From this group of divorced, outdated women, I found the code for relaxation

Sister Lang season 4, occasionally watched a few episodes.

Compared with the first and second seasons of chasing with eyes, the third season is used to it, and by the fourth season, the habits have become natural - the girl group dance is not unusual, even the fact that Gong Linna is coming to dance the girl group dance does not make me nervous...

This "big show" in the reality show is not so dazzling, but it reveals "real people".

1. Public fairness, depending on the mood

It must be noted that although the "reality show" participates in real people, in most cases, the "plot" is also written by screenwriters and requires real people to perform - I know this very well.

Therefore, many love reality shows, many turn against each other afterwards, and several couples who really negotiated have also broken up one after another (of course, there are also those who are really married);

A reality show like Sister Lang who wants to examine "singing and dancing ability", the final winner is not really the strongest person in singing and dancing.

Behind the "rules of the game" clearly and clearly known by reality shows, there is another set of rules to examine another "comprehensive strength".

When I was in my teens and twenties, I would really be angry about this "unfairness", and it was better to sing and dance for the obvious, but the "sister" who was forced to be eliminated was uneven.

But I'm 39 years old (ahahaha) and I'm mature.

For example, this year's highly acclaimed Zhuzhu Bar, people are really good-looking, family conditions are very good, education is also handy, mixed with Hollywood, and was ranked 22nd on the "100 most beautiful faces in the world" ranking page.

But she can become popular today, or because she returned to China and met a few just happened TV series, partnered with a few young actors who happened to be in the limelight - this is actually the same path as Zhao Liying's rural girl who has nothing to become popular in the end, work hard yourself, work hard for a long time, may just happen to meet.

After Zhu Zhu became red, a large number of fans went to "archeology" She was continuously suppressed and bullied by a male star in the game reality show a few years ago, but she did not cry, did not make trouble, did not give up, insisted on working hard again, and finally won the championship.

A new word was invented this year to describe Zhu Zhu as a big heroine with "such a stable core" - you see, can such a girl not be liked?

She is so attractive, so hard-working, so popular and so beautiful recently, even if her singing and dancing skills are not the best, of course we still hope that she stays, right!

Is this fair, or is it unfair?

Both.

If we decide that Sister Lang's rule is "give you a week to practice singing and dancing, whoever sings better and dances better should win", then it is not fair for Zhu Zhu to win and Xie Na to win.

If we see that any game, in addition to the short-lived performance in front of us, is more than "the whole of this person", than the appearance, character, personality, popularity, and traces of life in the past decades, it is a collection of all the efforts and luck of the past - then we will know that there is fairness hidden in the results of every game.

Doesn't maturity care about fairness? Is it acceptable that everything is unfair?

No, maturity is, when I encounter unfairness, I know how to look at the rules of this game from a different angle: this may be a "game where whoever has more money can win", after seeing clearly, I will not be entangled in "losing"; Instead, ask myself what kind of "skills" I have accumulated for myself throughout the whole process of this game.

For example, Zhu Zhu - her "core stability is so" is the big move accumulated after participating in hundreds, thousands, tens of thousands of games that exist all the time in her life - one day, starting from a certain game, this trick can help her win.

Looking back at the most controversial Xu Huaiyu - after a generation of jade divas became popular, she tossed her little honor all the way, and until today, she is still losing the old bottom - Sister Lang 4 Even if she really desperately wants her to win to the end and let her debut in a group, it may not be a bonus to her life.

Mature, it's a good mood, I can see through the rich second generation is stronger than me, and there is also the fairness of the rich second generation working harder than me.

Mature, but also when you are in a bad mood, dare to point to the nose of the rich generation and say, don't think that having money is great, and having money also has to be reasonable.

2. Mature to a few degrees, self-choosing

Sister Lang is very popular, playing the "mature woman" card, and the program logo is 30+.

But what is maturity? When you are old, will you automatically mature?

I don't quite agree with this, the number of ripeness is steak - 30+ is five ripe... 40+ is 7 mature... 50+ is 8 mature...

Steak is easy to divide because steak is a dead piece of meat - but man is alive, so it is difficult to say whether man is mature or not, and to what extent.

Sister Lang 1234 gave a very interesting standard: this wave of mature women, really, everything.

Gong Linna, known as the "national name" with a golden voice, is 48 years old, and she can also be called a master in the field of vocal performance, of course, mature.

