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"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

Since Mrs. Ni suffered from Alzheimer's disease, Zhang Chunmei has strictly supervised her and resolutely refused to let her take half a step out of the gate.

The old lady especially wanted to go out to breathe, and sneaked out while the nanny Aunt Li was asleep.

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

The old lady happened to meet her little grandson Ni Sinan, who came home, so the grandchildren went out together to have fun.

Zhang Chunmei learned through monitoring that it was her son who took away her mother-in-law, and she was furious:

"What is your grandmother's condition now, you go out, what happened, can you take this responsibility?"

Zhang Chunmei's worry is not unreasonable, but it is not so angry.

The old lady is just confused, her body is still strong, instead of trapping her at home all day and making her uncomfortable, it is better to let her play, eat, and spend the last days of her life happily.

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

Besides, Ni Sinan didn't take her grandma far, just played in the nearby canal park, just gave her grandma two pieces of xylitol cake, and she didn't leave an inch, there would be no accident at all.

Zhang Chunmei began to go online, Ni Sinan couldn't bear it, and the mother and son blushed with a quarrel:

"Mom, you haven't put yourself in Grandma's shoes at all, what Grandma wants to do, what she wants to eat, what she wants to do, just like you haven't thought about what I want to do." Why do you want to control everyone? You're too selfish, too self-righteous..."

Ni Sinan's words became more and more intense, and his accusations against his mother were heartfelt but reasonable.

Yes, Zhang Chunmei has never reflected on herself, until she was dumped by Ni Weiqiang and divorced, she didn't know how suffocating her desire for control was!

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

1. Control husband and son for 20 years

Zhang Chunmei in the original work of "Mature Year" is a third-party superior, and she was pregnant out of wedlock that year, and with the support of the old lady, squeezed out Ni Weiqiang's original match.

Zhang Chunmei in the play, graduated from college at the age of 22, got married and had children at the age of 23, had a happy family, and was also smooth sailing in her career.

At work, Zhang Chunmei has outstanding ability and is a typical strong woman.

In the family, Zhang Chunmei is still the eldest parent.

Ni Sinan's learning and doing from birth to school is Zhang Chunmei's will, she does not allow her son to have his own ideas, even if she goes to college, she still goes to school to control her son at every turn.

Not only in the small family of husband and son, but also in the big family formed by Yujiao and sister-in-law, all affairs are decided by Zhang Chunmei.

So she has become accustomed to a dominant, self-centered life everywhere, and she is also used to controlling everything in her husband and son, and it is difficult to let go for 20 years.

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

Her husband, Ni Weiqiang, is a university professor and is seen by everyone as a model of successful people.

Ni Weiqiang has been a good boy among others since he was a child, and he has high hopes, only he knows how tired he is.

Ni Weiqiang lived a tense life every day, and he couldn't relax when working outside.

Only home is the only harbor where people can remove their armor and disguise.

But Zhang Chunmei's existence made Ni Weiqiang unable to relax.

Talking about work and doing research outside all day, Ni Weiqiang was already physically and mentally exhausted, and when he returned home, he had to face Zhang Chunmei's "concern" for his work.

From scientific research projects and the gender of assistants, to dressing, eating, and sleeping, it seems that Zhang Chunmei's meticulous and loving Ni Weiqiang is present.

In fact, excessive care is a kind of control, which will not make people feel happy, but only make people feel pressure, oppression, and want to escape.

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

Even if someone at the school wrote an anonymous report letter complaining about Ni Weiqiang, Zhang Chunmei had to go out in person to find out the reason.

Zhang Chunmei said she just wanted to help Ni Weiqiang solve things that he couldn't solve on his own.

Is that really the case?

In fact, Zhang Chunmei suspected that Ni Weiqiang was having an affair and wanted to investigate whether the content of the report letter was related to the relationship between men and women.

Zhang Chunmei thinks too much and always imposes her feelings on Ni Weiqiang.

Ni Weiqiang didn't deal with the whistleblower letter, not because he couldn't solve it, but because he didn't care about the unnecessary charges.

But Zhang Chunmei cares, she cares that her husband's reputation has a bad impact on her.

If Zhang Chunmei really only thinks about her husband and only cares about Ni Weiqiang's feelings, she should discuss with him, instead of going to his school to find this and that privately, which will bring him more pressure.

