Buyi was bored switching TV channels, and was suddenly attracted by an audience interactive variety show. The host is happily welcoming the two guests - Hong Kong stars Carina Lau and Cecilia Cheung.
I saw Carina Lau say with a smile: "I live a very comfortable life now, not only do I have a successful person in the business world as my husband, but I also often ask superstars like Faye Wong to play mahjong and chat together."
Bu Yi saw a smug smile and arrogance on her face, and couldn't help but think in her heart, this is the show-off life of a rich man.
In contrast, Cecilia Cheung is tired, she has just divorced her rich second-generation husband, and she lives alone with two children, and the pressure can be imagined.
But to Buyi's surprise, when the host asked her how she felt now, Cecilia Cheung did not choose to complain or feel sorry for herself, but said calmly: "My whole world now is my two children, as long as I can be by their side, even if life is hard."
These words were like a heavy hammer, smashing into Buyi's heart. He realized that the true meaning of life is not to have and not to have, but to be content and happy. Carina Lau is rich on the outside but not happy on the inside, while Cecilia Cheung is difficult on the outside but happy on the inside.
This inspired him to think about the meaning of life, especially when he has gone through ups and downs and reached his twilight years, what is the most important thing to have.
On this day, Buyi came to the community where her parents lived, ready to visit her neighbor Uncle who lived alone. Uncle is 72 years old, he and his wife are only children, and the children have since gone abroad to develop, and rarely come back to see them.
Buyi rang the doorbell for a long time and no one answered, and then he remembered that the uncle had mentioned that he would go to the hospital for a physical examination today, so he had to give up. On the way back, Buyi suddenly saw a scene - a white-haired old lady sitting alone on a bench in the community flower garden, looking at the laughing children with a blank face.
Buyi's heart suddenly twitched, and he realized how empty and pitiful the twilight life without children was. As old uncles and old ladies, even if they live in a sunny community, their hearts are cold, because they have no one to accompany them in their old days.
This is completely different from the parents in Buyi's memory, even if the conditions are difficult, but the whole family sits around the shabby table to eat and is full of warmth, because having children and grandchildren is the happiest thing in the world.
Thinking of this, Buyi couldn't help but think of the allusion of the ancients who moved mountains. It is precisely because of the vision of countless children and grandchildren in his heart that Yugong can carry the mountain repeatedly with hope in difficult circumstances.
The inheritance of future generations can continue the value of a person, which is the most powerful sustenance of the soul of the elderly.
Turn off the TV, and Buyi sits quietly in the twilight room. He remembered his college classmate Ma Qiang, who used to have a good relationship with the two of them. But in recent years, there has been little contact, and it wasn't until not long ago that Buyi learned from his old classmates that Ma Qiang's son had gone astray - he dropped out of high school and became a troubled youth addicted to games.
This news hit Buyi very hard, Ma Qiang was a scholarly figure when he was studying, and after work, he rose step by step, and got the position of vice president of the provincial key hospital. Buyi still remembers that Ma Qiang is always busy with scientific research and management work, often going out for meetings and business trips, and his wife is responsible for the care and education of his son.
Now that his son has gone astray, Ma Qiang's guilt and self-blame can be imagined.
Buyi sighed heavily, and he began to reflect on the importance of his children's education. Li Meijin, a success expert, said that education is the focus of the family. Parents can't just focus on work and neglect parenting responsibilities.
Ma Qiang was busy with his career, and in the end, he worked hard to make money but lost his son, which is really embarrassing. Parents need to correct the work-family imbalance in time to avoid regrets like Ma Qiang.
A report on the reform of the pension system was being broadcast on TV, and Buyi was watching as he calculated his retirement income. He found that even if he received a monthly pension after retirement, plus a little interest on his savings and the occasional small allowance for his children, his life would be stretched.
Such an expectation makes Buyi a little worried, after all, the cost of seeing a doctor when he is sick will only get higher and higher. However, he quickly adjusted his mentality and did not pin all his hopes on his children like his parents' generation.
Because young people are generally under a lot of pressure nowadays, and their children are also facing the double challenge of finding a job and buying a house, the excessive financial burden is unrealistic after all.
Buyi realized that his generation must not only prevent problems before they happen, but also actively respond through a multi-pronged approach such as saving, investing, and buying insurance; It is also necessary to rely on raising children to prevent old age, and by cultivating their children's ability to live independently and start a family, they will strive to have spare energy to feed their parents in the future.
This two-pronged common defense mechanism can not only reduce the burden on children, but also give oneself hope for old age and achieve a win-win situation.
All kinds of thoughts and perceptions in the past few days have given Buyi a life enlightenment - to be kind to children, but also to be kind to life.
Treating children well is reflected in daily words and deeds, not only to warn children to have a sense of justice and compassion, but also to show moral strength with practical actions, so that children can subtly cultivate benevolence.
At the same time, it is important to give your children enough freedom to avoid their spirit and talents, believing that their blood brothers and sisters will eventually repay their parents when needed.
And being kind to life is first embodied in maintaining a positive, optimistic and grateful attitude. Many elderly people complain about the unfairness of life all day long, and complain about the sky, which results in extremely poor popularity, and their children are reluctant to approach.
You must know that love comes from the heart, and you must first learn to love yourself and face life positively, so that people around you will take the initiative to support and encourage. Secondly, we must also cultivate our own morality, not be consumed by profit, do evil, and do more good deeds, which is the only way to keep our children and win the respect of others.
Buyi believes that as long as we always maintain our good nature, influence our family and friends with the power of benevolence, and continue to accumulate positive energy, then there is hope for a happy life and a harmonious family to be passed on from generation to generation.
That's what life is all about.