Oh, the thinking question comes, do we think she is mature, is it because she is 48, or the strength of the "master", or the circle of "national vocal performance" has a sense of maturity?

Compare Gong Linna's teacher's partner Xiaomei - Japanese singer Mei Yi Liya, 31 years old, wearing a two-dimensional idol atmosphere, and her popularity in China mainly depends on a dance video "Pure Land of Bliss" on Station B (this song is the promotional song of the anime "Onmyoji")

The thinking question is here again, if your baby, or your husband, loves anime, addicts to figurines, and lets go of himself in the two-dimensional world every day, will you support and accept it? Do you think that people who "like two-dimensional" are immature even if they live to be 80 years old?

Left: Meiyili Bud; Right: Gong Linna

The same comparison, there can be many kinds, for example, "social my big sister" such as Jing Jing and Na Ying and Yang Yuying and Wang Xinling are "singing sweet songs to death" type, which is the maturity of your habits.

For example, Zhang Yuqi, Zhifu (Chi pu's Vietnamese beauty this season) are sexy beauties, and Amber Liu Yiyun and Zhou Bichang are capable short hair neutral style, which is closer to maturity?

After the comparison, ask yourself again.

After getting married and having children, I am 30+, 40+, and I am busy with my children and work every day, which is not considered mature.

When I say I am mature, am I praising myself or sighing for myself?

Can I like my maturity, my definition of mature women, good mothers, good wives, good jobs, and good lives, can I be like Sister Lang's casting: colorful and eclectic.

Some people always use the analogy of red wine to the ripening of women, saying that the longer the vintage, the more mellow, I disagree, the ripening of the fruit and wine is linear and irreversible, and after 20 years of wine, it can no longer have the greenness of fresh grapes.

But the maturity of life is "central divergence", and it seems that it is also a road to the end, but no matter how old we are, as long as we find our own "stable" core, from then on, we can diverge in any direction we want, and 80 years old can laugh out the innocence of 18 years old.

Maturity, is finally to live a "supermarket + buffet":

What you want, choose yourself;

Want to be a little cooked, self-chosen;

Pay for it, I'll do it myself.

Source: Jia Jingwen Weibo

3. Find a game to make yourself popular

Whether it is "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves" or "Brother Who Broke Through Thorns", they have really created a lot of brilliant achievements that "become popular".

There was once half the sky, and this time it hit a peak again;

There are also those who have been tepid in the first half of their lives and finally broke out;

It is the luck of the stars to meet a good show, no matter what form of reality show, for the stars, it is work, but it is also a big game - the rules, companions and atmosphere of the game can drive and influence themselves.

When we were young, we loved to play games, hide and seek with our friends, run out after class to jump leather bands, participate in sports meetings on campus...

Later, we grew up and took the childhood games less and less seriously, of course, we discovered new games: such as shopping, makeup, traveling, taking beautiful photos...

Then we became parents, watching our children play games, instead of ourselves;

Even, sometimes watching the children play too happy, too happy, and afraid that the game will bring the children bad...

As an ordinary person, an ordinary mother, I haven't had a good time and played a game.

There are one or two favorite games (online games, sports are actually counted), can play happily, can get happiness from it, must be able to supplement a person's energy, must be able to adjust a better state, play the feeling of "turning red".

But what if you really don't have a "hobby", don't know "what you like to play", or "don't have the time or energy to play"?

Celebrities participate in reality shows, and someone gives them a lot of money and invites them to play games; We ordinary people work hard to earn money to feed our children, who gives us money to play games?

No, no one pays celebrities to play, and they are invited to work.

Sister Lang 4 is the same as the previous 123 issues, there are many actors who have no singing and dancing skills, I forgot which actor's sister suddenly said a sentence: I am an actor, I can't sing and dance at all, it's okay, I can perform a singing and dancing singer...

For example, Na Ying's first stage, how good the singing is, how funny this dance is~

The stars collect money and treat "playing a game" as a job;

We're paid, so try to think of "going to work every day" as a game from time to time.

Occasionally treat life as a "script kill", introverted I can play a social cow today; I, who hates my boss and colleagues, can play "heartthrob" today, when my boss and colleagues like me...

The game is a spirit, the key is, I want to do some tricks to make myself happy, people are happy, everything will be fine.

Brushing dramas and variety shows is also a game.

As long as it makes us happy, let's brush it up happily!