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My name is Li Hong and I am 68 years old this year. Before I retired, I worked as an accountant in a state-owned enterprise, and my life was regular and uneventful. After I retired, my life became boring, and my daughter-in-law wouldn't let me do housework, so I could only watch TV at home every day, which was really boring.
One day, I accidentally saw a group of aunties dancing in the square of our community. Dressed in brightly colored costumes, they waved their hands to the music, their faces filled with excitement and joy. I was immediately intrigued, and a surge of interest and passion ignited in my heart.
From that day on, I was part of the square dance team. We would gather at the square every morning at 10 a.m. and dance together for more than an hour. Although my dancing style was clumsy and I often couldn't remember the dance steps, I still put my heart and soul into it. Square dancing not only exercised my body and brought my old bones back to life, but also allowed me to find the joy of life and meet a group of lovely friends.
My best friend is named Zhang Yu, who is the same year as me, and has a cheerful and generous personality. She is divorced and now lives with a boyfriend who is 10 years her junior. Her daughter disagreed with her lifestyle and had not contacted her for several years.
My son also didn't approve of me square dancing. One day, as soon as I came back from a square dance, I was happily humming a song, and my daughter-in-law frowned and said to me, "Mom, can you stop dancing with those idle people every day, what a shame!"
I immediately became angry: "I want to dance and mix with whomever is my freedom! I don't spend your money, what's your business!"
My daughter-in-law immediately replied to me: "You have disgraced us like this! How unseemly it is to bounce around the square in strange clothes all day long!"
"It's my business whether to be decent or not, it's none of your business!" I yelled, "I love to dance and find joy in life, so why would you deprive me of my happiness?"
"Because you're going to affect your son's job and career!" The daughter-in-law also raised her voice, "Your son is a salesman in a foreign company, and if the people in the company know that his mother is messing around with a group of unemployed homeless people all day long and dancing square dances, they will have a bad evaluation of his work!"
"I don't care what they think!" I said angrily, "My son's career is up to him, and it has nothing to do with me!
"You uncivilized old woman!" The daughter-in-law was annoyed and angry, "Wait until I tell your son, see if he still agrees to you to dance!"
"Tell him to go!" I said confidently, "Even if he doesn't agree, I'll do it secretly."
I'm 68 years old, and I can't do it at my son's beheels? Don't I have the power to make decisions about my own life?"
After an argument with my daughter-in-law, I went back to my room in a huff. After a while, I figured it out and decided to do it anyway. Square dancing is my pleasure and one of the few sources of joy I have since I retired, and I can't just give up because my daughter-in-law is obstructed.
I told her about the quarrel I had with my daughter-in-law yesterday. Zhang Yu smiled and said, "Oh, don't pay attention to those people, let's just be happy with ourselves!"
I also laughed: "Yes, the fun is your own, it has nothing to do with others!"
"Yes, yes, yes!" Zhang Yu echoed, "I also quarreled with my daughter because of this, and then I figured it out, the children are on their own, she can't control my life, and I can't control her." She doesn't agree that I am with Xiao Wang, that's her business, dancing is my business, everyone has their own fun, and they have fun!"
I nodded, and Zhang Yu's cheerful attitude infected me. We danced and chatted, and I felt much lighter.
After dinner, my eldest son called and said in a serious tone: "Mom, I heard my daughter-in-law say, how do you know to dance with those people all day long? Besides, you're embarrassed like this, and if the people I meet at work know about it, their evaluation of me will be affected. Mom, can't you change it, don't you run around and dance all day?"
I immediately shot back: "I know my body, you don't have to worry about it, my body is much better when I dance than when I don't." As for whether to lose people or not, that's my business, and it's none of your business. You do your job well, don't use me as a shield!"
"Mom, can you listen to me?" The eldest son raised his voice, "It's not good for our family's reputation, can't you be considerate of us?"
"Considerate?" I asked, "I've been deprived of the joy of life."
