Excerpt from the Internet: Original Nansai Reading
Whoever rejects his parents' discipline will lose the opportunity to be a human being in the first place. —Haji Abubakar Imang
For children, there is nothing more cherished than a pair of kind parents.
Good parents can heal their children's lives, so as the saying goes, a child with a mother is like a treasure, and a child without a mother is a grass, and that's the truth.
However, there are always children who are orphaned for various reasons and live in orphanages and take care of each other.
But after all, the orphanage can only ensure food and clothing, and cannot give them enough care.
Therefore, adoption becomes a good way to find a suitable family for each orphan after rigorous vetting, so that they can have a healthy and abundant life.
According to reports, tens of thousands of children are adopted each year to form a new family with their adoptive parents.
However, there is one phenomenon that has always puzzled people, because a significant number of adopters are Americans.
In the past three decades alone, more than 100,000 Chinese children have been adopted to the United States, 86 percent of them girls.
So why don't Americans adopt on their home soil?
And why are most of their adoptees girls?
Today, we will analyze this "strange phenomenon" from two reasons.
- Ancient thoughts, abandonment of baby girls
If there is anything that is the best of bad habits in Chinese civilization up to now, it must be "patriarchy".
Because of this ancient thinking, many girls have fallen into a deep predicament in life.
There are even people who give birth one after another in order to spell out a boy, and "sister and brother families" are not uncommon.
Compared with these "sister and brother families", there is another category of people whose nature is even worse.
They will choose to give birth to a child who will find out that the child is not the son of their dreams, so they artificially abandon the baby girl, which is very common in the world of the elderly.
Most of the abandoned baby girls are sent to orphanages.
Of course, in addition to some old people with outdated ideas, many people from poor families usually discard girls who are physically inferior in order to maximize their "benefits" in the future after giving birth.
Of course, the logic behind this is patriarchal.
In addition, many unmarried men and women who are pregnant can only be adopted after giving birth to children, but girls are still very unpopular.
The girl who couldn't be raised ended up in an orphanage.
For all these reasons, the orphanage is the polar opposite of what happens in real life.
There are more women than men, which has almost become a major problem in the orphanage.
- Adoption ratio, more females than males
In addition to the natural imbalance between men and women in orphanages, Americans are more likely to choose to adopt girls, often because of their thoughts.
Over the years, many people have fallen into the misconception that Americans are open-minded and do not favor sons over women.
In fact, Americans also have a preference for sons, but they are relatively not as obvious as some people, and they are treated differently and in learning.
Americans favor sons over daughters, which is more manifested in the distribution of "love".
To give an example that is very common in the United States, if an American family has two children in school, then they get the same pocket money.
However, boys in the family often receive calls and care from their parents, while girls are more likely to adopt the free-range method, and their attention has plummeted.
But when faced with adoption, they often want to adopt a Chinese girl.
One of the first reasons is that Americans have a stereotype that they naturally think that Chinese girls are synonymous with filial piety and well-behaved.
Because in their opinion, Chinese society is not developed. Many girls tend to be more "traditional", so Chinese girls will naturally shoulder the responsibility of providing for the elderly.
This is difficult to happen in the United States, because of their social estrangement, and the relationship between parents and children is often indifferent.
This has made many elderly Americans fall into a situation where they have nothing to rely on and have nothing to support them.
So, for many American adopters, raising a Chinese daughter is to insure their old age.
Second, it is necessary to return to the issue of preference for sons over daughters in China.
Because of the preference for sons, traditional families often do not actively choose to abandon boys, unless the boy has a serious illness or major physical defects.
This leads to an inevitable situation in which disabled and powerless boys often compete with healthy, lovely girls for adoption.
Then it is obvious that most people will choose girls who are in good health.
After all, the purpose of the adopter is very straightforward, that is, he hopes to have a child who can make his family complete and make fun of his grandchildren.
If you choose to adopt a disabled child, the responsibilities and money you have to pay will be doubled, which is really not a good deal. ”
- Adoption is harsh and laborious
In fact, since the promulgation of the Adoption Law in the mainland, many people from different countries will come to China for adoption.
Because we have an attitude that adoption can be carried out regardless of skin color, regardless of nationality, as long as the conditions are met.
This non-discriminatory attitude has given many Americans a sense of respect, and they are more willing to come to China for adoption.
The second is that because the adoption policy in the United States is very harsh, they don't even have certain rules.
Even if the adopter finally passes the adoption policy, the cumbersome procedures can be prohibitive.
Take Ohio, for example, in the United States, to adopt a child.
First of all, they must go through the assessment of the family's situation, they must not only ensure that the child is well fed and clothed, but also require that the child receive a good education.
This alone will dissuade many people, after all, American college tuition is extremely expensive and not affordable for ordinary families.
Second, even if the financial resources can meet the conditions for adoption, then there is a need to queue up to enter the adoption process, and this does not guarantee that the adopter will be able to adopt a child who meets his or her requirements.
Moreover, before the adoption process is officially initiated, the adopter's family will also have to do a detailed psychological evaluation, family criminal history, etc.
These costs usually add up to a full $100,000.
Therefore, it often takes two or three years, or even five or six years, from the time the adoption process enters the child's new home.
This long wait has naturally created an unfathomable estrangement between the family and the child.
More like strangers living under the same roof and not being able to establish an emotional connection.
But for China, as long as these adoptive families can ensure the healthy and happy growth of their children, then there will be corresponding simplifications in procedures and costs.
Therefore, in such a comparison, Americans naturally like to come to China for child adoption.
But these phenomena have eased in recent years, after all, the Chinese have become richer, and the pressure of raising a baby is not so great.
Therefore, many Chinese are also willing to give their love and adopt orphans.
But whether it is a Chinese adopter or an American adopter, as long as they can give those poor orphans a warm home, everything is enough.
Letting every child have the most beautiful smile is the common goal of our whole society!