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted
"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

Ni Weiqiang had long had enough of the life controlled by Zhang Chunmei, until he fell ill and filed for divorce.

In the original work, Ni Weiqiang has an unknown object in his brain that will end his life at any time, so he began to rethink the meaning of life and wanted to find an unrestrained life.

But Zhang Chunmei did not believe that Ni Weiqiang was ill, and only felt that he was living too well, which was a manifestation.

In the play, Ni Weiqiang's depression is particularly obvious, he can't be interested in anything and can't control his emotions.

If Zhang Chunmei only cares about him, not controls, then she should not be unaware of her husband's illness, and she should not realize that Ni Weiqiang proposed divorce for her good.

Ni Weiqiang is seriously ill and cannot give Zhang Chunmei a normal husband and wife life, he also needs time and space to heal himself, and divorce is the best choice.

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

2. After divorce, you still have to control your mother-in-law

Zhang Chunmei did not agree to divorce, not because she loved Ni Weiqiang very much, but because she was afraid that divorce would affect her face and affect her son's future marriage to his daughter-in-law.

When it comes to his son's emotional problems, it is even more necessary to talk about Zhang Chunmei's desire for control.

In the original work, Ni Sinan went to college in the Great Northwest, during which he met a girl on the Internet, intending to appear, and before the eight characters were brushed off, he was strangled by Zhang Chunmei in the cradle.

Ni Sinan also planned to study for master's and doctoral degrees, because hanging a subject, affecting graduation and further education, Zhang Chunmei immediately left her job to intercede with Ni Sinan's teacher, and all kinds of tricks were exhausted.

The sons are adults, have the right to freely choose love and school, and as parents, the control that should be let go is too suffocating!

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

Ni Wei couldn't wait to break free from the "cage" life, Zhang Chunmei couldn't change it anyway, so she also agreed to divorce.

But there is a premise, after the divorce, Zhang Chunmei still has to take care of Mrs. Ni.

Biological daughters can't do this to old ladies, is there really such a good daughter-in-law as Zhang Chunmei in the world?

They are all divorced, and they also took the initiative to ask for a pension for their ex-mother-in-law.

Ni Weiqiang sent the old lady to a nursing home, you can get professional care, in fact, it is a good choice, the eldest Ni Weimin and the third Ni Weizhen also agreed.

Zhang Chunmei refused to live or die, and had to take the old lady back to her home to take care of her.

As a result, the old lady is like a canary in a cage, although she lives a life of brocade clothes and food, but she is no longer free.

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

Just like Ni Sinan, Zhang Chunmei didn't think about whether the old lady was happy or not, what she wanted.

Zhang Chunmei only treats the old lady as a patient, this cannot be eaten, that cannot be touched, and a good person will also hold out the disease.

The old lady is old, more important than the length of life, the quality of life, happiness trumps everything, take her out for a walk, see more people, it is also beneficial to the condition.

But for Zhang Chunmei, the old lady only recognized her alone when she was confused.

Therefore, as long as the old lady is alive, the Ni family is still her Zhang Chunmei has the final say, so Zhang Chunmei must not leave a chance for the accident, and it is safest to let the old lady stay at home.

Now, when the old lady is awake, she will listen to Zhang Chunmei and stay at home obediently.

As long as she is confused, she just wants to go out and play, it can be seen that she also wants to get rid of Zhang Chunmei's control in her bones.

"Mature Year" saw Ni Sinan's accusation against her mother, and only then understood that Zhang Chunmei was divorced and was self-inflicted

Write at the end

Everyone who is extremely controlling, male or female, will not admit that he is controlling those around him.

They will only feel that everything I do is for your good, I am also well-intentioned, you should not be unappreciative.

Once they are pointed out to be controlling, they will also feel wronged and wronged, and feel that they have kindly fed the dog.

It is unfortunate to have a controlling person around.

If this person is a leader, a friend, and there is a way to escape, only this person is your own family, the most painful and suffocating, because you can never get rid of it.

In fact, people who are very controlling, themselves, are also unfortunate.

They don't know how abhorrent their so-called "care" is, and they may have lost themselves because of it, which is too unworthy!

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