Be considerate of you? I don't spend a penny on dancing without spending a penny on you, and I don't do anything illegal or undisciplined, so what's there to be considerate of? I'm old, and that's all this simple pleasure, and you still have to deprive it, it's too unbelievable!"
"Mom, it's not about money. The eldest son was still trying to persuade me, "This is related to the image and reputation of our family, can you think about us a little?"
"The image and reputation are built by you, and it has nothing to do with me!" I said forcefully, "My way of life is not illegal, and you have no right to interfere with me! Even if you don't agree with me dancing, I will go secretly, you can't stop it!"
I hung up on my eldest son's phone, and I felt very uncomfortable. After a while, Zhang Yu called to comfort me: "Sister Hong, don't be angry, let's go out for dinner and chat together to relax, okay?"
I readily agreed. Also going out to eat together is Zhang Yu's boyfriend Xiao Wang. Xiao Wang also often participates in our square dance activities. During the meal, I told them about the situation at home.
Xiao Wang smiled and said: "Oh, children always want to control their parents and not let their parents live too openly. But our generation has experienced reform and opening up, and has seen strong winds and waves, so we are naturally more enlightened than them!"
Zhang Yu also said: "That's it! Their generation is too conservative, and their concepts can't keep up with the times." But it's not illegal for us to dance, no matter what they say!"
When I listened to them, I felt much better: "You're right! We just want to live each day happily, whatever they say!"
I said confidently, "What he says is none of my business! This is my life, and I have the final say!"
"You disobedient old woman!" The daughter-in-law roared angrily, "Look how I cleaned you up today!"
She snatched my dance costume from my hand and threw it in the trash. I hurriedly stepped forward to retrieve my costume: "What are you doing!
"I bought something, what do I throw away!" The daughter-in-law yelled loudly.
"What's the difference between what you buy and what I buy!" I also mentioned
My daughter-in-law and I had another fight at home over my dancing. This quarrel involved my son as well.
"Mom, do you listen to me!" The son also started a fire, "I said you weren't allowed to dance, why are you still disobedient!"
"I'm 68 years old and have the right to live the life I want!" I didn't back down, "Dancing is my pleasure, you have no right to deprive me of my joy!"
"Fun or not, when you should be obedient, you should be obedient!" The son said forcefully.
"Listen to you? I sneered, "My life is in my hands, you can't control it!"
"You!" The son was anxious by what I said, and slammed his fist on the table, "You unfilial mother!"
"Not filial piety, I raised you to adulthood is the greatest filial piety!" I also got excited, "Now you want to deprive me of my fun, this is the real unfilial piety!"
"You!" My son was speechless by my words, and his face turned red.
"Okay, don't quarrel with your mother and son. The daughter-in-law persuaded on the side, "Let's take a step back today, let's dissipate our anger." ”
"Kill what!" I'm still angry, "I'm being deprived of my rights, what can I do to be angry!"
With that, I slammed the door and ran to the park bench and sat down, crying bitterly. After crying, I called Zhang Yu and Xiao Wang and told them about my quarrel with my children.
"Hey, that's the generation gap. Zhang Yu comforted me and said, "Our generation is more open, and they can't accept it." But after all, the relationship is mother and son, so we still have to communicate more and don't get too stiff. ”
Xiao Wang also said: "Yes, family harmony is the most important. But you can't listen to them completely, stick to your own way of life. ”
I listened to their advice and felt a little calmer. When I came home in the evening, I took the initiative to apologize to my son: "Son, I'm sorry, I was too excited to talk today, don't you mind." ”
The son also apologized: "Mom, I shouldn't have talked to you like that, I was wrong." Let's take our time. ”
That night, our mother and son had a good communication. Finally, I expressed my love for dancing, and my son also expressed respect for my choice. We made an agreement that I would dance 3 days a week and spend the rest of the time with my family. I'm not very satisfied, but it's acceptable for the time being.
