Kindergarten, for most parents and children, is a special place. It is not only a place to learn, but also the first stage for children to begin to socialize.
Here, children learn to interact, share, cooperate with other children, and also experience various emotional ups and downs. Parents are full of expectations and worries about the kindergarten.
They want their children to be well cared for and educated here, but they are also worried that they will be physically harmed.
In the eyes of many parents, children are their everything. They are afraid that their children will not be touched, and this emotion is so strong that whenever the child has to go to school alone in the relatively unfamiliar environment, the parents' hearts are full of uneasiness and anxiety.
Kindergarten is the child's initiation stage, and although the content of learning is relatively simple, the learning attitude and emotional development cultivated at this stage are crucial for the child.
In the development of society, parents are becoming more and more aware of the protection of their children, but the ensuing question is, are parents overly anxious and overprotective of their children? And is this protection really good for the child? Here we should mention a phenomenon that is quietly emerging: "cold violence" in kindergartens.
Let me share a real-world example. One parent started kindergarten early because of her 3-year-old daughter, Miao Miao, because of her work.
The day before Miao Miao went to school, the excitement and anticipation were overflowing, which made parents feel a lot relieved. However, it didn't take long for Miao Miao to start reluctant to go to school and became more and more introverted.
At first, the parents thought that the school's discipline and management system made Miao Miao nervous, but later found that the problem was far more complicated than expected.
Miao Miao encountered "cold violence" in kindergarten. Although she was not bullied by her teachers and classmates, she was openly criticized by her teachers and isolated by her classmates because of a narrow mistake. This situation for a child is actually a huge damage.
The terrible thing about cold violence is that it is an imperceptible injury. It does not leave visible marks on the child's body or deep scars in the child's heart.
Miao Miao's example is how harmful an infectious disease is to children, so much so that Miao Miao developed a strong dislike of school and began to become more and more introverted.
Parents should pay enough attention. When children are introverted, tired of school, and increasingly unconfident, parents should find and deal with it in time.
Because, children in kindergarten are energetic, they are not afraid of nature, and if they suddenly stop liking school, then there must be some reason behind it.
We cannot simply blame all parties for the cold violence. Teachers, parents, classmates, and even the children themselves can all be the cause of cold violence.
It is the teacher's responsibility to ensure that every child is treated fairly and lovingly in school. But at the same time, parents should also educate and guide their children to avoid self-centered thoughts.
In addition, the child's own personality and habits can also be the cause of their exposure to cold violence. Willful, overbearing, introverted, or other bad habits can all cause them to suffer isolation among their peers.
To prevent cold violence, parents, teachers and children need to work together. Parents should maintain good communication with their children and teachers, find and solve problems in time, and ensure their children's physical health.
Kindergarten is an important stage in a child's life, and we should all create a warm and harmonious learning environment for children to harvest happiness and growth here.