Most people experience various traumas throughout their lives, and the body does not forget traumatic experiences.
Children are beaten by their parents, domestic violence, witnessing mothers being beaten...
Get out of the trauma, return to a normal, calm life, and no longer be affected by the trauma.
Traumatized, the body secretes a lot of adrenaline, accumulates over time, emotions will be more excitable.
Scare the child, hit the child, the child will be depressed, fearful.
The human brain has three layers:
The reptilian brain, which controls breathing, sweating, sleep, etc., is the physiological brain.
The mammalian brain, the limbic system of the brain, has emotions and emotions.
Rational brain, perseverance, complex emotions, and language ability.
If you feel safe and loved, your brain is good at exploratory play and cooperation.
If frightened and unwanted, the brain perceives fear and abandonment.
The human brain only thinks the way it is accustomed to.
Perceptual fragments of traumatic memories invade reality, the body releases stress hormones, defense mechanisms and emotional responses are constantly restored.
Repeated recollection is worse than the traumatic experience itself, often recalling traumatic images.
People who suffer deeply from memories focus their lives on resisting memories and compulsively do strenuous exercise to numb themselves and exhaust themselves physically and mentally.
Numbness in the face of trauma, blank thinking, almost all parts of the brain stopped moving, heartbeat and blood pressure were normal.
The biggest difficulty in the treatment of trauma is not how to face the past, but to strengthen the quality of daily life, so that he can live in the present.
Traumatic memories occupy the daily life of the traumatized person, and it is difficult to have the feeling of living in reality, often returning to the picture of the past full of horror and sadness.
When people are facing danger, there are three levels of security.
At the level of social participation, it means looking for help from those around you.
In the face of danger, fight or flight, adrenaline is extremely high.
Be completely controlled, try to live, empty the body, slow breathing, reduce energy loss, and enter a state of shock or collapse.
Being able to respond is the role of the human brain. Fight or flight, it is the mammalian brain that works. Collapse or stunned is the role of the reptile brain.
A large number of traumatized people will have allegia disorders. It is impossible to describe the feeling at that time, when it was empty, completely self-disintegrated, without the self-existence of this person.
It is very important to be nice to your child when he is young.
The most important thing for children when they are young is to establish an initial attachment relationship with their parents.
After a mother gives birth, regardless of the child, it is a personality disorder. If you feel that the child is so annoying, take the child to others and go out to play by yourself.
The child cries, the mother is angry, the child is fierce, the child and the mother cannot establish a normal attachment relationship, and the child may not be able to establish intimate relationships with others for the rest of his life.
Safe attachment, parents are not around, will be painful, will cry, will be sad, but parents come back happy and calm.
Avoidance of attachment, the child wants to be with his parents very much, and on the surface seems to be unwilling to be with his parents.
Anxiety and contradictory attachment, crying for a while, rolling on the ground for a while, making trouble non-stop.
Children have suffered abuse and abandonment in childhood, and when they grow up, they will have various life problems.
Children are hurt in childhood, personality dissociation occurs, they blame themselves, and they empty their minds.
This is a self-protection process, the child will forget the injury event in his mind, but there will be a particularly strange behavior in behavior.
Traumatic events always play a role in the child's mind. Many social problems are rooted in childhood trauma.
When your child is young, help him build a good childhood, and not grow up to solve these problems at a lifetime cost, including domestic violence, drug use, abuse, controlling personality, etc.
These wounds can be healed.
Treat the limbic system, which is the animal's, emotional brain part, repair the alert system, restore the normality of the emotional brain, and take care of yourself quietly.
Self-awareness can be achieved through breathing, chanting, walking, and yoga.
Breathe calmly and consciously relax your body when exposed to painful, scary memories.
By consciously breathing slowly and deeply, the parasympathetic nervous system reduces your alertness.
Breathing, which can open up the switch between sympathetic and parasympathetic nerves.
By noticing your breath and staying mindful, you can gradually repair the limbic system.
Focusing on breathing has a powerful effect. In addition to breathing, judo, taekwondo, Pilates, etc., are of great benefit to repair the limbic system.
Children who are with their parents are mentally healthier. Relationships have the greatest impact on a person, and it is very important to keep children by their parents' side.
Use interpersonal methods to improve children's hearts. Human bonds and emotions are the source of physical self-mediation, and intimate commitments often evoke the fear of being hurt, betrayed, and abandoned.
People who have been hurt think that if others understand themselves better, they will know how bad they are, and instead of letting others understand and be hurt, it is better to hurt others first, which is why these people are generally difficult to get along with.
Make your emotions stable and calm, let go of traumatic memories, connect with others, and receive help from your therapist.
Square dancing, where a group of people come together to do the same rhythm and connect with the whole world. Dancing, music, etc. bring healing to the soul.
The power of words, speaking the wound will gradually heal.
Everyone has two self-aware systems, constantly saying that they are very good, and the body shows very humble, painful, and tangled. What you say and what you show are completely different things.
Calm and focused, concentrated. Face the images, thoughts, sounds, and physical sensations that trigger your memories, and don't be afraid to face it.
Find a way to be alive, close to the people around you, and able to get along with others. No more keeping secrets to yourself.
Writing practice helps improve physical and mental health. If you feel uncomfortable, you can try to write it down.
Art, music, dance, to achieve integration, so that the body can reconnect and form a complete and healthy personality.
Thinking about something very distressing, rolling my eyes, there are benefits, and my mood becomes happy. When you think of that pain from the past, you are not so angry, sad, angry.
Let the eyes move, switch to the parasympathetic nerve. Like focusing on breathing, it exposes the pain.
Healthy lifestyle, yoga can bring the whole body unity, including breathing, body movements, rhythm, rhythm, and connection with the people around you, yoga is a very good way to heal.
Take care of the inner child, reconnect the brain, improve the limbic system, improve the connection with others, and gradually heal the body.
Take care of yourself, take care of your children, and give them the opportunity to grow up happily and healthily.