Since then, I have continued to square dance 3 days a week. My children have come to accept my way of life. I feel the most precious thing in my life
The thing is happiness and freedom. Although my children and I have differences in lifestyle, blood is thicker than water, and we still need to understand and tolerate each other.
One day, my daughter-in-law suddenly said to me, "Mom, you look so good when you come back from dancing, and you look more energetic." ”
I smiled and said, "yes, dancing makes me feel happy and my whole body is active." ”
"Actually, there's nothing wrong with you dancing, I overreacted before. The daughter-in-law was a little embarrassed, "The most important thing is that you are happy, and we should respect your choice." ”
"Daughter-in-law, thank you for saying that, I'm very pleased. "I hugged her with emotion.
"Mom, I'm sorry, I went too far before. That night, my son confessed to me, "The most important thing is that you are happy, and I should not deprive you of fun." ”
"You're right, Mom. The son nodded, "I will support you in dancing in the future." ”
I looked at my son with relief. The relationship between our mother and son has become more harmonious.
"yes. I happily said, "My family and I finally came to an understanding and I was able to dance to my heart's content." This kind of happiness is the most precious treasure in my life. ”
"Great!" Zhang Yu and other friends were happy for me. "With the support of our families, we will have more fun dancing!"
After dancing that day, my son actually drove to the square to pick me up, and called Zhang Yu and Xiao Wang to eat together. During the meal, my son said to me, "Mom, I want to apologize to your friend, I shouldn't have stopped you from dancing before." ”
"Son, I don't like to hear what you say. I smiled and said, "Our mother and son have understood each other, let's not talk about the past." ”
"Sister Hong, your son is so filial. Zhang Yu said happily, "We will definitely help you take care of your mother." ”
"Yes, we have so much fun dancing, your son must rest assured!" Xiao Wang also said.
On that day, I gathered with my son and friends, and my heart was full of happiness. I feel that life is all about living each day happily and understanding and respecting each other with family and friends. Although there was a generation gap between me and my children, blood is thicker than water after all. With a family
Yes, I can dance to my heart's content and enjoy the joy of life.
In this way, my life became more colorful. The days of dancing three days a week became the happiest time for me. Dancing friends have also become an important part of my life.
After a day of dancing, everyone sat on the benches in the square and chatted. Zhang Yu said to me: "Sister Hong, I see that you have been in good spirits recently, have you found a love partner?"
I smiled and said, "No, I'm 68 years old, where can I still fall in love." I just feel like I'm living life to the fullest. ”
"What's not to do, feelings don't matter age. Zhang Yu said with a grin. "Right, Xiao Wang?"
"Well, Aunt Zhang is right. Xiao Wang nodded, "Aunt Hong, you are still in good health, you can find another companion." ”
I was a little embarrassed, waved my hand and said, "Oh, at my age, it's enough to have a child with me, and I don't dare to ask for anything in love." ”
"Sister Hong, don't keep thinking about age. Zhang Yu advised me, "The important thing is whether you are happy or not, don't care about the rest!"
I listened, was silent for a while, and then smiled and said, "You're right, it's important to be happy." Maybe I can really try to find a partner, after all, life is still long. ”
"Yes, yes, that's what it looks like!" Zhang Yu applauded happily, "We will definitely fully support you in finding a partner!"
I smiled and nodded, a small anticipation welling up in my heart. Perhaps, I can open my heart and find the company of my other half again, and this life may be more enriching.
From that day on, every time I danced, Zhang Yu would introduce me to some single men. I'm a little shy, but I'll be polite enough to talk to them. Zhang Yu and Xiao Wang would also coax on the side, which made me feel both happy and a little embarrassed.
In this way, with the encouragement of my friends, my life became more colorful. I felt like I could look forward to another relationship, which made me even more hopeful about the future. Life is too short, I want to grasp every happy moment and enjoy the beauty of life.