Xie Na fell into postpartum depression after her second child: "I am very depressed when I see everything, and I cry at the slightest little thing"

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Moms who have experienced postpartum depression, have you all come out?

Pregnant mothers have seen many mothers share their depression experiences,

Having a mother is self-help, relying on her own strong psychological construction and diversion of attention.

Having a mother is rescued, and it is the company and support of their family and husband that gives them strength.

Recently, Xie Na also shared her experience of overcoming postpartum depression.

also pushed postpartum depression to the hot search again.

Some netizens don't understand: why Xie Na, who is so optimistic, also has postpartum depression.

But sometimes postpartum depression really can't be overcome by pure optimism.

In the show, Xie Na said that she took a year off after her second child, during which she was in a very poor state because of postpartum depression.

I am very depressed and often cry because of a little thing.

Although her family has done everything very well, her emotions are still sensitive and fragile, and she is very "twisted".

Later, she returned to work, and during the recording of "Friends, Please Listen", her friends and the audience healed her and poured out her pain.

I also received the energy of others, and I slowly came out and got better.

After reading Xie Na's sharing, many mothers expressed their deep feelings:

"I was also depressed after giving birth, which was terrible, but I got better through exercise and a change of environment. ”

"I think postpartum mothers will have some more or less, but some symptoms are mild, some symptoms are severe, and that feeling of powerlessness may only be experienced by girls who have given birth to babies. ”

"Please don't ignore the emotions of any mother around you, and please think twice before you speak. ”

"Postpartum depression doesn't have much to do with whether you are cheerful or not, just like a cold has nothing to do with your cheerfulness. ”

That's right, even the most optimistic people can get postpartum depression.

And for mothers with postpartum depression, it is really important to find a support point and the strength to heal themselves.

Pregnant mothers today shared the experiences of several mothers with postpartum depression, hoping to help more people understand and get out of "postpartum depression".

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"I'm optimistic, positive and strong

But I still can't control my postpartum depression."

Postpartum depression, sometimes mothers really can't control it.

Even if the baby is healthy, the family is harmonious, and the husband loves and takes care of him 100%, the unexplained depression can't be stopped.

Olympic champion Liu Xuan, she once posted a Weibo to tell her experience of postpartum depression.

During that time, she was very ill...

She is an optimistic athlete with an extremely strong mentality.

But despite this, the postpartum period also experienced collapse and disintegration...

In the most difficult time, she didn't want to talk to others at all, as if she was separated from others by a wall, and she couldn't communicate normally with her family and friends, so she fell into deep self-doubt and was very pessimistic.

"A light overhead, I'm afraid it will fall and hit me. ”

"When I'm in a bad mood, when I see that knife, I feel a little bit of that urge. ”

This kind of pessimism and self-doubt made Liu Xuan cry silently for many late nights.

Sometimes when I am particularly broken, I feel irritable when I listen to my son's crying, I want to escape, I want to dodge, and I even want to give my son away....

After experiencing the double pain of cesarean section, she didn't even have time to breathe, and began to live as a mother 24 hours a day.

Feeding every day, waking up at night, sleeping... The baby needs her to be there, and the pain in her body and the drastic changes in hormones overwhelm her.

She once thought that her heart was strong enough to hold on to her game, no matter in her life, but this time, she didn't hold her postpartum depression.

During the postpartum period, it was dark and helpless and could not see the light.

Later, she realized that she was "sick", and then tried hard to deliberately correct her thoughts, so that she slowly came out of postpartum depression...

Liu Xuan said: In the process of pregnancy and childbirth, the endocrine environment in the body will change greatly, especially within 24 hours after giving birth, the hormone level in the body changes sharply, and we can't even control the "postpartum depression"... And it began...

To defeat it, we must face it squarely, postpartum depression is not vexatious and not hypocritical, but really sick.....

That's right, postpartum depression is not hypocrisy, it's really sick.

