Before visiting relatives and friends during the Spring Festival, these 36 New Year's etiquette should be learned by children, and it is recommended that parents collect them
When red lanterns are hung high, firecrackers are heard, and the bells of the Spring Festival ring the overture to the new year, every household is immersed in the joy of the festival.
During the Spring Festival, it is inevitable to take children to visit relatives and friends, and everyone seems to have a consensus in this regard, that is, we hope that the children who come to visit are normal children who understand etiquette, not bear children who are ignorant and disgusting.
Imagine that when your baby wins the praise of everyone with his graceful demeanor and decent speech in front of relatives and friends, how can that pride be described in a few words?
Of course, this is not a strict requirement for children, but I hope that they will establish a good image from an early age, develop good habits, and better integrate into society in the future.
01 Etiquette for meeting and talking during the Spring Festival
During the Spring Festival, it is a routine operation to meet relatives, friends, and neighbors to say hello and talk.
Children's speech and behavior will be especially noticed by their elders.
A child who has not been taught etiquette well since he was a child is likely to say inappropriate and inappropriate things when meeting with his elders.
This is as embarrassing as it is for the parents of the child.
It can be seen that the first lesson that children need to learn during the Chinese New Year is the etiquette of how to talk when they meet.
Children's words and deeds are the embodiment of family style, how they speak, how they respond, in fact, are silently conveying a family's cultural heritage and connotation.
A warm "Happy New Year" is the simplest and most intimate blessing.
We should teach our children to take the initiative to say hello to their elders when they meet them, and to use respectful words and kind expressions, so that the elders can feel your respect and friendliness.
Elders are generally not young, so children should not speak too fast when greetings, and the voice should be moderate, and clear pronunciation can be heard and understood comfortably by the elders.
When meeting and talking with elders during the Spring Festival, there are also the following ten details that children should pay attention to:
● 1. Greetings: Teach children not to ask for red envelopes when they meet their elders, but to take the initiative and say hello politely, such as "Happy New Year", "I wish you good health" and so on.
● 2. Salutation: According to family habits and local culture, use the correct kinship title or honorific title, such as "Uncle is good", "Uncle is good", "Uncle is good", "Aunt is good", etc., which not only conveys respect, but also shows the child's cultural literacy.
● 3. Listening: Children should learn not to interrupt their conversations when listening to their elders, and show a minimum of respect for their elders.
● 4. Sharing: Encourage children to simply share their latest developments, such as learning, hobbies, etc., but avoid boasting or talking too much about themselves.
●5. Caution: Teach children to avoid talking about sensitive or private topics in public, such as the appearance, age, and income of their elders.
● 6. Make concessions at the right time: In conversation, if the elders have opinions or suggestions, children should learn to express gratitude politely, even if there are different opinions, they should learn to express them tactfully.
● 7. Be humble and courteous: Let children know not to be arrogant in front of their elders, but to show the virtues of humility and courtesy.
● 8. Expression of gratitude: Teach children to learn to express gratitude for the care and kindness of their elders, such as receiving red envelopes or other gifts, to accept them with both hands (not one hand) and sincerely express their gratitude.
● 9. Facial expressions: Tell your child to maintain positive facial expressions, such as smiling, which can show a friendly and polite attitude.
● 10. Say goodbye politely: When leaving, teach your child to say goodbye to their elders and thank them for their hospitality and attention.
These etiquettes not only embody respect for elders and reverence for traditional culture, but also help children form good social habits.
02 Etiquette at the dinner table during the Spring Festival
During the Spring Festival, there are also more gatherings between family and friends than usual.
Table etiquette reflects one's cultivation and respect for others, and in traditional Chinese culture, respect for the elderly is an important etiquette during meals.
In order to prevent children from making "foreign appearances" at the dinner table, it is necessary to teach children some basic table manners.
These table manners help children behave appropriately in different dining occasions and show good parenting.
Here are some essential table manners at Chinese New Year feasts that will help children bring out their best in a variety of situations:
◐ 1. Etiquette before preparation
- Clean grooming: Make sure your hands are clean, your face is clean, and your nails are neat before eating.
- Dress appropriately: Dress is your child's personality and teach them how to dress appropriately for the formality of the dinner.
◐ 2. Seating etiquette
- Wait for the arrangement: Tell your child to sit under the guidance of an adult and not to grab a seat.
- Seat selection: If there is a designated seat, please follow it, if not, let the elder take the seat first.
- Order of meals: This shows respect for the elders. Usually, the elder takes a seat and starts the meal first, and the child should wait for the elder to give the instructions before starting the meal.
In more formal occasions, the host will invite the guest to move the chopsticks first, and the child should wait for all the adults to start the meal before starting the meal.
◐ 3. Etiquette before eating
- Wait for the meal to start: Teach your child to wait for the host to announce the start of the meal and not to rush into using chopsticks.
- Thanksgiving: Before eating, you can follow the adults to bless or thank the person who prepared the food.
◐ 4. Etiquette during meals
- Eat in moderation: Teach your child to eat according to how much they eat, not to be greedy, and to keep their rice bowls full to prevent food from being wasted.
- Elegant pick-up: The Chinese-style dining table is generally a large round table, and children should be taught to pick up dishes from a plate close to them, not to stand up and stretch their chopsticks to the opposite side to pick up and drop vegetables, let alone flip up and down in the plate, and pick what they like to eat.
- Take turns eating: Wait until someone else finishes the dish before finishing it, and avoid reaching out and crossing hands with others.
