On August 27, the famous sociologist Li Yinhe published a paragraph on social platforms.
She said: Couples who cause a large gap in appearance appreciate each other more of a lovely soul, talent or beautiful personality.
If a person pays special attention to appearance, it is likely to ignore the minds of others.
Stunning beauty will eventually lose to the passage of time.
But the soul can always remain young, and even become more and more beautiful.
People who are particularly physically biased when in love may become lost over time.
And people who are not good looking, it is not necessary to get good love.
These words came out of her mouth, really words of experience, words from the heart.
Because the beginning of her and Wang Xiaobo's story is trapped in talent, regardless of appearance.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="3" > the manuscript as a medium, love at first sight, beautiful women look up to ugly men</h1>
In 1977, 25-year-old Li Yinhe saw a manuscript called "Green Haired Water Monster" at a friend's place.
It tells the story of a pair of young boys and girls who die of a terminal illness and the boy who treats the beetle as a girl.
The poignant ending shook her heart, and in her mind she felt that something would happen to the author.
When she saw the Talented Buddha-figure at a friend's house, she was disappointed.
Wang Xiaobo was not only ugly, but also surprisingly ugly, with a face like a twisted cat.
Li Yinhe later lamented that Xiaobo's appearance was an obstacle.
When they first met, Li Yinhe's ideals were disillusioned, but Wang Xiaobo fell in love with her at first sight.
Therefore, with the excuse of returning the book, Wang Xiaobo took the initiative to go to the place where Li Yinhe worked to find her.
As soon as we met, without a few words, Wang Xiaobo suddenly asked her: "Do you have a boyfriend?" ”
"Nothing."
Wang Xiaobo straightened his body and immediately looked at her seriously: "Then how do you see me?" ”
Li Yinhe lost his voice on the spot, and was stunned for half a minute.
She thought to herself, this person, ugly is ugly, very interesting.
After that, Wang Xiaobo launched a crazy pursuit of Li Yinhe.
Wang Xiaobo wrote to her every day, and even wrote five lines.
Li Yinhe likes to read literary masterpieces, and it just so happens that Wang Xiaobo has the same hobby.
So the two people often exchanged and discussed together.
What shocked Li Yinhe was that Wang Xiaobo's views on many things actually coincided with his own.
They are not like men and women who have just met, but rather like twins of thought.
Two people on the same frequency soon fell in love.
But at first, their relationship was not favored.
At that time, Li Yinhe was a fresh college graduate, beautiful looking, and working at Guangming Daily. The future is immeasurable.
And Wang Xiaobo, for historical reasons, only had the Chinese, and was still a street worker.
These two people are not a good match no matter how they look at it, and Mother Li said that Xiaobo was too ugly to really get his hands on it.
Li Yinhe could not withstand the pressure, so he proposed to Wang Xiaobo to break up.
As a result, Wang Xiaobo said unconvincedly: "You should go to the reptile hall of the zoo to see if I am uglier than them." ”
At this moment, Li Yinhe, who was full of sorrow, couldn't help but laugh out loud, and the breakup was also forgotten.
In 1980, after three years of love, the two finally entered the palace of marriage.
Wang Xiaobo may be in appearance, sexual attraction is negative.
But in the soul, it is humorous and charming.
The good-looking skin bag will eventually grow old, but the interesting soul will flourish forever and is the source of happiness.
Li Yinhe said: "What attracted Xiaobo to me was the poetry flowing through him. ”
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Some people say that marriage is the graveyard of love.
It is true that when the wind and snow become chai rice oil and salt, it will always be accompanied by a chicken feather.
But Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe were not like this.
In 1882, Li Yinhe went to the United States to study, and two years later, Wang Xiaobo handled the accompanying study and followed.
During their days in the United States, the two could only live on a scholarship of $400 a month by Li Yinhe.
The days were tight and tight.
Wang Xiaobo tried to go out and work part-time to subsidize the family.
But Li Yinhe was reluctant to let his writing talent be delayed by mundane affairs, so he went to the Chinese restaurant as a waiter and brushed the dishes.
Often the school cafeteria runs at both ends, and I am very busy.
Mother Li was distressed by her daughter and proposed that her son-in-law also go to work.
And Li Yinhe only said: "Xiaobo has greater use, and doing this is a condescending talent." ”
In the summer of 1986, Wang Xiaobo and his wife rented a second-hand car and began a budget journey for the two of them.