Do you know what kind of state a mother will go through after giving birth?

After childbirth, the mother's estrogen and progesterone levels drop dramatically, and the mother becomes prone to mood swings, anxiety, sadness, or irritability, which is the main cause of depression after childbirth.

These depressive emotions are the most serious within 2 weeks after giving birth, and some mothers can recover from postpartum depression on their own in 3~6 months, but serious ones can last for 1~2 years.

Therefore, if the mother finds that she is not in the right mood after giving birth, she must seek help from her family in time.

Family members should also pay attention to postpartum depression and give postpartum mothers support and encouragement.

For mothers with postpartum depression, it is like being trapped in a dry well, and if they can't find a support point, it is difficult for them to walk ashore on their own.

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"Postpartum depression drained me of all my energy

All I have in my life is tiredness and powerlessness."

Mothers who have given birth know that postpartum depression is really too common.

Because the changes that pregnancy and childbirth bring to a woman are really earth-shaking, both physically and psychologically.

It can be said that after becoming a mother, everything has changed.

This change will be overwhelming for many mothers.

Mao Wan, a post-90s mother in Shanghai, suffered from postpartum depression after experiencing painful wounds after cesarean section, bitten breastfeeding, and severe lack of sleep.

Some people may say that mothers come over like this, why are you depressed?

But without personal experience, there is really no way to empathize.

After a caesarean section, the incision hurts, and a cough, a movement, and a stand can pull the wound, which makes people feel so painful that they break out in a cold sweat.

and then to feeding the child, swelling pain, cracked nipples, mastitis, each of which is no less painful than the pain of giving birth.

There is also a slag-based sleep, and the sky at 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6 in the morning, all of you have seen it.

Those countless sleepy-eyed moments of breastfeeding the child, changing diapers, and coaxing the child day and night will make people extremely tired.

Mao Wan, who fell into postpartum depression, only felt physically and mentally exhausted and couldn't see any light in her life.

She said: I feel that my life has no focus except for my children, and my life is full of fatigue and powerlessness.

In order to cheer herself up, she picked up her previous hobby and used crochet to crochet toys and clothes for her children.

Because of her hobby, Mao Wan often visits handicraft websites, and she finds that there are often weaving enthusiasts abroad who wrap the streets with colorful wool, and most of the themes are "focusing on depression".

And Mao Wan also found that knitting can really help her get rid of those bad emotions.

Because she was deeply depressed, she also found inspiration to knit a sweater for the railing, with the theme of "Focus on Postpartum Depression".

Her idea was also supported by the property, and together they held a knitting event in the community called "Focus on Postpartum Depression".

With the help of many friends, Mao Wan completed this activity in 4 months, covering 500 meters of railings, 500 dolls of all sizes, and the painting style of the entire street is super healing.

Mao Wan said: I walked out of postpartum depression through weaving, and I hope that more mothers can also get out of the shadow of depression in their own way.

Pregnant mothers also hope that mothers with postpartum depression can regain their confidence in life and love themselves while loving their babies.

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Self-help and being saved

It is the best way out of depression!

Postpartum depression can happen to every postpartum mother, and only by understanding it can it be truly cured.

Seeing is the beginning of all healing, companionship and care are the cure for postpartum depression.

On the topic of postpartum depression, a mother said this:

When I just gave birth, I didn't talk all day, I kept crying, my husband asked me what I was crying about, I said I didn't know, I just wanted to cry, my husband ran to the hospital for consultation, the doctor said it was postpartum depression, to care more about the mother, my husband was scared to death, he didn't even dare to go to work when he got home, he helped me watch the child at home, chatted with me, and slowly got better, now I think about it is really scary.

Only by recognizing your emotions and seeking help from your family in time can you get rid of the predicament of depression.

1. Self-help - don't force yourself to be a 100-point mother

●Do not demand perfection. No one can be a perfect mother, don't be too demanding of yourself, lowering psychological expectations can reduce some of the burden.