- Chewing quietly: Chew slowly while eating, and avoid making loud chewing, sucking, or other indecent sounds, which are considered uncivilized eating.
- Use utensils: Use chopsticks, spoons, etc. correctly, do not wave them indiscriminately, and prevent them from poking the eyes of others.
- Don't be a picky eater: Don't show yourself in public even if you don't like certain dishes, and respect the work of others.
◐ 5. Conversation etiquette
- Take turns: Don't interrupt others and wait until they're done.
- Moderate volume: Maintain an appropriate volume and don't spit or make loud noises at the table.
◐ 6. Etiquette after meals
- Help clean up: If you can't wipe your mouth after a meal and walk away, ask if you need help cleaning up the table.
- Thank the host: Show your gratitude to the host after the meal and show appreciation for the food and hospitality.
03 Etiquette when guests come to visit during the Spring Festival
After the 30th anniversary of the Chinese New Year's Eve, visiting relatives and friends is the highlight of the Spring Festival.
Every family member and friend who comes in the door is a messenger of good luck in the coming year.
As the little host of the family, at this time, you should show a warm welcome attitude, and a simple "welcome" or "salutation + hello" can reflect the enthusiasm of hospitality.
Now let's take the children to learn a few etiquettes about receiving guests during the Spring Festival:
◑ 1. Warm welcome: Teach children to welcome every guest who visits politely, which can be a simple sentence of "welcome" or "Happy New Year".
◑ 2. Take the initiative to say hello: Encourage your child to take the initiative to greet guests and use appropriate titles, such as uncle, aunt, uncle, etc., to show respect.
◑ 3. Listen and communicate: Teach children to be patient when talking to guests, listen to them, and not interrupt others while expressing their own opinions appropriately.
◑ 4. Help: Children should learn to pay attention to the needs of their guests, such as whether they need tea or help them with their coats. If a small guest comes for the first time, take the initiative to accompany the little guest to play together to eliminate tension and strangeness.
◑ 5. Appropriate language: Tell your child to use polite words when communicating with guests, such as "please", "thank you", "you're welcome", etc.
◑ 6. Proper table manners: When eating, children need to know how to use utensils correctly, not to talk or chew loudly, and how to politely invite guests to eat first.
◑ 7. Behave appropriately: Teach children to maintain a good sitting and standing posture in front of guests, not to run around, and not to make impolite gestures or expressions.
◑ 8. Respect personal space: Children should know to maintain proper physical distance and do not rummage through guests' personal belongings without permission.
◑ 9. Farewell etiquette: When the guest leaves, you can follow the parents to send the guest to the door, say "slow down on the road", etc.
◑ 10. Tidying and cleaning: After the guests leave, the child should participate in cleaning the reception area to keep the home tidy.
Through these simple but important etiquette, not only can guests feel warm and festive, but also let children learn how to become more educated and polite.
04 Etiquette when visiting someone's house during the Spring Festival
The etiquette of Spring Festival guests is not only the norm of children's external behavior, but also the externalization of internal cultivation.
If a child goes to someone's house and rummages through the owner's things without permission, or even deliberately damages the owner's treasures, he will become a bear child that everyone hates.
If the bear child's behavior is worse, I'm afraid even the relatives won't be able to do it.
Therefore, before taking children to visit the New Year, you must first teach them the basic etiquette of being a guest.
The following are the etiquette of Chinese New Year guests that every child should learn:
◐ 1. Arrive on time: Tell your child the importance of punctuality, whether it is to arrive early or have to be late, be sure to inform the host in advance, which is the most basic respect for the owner.
◐ 2. Polite language: Teach children to knock on the door before entering, take the initiative to say hello after entering, and use polite words, such as "hello", "thank you", "please", etc., these are basic honorifics.
◐ 3. Proper clothing: Clothing is not only a display of personal taste, but also a kind of respect for the owner. During the Spring Festival, children should learn to choose appropriate clothing for different occasions, usually choosing neat and decent, brightly colored clothes to reflect the festive atmosphere.
◐ 4. Give gifts: When visiting other people's homes, in addition to the gifts given by their parents, children can also give their elders some gifts that reflect respect and filial piety, such as handicrafts or a homemade blessing card.
◐ 5. Table manners: During the meal, children should learn to wait for adults to move chopsticks first, not picky eaters, not waste, keep quiet during meals, take the initiative to help clean up after meals, and say "thank you" to the owner who prepares the food.
◐ 6. Know how to share: If other children are present, teach them to learn to share toys or snacks and show a good spirit of cooperation and sharing.
◐ 7. Respect others: Let your child know the rules of respecting the owner's house and not enter the owner's private space (such as the bedroom) to look through objects without permission. After using the restroom or playing, make sure that these places are clean and hygienic and do not leave the owner with additional cleaning work.
◐ 8. Listen politely: When adults are talking, let them learn to listen quietly and not interject at will.
◐ 9. Timely performance: Encourage children to show their talents at the right time, which can be a poem, a calligraphy and painting, a dance, or a musical instrument performance, etc., which is not only a tribute to the owner, but also a reflection of the child's self-confidence.
◐ 10. Thanksgiving farewell: When leaving, the child should take the initiative to express gratitude to the host for his hospitality, and on behalf of the parents, he hopes to have the opportunity to return the invitation.
epilogue
If these Chinese New Year rituals can be internalized into children's good habits, it will help them better integrate into this society in the future.
Let's pass on this Spring Festival etiquette culture together, turn it into confidence and generosity in children, and make them more dazzling in the new year!