandchildren are mediocre, there is no need for me to leave money to him, but he is stupid but has too much money, which will increase his faults. Today, how many people can really understand and practice Lin Zexu's words?
Nowadays, the family model of small units makes many parents and children live separately, and the fierce social competition makes family members gather less and leave more, and people run for fame and fortune, alienated from the companionship and care of family affection, and lose the harmony and happiness that the family should have.
Only when we understand filial piety, diligence and thrift, and tolerance, parents are sympathetic to their children, children and daughters work hard, children and grandchildren study hard, and family members gather together with laughter and laughter, a united and upward family atmosphere is precious.
It is also based on this that families can be happier and longer, transmit more positive energy to relatives and friends, and guide more families to be less than well-off and wealthy families. In this way, the whole society will become more harmonious and prosperous.