Talking about the tutoring of Cheng Hao Chengyi's parents - why can two great Confucians be cultivated?

The brothers Cheng Hao and Cheng Yi were famous Confucians during the Northern Song Dynasty in China, how did their parents educate and guide them? Cheng Yi once wrote an article recalling:

"The first gong is too secretive, the word Bowen." Five sons before and after, to equal the fathers and sons. Marry an orphan girl, and do your best. The poor who receive the money and divide the relatives... When small officials are thin and self-denying, people think it is difficult. Forgiveness and forgiveness, and peace and inferiority, but fear of hurting. As for the violation of righteousness, it is not false. The messengers left and right are not aware of their hunger and cold every day. Married to the Hou clan. Lady Hou's uncle, known as filial piety, treated her as a guest with her ancestors... Forgiveness and forgiveness, caress for the people, do not dissimilar... There are laws for governing the family, not strict and tidy... But if you have had it, you will not hide it... The six ladies and men, the only two who have survived, their love can be described as the most, but in the way of teaching, many false also ... Food and drink are often placed on the side of the seat, taste the soup, and stop. A: How long should the desire to be desired by young people be? Although the lingers are not allowed to curse them with evil words, therefore, the yi brothers live a peaceful life, have no choice in food and clothing, and cannot curse people viciously. To argue with people, although they are straight and not right, they are said: they cannot bend, and they do not suffer from their inability to stretch. "And slightly longer, often make a good teacher play..."

Through Cheng Yi's memories, it is not difficult for us to see why Cheng Yi's parents were able to cultivate two great Confucians:

First of all: their parents' moral cultivation is very high, they are kind to others, and they are a very good exemplary force. For example, although my father did not hold a large official position and did not have many servants, he often received poor relatives. For the slaves to observe their food and clothing every day, lest they be hungry and cold. The mother is also very kind, and she regards the child who is not her own, and never scolds the next person. And educate the Cheng Hao Cheng Yi brothers not to pursue appetite. Therefore, Cheng Yi said that the two brothers did not pay attention to food and clothing, and they could not speak evil words, which was not natural, but because of the education of their parents. This laid the foundation for a lofty moral cultivation.

Secondly, Cheng Yi's parents were very strict about their education. Loving-kindness is love, but whoever two brothers have made mistakes, they will not hide it and take it seriously. Even if they quarrel with others, they must be able to bend themselves and learn to endure.

Finally, Cheng Yi's parents have relatively high requirements for their study, in addition to serious study, they also encourage them to be with teachers or friends who are relatively high in moral cultivation and cultural learning.

In short, the education method of Cheng Yi's parents has greatly inspired us. That is, parents should improve their moral cultivation, be kind to others, and set a good example for their children; they should be strict in their children's study and life, and they should not be blindly pampered; encourage children to learn to work with teachers and friends with good character and learning, and children will naturally become more and more excellent.