During the day, they drove around the western United States, and when they were hungry, they burned wood in the woods to cook rice and pick wild fruits.
At night, they set up tents under the galaxy and sleep in each other's arms.
Traveled to the United States and then to Europe.
Ride the train that travels through all of Europe, crowded in front of and behind.
Stay in the cheapest youth hostel mixed with all kinds of smells.
To save money, they put free bread, wrapped in thick butter, and ate it straight to their stomachs.
They can also eat cookies for several days in a row.
It was really light,000, and then I started cooking the cooked dish.
In Italy, he was stolen by thieves and almost slept on the streets.
In the Vatican, it was almost squeezed down on the tens of meters high stands.
It was not easy to get down, and the two saw the back of the foot being stepped out of the big bag.
For days, I could only walk with a limp.
Wang Xiaobo's mother couldn't help but ridicule: "These two people are together, they don't need to eat, just eat spirit." ”
Although it looks bitter, they feel extremely sweet when they see the world with their lovers.
Even if they only wear coarse cloth and linen, live in a crowded shared house, and eat scraps of cold soup, the husband and wife are happy.
Wandering the world, the four seas as home, tasting the feast of the spirit.
Enriches the spirit and enriches the soul.
Test whether two people are suitable and let them go on a long trip once.
As it turns out, they really made a match made in heaven.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="13" > a big fan, a wife raising a family, and pushing her husband to write</h1>
The best thing for couples is that after the passion has receded, they can still appreciate each other, tolerate each other, and complete each other.
Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe are such golden partners.
In 1988, the two returned to China after completing their studies and entered Peking University to teach together.
When Li Yinhe first came, he was at the professor level, but Wang Xiaobo was just a lecturer, teaching programming.
Soon, Li Yinhe sensed her husband's unhappiness.
She understood her husband's heart and saw her passion for writing as her destiny, so she supported him, resigned from her teaching position, and wrote at home with peace of mind.
The wife goes out to support the family, but the husband is idle at home.
In the early 1990s, it was inevitable that wang Xiaobo would not do his job and eat soft rice.
At that time, Wang Xiaobo's works were not accepted by the mainstream, so for a long time, his works were always being rejected.
When he was depressed, he also wanted to go out and drive a tractor to make ends meet.
But Li Yinhe always encouraged Wang Xiaobo by his side.
Say he writes great, come on, the next Nobel Prize in Literature is his.
Not only that, Li Yinhe also withstood the pressure of all parties for him.
In order to let Wang Xiaobo write wholeheartedly, Li Yinhe took on most of the housework.
Not good at cooking, she also cooks for her husband herself.
As soon as she heard others verbally attacking Wang Xiaobo, she immediately stood up and defended her husband.
Outside, Li Yinhe is a professor at Peking University with unlimited scenery.
At home, she was Wang Xiaobo's most virtuous wife, in charge of his food, clothing, shelter, and transportation.
He is also the most loyal book fan, encouraging Wang Xiaobo, who can't see hope and wants to give up, to continue to move forward.
With the encouragement of Li Yinhe, Wang Xiaobo has completed many classics such as "Golden Age", "Silent Majority", "My Spiritual Home" and so on.
It can be said that if Li Yinhe had not blocked the red dust for him, he would not have made such a huge contribution to Chinese literature.
Unfortunately, in the twentieth year of the two people's cooperation, 45-year-old Wang Xiaobo died of a sudden heart attack.
Unfortunately, at that time, Li Yinhe was communicating in Britain, and he did not even see the last side of her husband.
She used to hold her husband's relic and cry until she fainted. Half of her soul died because of Wang Xiaobo's death.
In our lifetime, encountering love and encountering sex is not uncommon.
It is rare to encounter understanding.
Because I understand, I understand.
Because I love you, I am fulfilled.
From 1977 to 1997, they accompanied each other for twenty years.
From being trapped in talent, to being sympathetic to the same frequency.
From chasing love to mutual fulfillment.
Although life is impermanent, they have to live and die.
But even if it is short- and short-lived, it is also warm and romantic, better than countless people in the world.
They are like-minded, supportive and encouraged.
They attain happiness outside the mundane.
The meaning of life is not in length, but in width.
Time flies, the years pass, and people forget many people and things.
But what is still enjoyed is the enviable love story.
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