Text/Zhongnian Nian
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Did you find out? Often the more good-looking people are, the more they don't care about the looks of their other half.
We thought that handsome men should match beautiful women, and beautiful women should match handsome men, but in real life, we will always meet many people who do not seem to match, and even some, even family background, education, income, etc. are not matched.
At this time, we will think that the key that led them to be together must be true love, so-called: this love is across the mountains and the sea, and the mountains and seas can be leveled. Love is love, there are no external factors can stop it, even if the surface looks mismatched, but the actual life is good or not, only they know.
In the end, love is just a matter of two people, two people attract each other, and then come together, this is enough, do not care what others think, after all, their own things have nothing to do with others.
Sociologist Li Yinhe once divided love into three levels in the book "Li Yinhe Says Love", which increased from shallow to deep: good feelings, likes and passionate love.
According to her description, passionate love is the highest level of love, the most romantic and violent kind of soul mutual attraction in relationships, similar to what we usually call falling in love, and it is possible to lose your mind.
And she believes that in her life, she has met two passionate loves, once her husband Wang Xiaobo, and the other time after Wang Xiaobo's death, she met a same-sex lover, Daxia.
They all gave her a special feeling, allowed her to experience true love, and even her relatives said that at that time she had fallen from one honeypot to another.
For Wang Xiaobo, Li Yinhe is also his passionate love, but also his soul mate, and he has fallen deeply from the first sight of her. But at that time, Li Yinhe did not know him well, felt that he looked too ugly, and directly rejected his confession.
However, in the later relationship, she gradually discovered Wang Xiaobo's fun and sincerity, and when she saw the essence of the soul through her external appearance, she was uncontrollably attracted to it, until Wang Xiaobo died, this love has not changed again.
In fact, no matter from the aspects of appearance, family background, income, education, etc., Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe do not belong to the matching type, to be precise, Wang Xiaobo is not worthy of Li Yinhe.
From the current point of view, Li Yinhe was the standard White Rich Beauty at that time, with a good family, a good job, a good appearance, and a small achievement at a young age, while Wang Xiaobo was working as a worker at that time, not only ugly, but also had no money. So at that time, Li Yinhe's parents did not agree with them together.
It's just that love has happened, which is undeniable, and there is no external force to stop it.
Since then, Wang Xiaobo has directly told us with his own practical actions what is the correct posture for chasing girls, before and after he only did two words, let Li Yinhe slowly feel emotional about it, these two words are: sincerity.
How sincere is Wang Xiaobo? Anyone who has read his letters to Li Yinhe knows that his love words are undoubtedly hot, but they will not make people feel numb, but only make people feel gentle and moved.
And the reason why he feels like this is nothing more than because he is sincere enough, he has no money, even if he is with Li Yinhe later, he was also raised by Li Yinhe for a while, but he has a heart, an incomparably hot and sincere heart.
And Li Yinhe felt this heart, so he didn't care about the external material conditions at all, which told us: chasing girls with money is useless, the key is to have a heart.
For girls who have really seen the world, they will not easily succumb to money, because she herself is not short of money, and she can live independently on her own; but having a heart is different, this sincerity is precious, and if she misses it, it may not be there again.
For Li Yinhe, this is the case, she has a good family from childhood, she does not care at all whether Wang Xiaobo is rich, what she cares about is whether Wang Xiaobo's love for herself is sincere, she accepts Wang Xiaobo's feelings, on the one hand, because she is attracted to himself, on the other hand, because he is true enough for himself.
Where is Wang Xiaobo's charm, the answer to this question, I am afraid that only those who read his works can answer.
Wang Xiaobo is sought after by so many people and has won so many honors, not without reason, he is known as the spiritual food of contemporary young people, precisely because he has thoughts.
A truly thoughtful person, the soul has thickness, this is where he is really attractive, and the external skin bag is just a skin bag. Whether a relationship can last and remain attractive for a long time depends definitely not on a seemingly good-looking face, but on the inner soul.
Superficial people only look at their faces when interacting with people; people who really have connotations and have seen the world are more concerned about each other's personality, personality and three views, which is the key to whether they can go on for a long time.
And Li Yinhe is precisely because of knowing this, will accept Wang Xiaobo's love, and be firmly attracted to him, she found that the two people are very spiritual fit, is the true sense of the soul mate, this mutual understanding and soul attraction, can be described as a rare encounter in this life.
So, what kind of love letter did Wang Xiaobo write to Li Yinhe in the first place, so that he later touched so many people? In fact, these love letters, not only love letters, Wang Xiaobo, in addition to expressing his love for Li Yinhe, is more to discuss with her views on many issues.
For example: literature, science, society, interpersonal relations, etc., when they explore these issues, they can always have a lot of resonance, and it is this kind of soul fit and attraction that makes their feelings not only stable, but also long-lasting.
It was also in these letters that Wang Xiaobo's thoughts and talents slowly appeared, and Li Yinhe was firmly attracted. He wrote all these letters on staves, and the letter always began with one sentence: Hello, Li Yinhe.
He felt that their love was a song that could never be sung and should be written on the stave. And these love letters written on the staves also touched countless people later, which can be called the textbook of chasing girls.
One of the most famous love words is: "I give you my whole soul, along with its eccentricities, its little temper, its flickering light and darkness, and eighteen hundred kinds of bad diseases." It's so nasty, only a little good, love you. ”
These letters that came and went were later included in the book "Loving You Like Loving Life", and after publication, they were well known by more and more people, and they were also envied and respected by more and more people.
When we read this book, we can't help but sigh: the original true soul mate can love each other so much; the original true love can exist so much.
And we can also have such and such love, we can also live such a poetic life, as long as we want, there will always be a chance. Because many times, living well or not depends not on the external environment, but on our attitude towards life.
I hope we can all meet a soul mate, if not for the time being, you may wish to refine your soul, read more books, enhance your charm, you shine, the other party will naturally find the light.
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