●Divert attention. Don't always focus on the bad things, focus more on the things that are pleasant, or the things you enjoy. Communicate with others and develop hobbies.

● Relax appropriately. Taking care of children is a physical task, and children sleep irregularly, so when children are resting, they should also try to rest themselves and adjust their life content appropriately.

● Take the initiative to ask for help. When you feel helpless and emotionally broken, you can confide in your partner, girlfriends, and parents for help, and don't carry it on your own all the time.

2. Being rescued - the support and encouragement of my husband and family

●Communicate in a timely manner. Learn more about the inner suffering of postpartum mothers, upgrading from a little girl to a mother, this role change is sometimes too sudden and will have a certain impact on the mother's emotions, and this gap in the heart needs someone to guide her, especially the husband.

●Understand the mother's mentality and identify with the mother's feelings. If the family finds that the mother is in a bad mood, they should empathize and give full understanding, instead of blaming the mother for being too fragile and sensitive, just like Xie Yilin said, when taking care of the baby is tired and out of the body, it really just needs to have enough love from the husband to be full of energy again.

●Give more companionship to postpartum mothers. Let her feel the warmth and care from her family at all times, hug her when she is tired, and coax the child when she cries, so that she feels that she is not alone.

●The husband should take care of the children more and take on the task of cleaning up the house. Take the initiative to soak in the milk and change diapers at night so that she can have plenty of time to rest and relax.

For many mothers, the companionship and understanding from family members is a kind of healing in itself, which can make mothers feel the sunshine from their families and help them relieve depression faster.

3. Assess dangerous emotions

If mothers find themselves with postpartum depression, it is important to assess the state of depression.

One is normal postpartum depression. Because of hormones, it's normal to experience anxiety, fatigue and mood swings during confinement.

There are not many mothers who haven't cried and made a fuss, but afterwards they feel strange, why are they so emotional?

It's really not hypocritical. It took a full 10 months of pregnancy for estrogen and progesterone to increase 10 times, and it only took 72 hours after giving birth to return to the pre-pregnancy state, and no one could stand it!

This kind of depression can usually be slowly self-regulated, and it will gradually disappear after confinement, and most postpartum mothers have postpartum depression and have not risen to the point of illness. As long as the family, especially the husband, is more accompanied and cared for at this time, the depression of the mother can be relieved in time.

The other is severe postpartum depression. Insomnia, intense mood swings, intense irritability, difficulty in getting close to your baby, loss of appetite, and suicidal thoughts may occur.

These symptoms may persist for several months, which is a case of special concern, and if seeking help from a family member does not work well, it is important to see a psychologist.

Finally, I would like to say to all mothers:

Let go of excessive self-requirements, treat yourself gently, and don't force yourself to be a 100-point mother.

When you encounter difficulties, seek help from your family, and don't stand up alone.

If you are unlucky enough to meet a good mother-in-law, then keep your distance from your mother-in-law.

Eat well, sleep well, see a doctor if you have any illness, and have a good body is more important than anything else.

Finally, I would like to say to all husbands:

After giving birth, you must give your wife a little more thoughtfulness and love, accompany her, encourage her, support her, understand her...

If there is less milk, don't let your wife blame yourself, only if the mother is happy, the baby can be happy, it really doesn't work, milk powder can also provide nutrition for the baby.

If your wife is in a bad mood, hug her and tell her that you are always there.

If your wife is tired and tired, please take on the task of taking care of the baby so that she can rest well.

As a husband, take on the responsibilities of a partner, share the stress of parenting, and let your wife know that she is not fighting alone.

Then, all the difficulties and bad emotions of bringing a baby can be shared.

I also hope that all mothers will seek help from the people around them in time when they notice that they are depressed, moms are not superhuman, don't bear everything alone!

I hope that every mother who is desperate to give birth to a child will learn to cherish herself before learning to love her child!

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