This is probably an experience that many mothers do not want to recall -
Shun gave birth to a baby, and the pain was hammered against the wall.
Desperately tugging on the handrail, his body began to tremble.
Wait until you open two fingers, congratulations, you can apply for painless fighting.
An 8 cm thick needle is passed straight through the spinal foramen in the woman's waist, and then a small catheter is introduced into the epidural space.
It's lucky to be able to fight painlessly, unlike this -
She is pregnant with twins in her belly, but the woman has a congenital aortic valve bicubite deformity and needs immediate surgery.
What's more, the risk of surgery is as high as 30%, and the child is likely to not be saved, and the bridge between big or small in film and television dramas happened in real life.
Fortunately, the final birth was smooth and the mother was healthy.
Children come into the world for the first time, meet the world for the first time.
After two years, the child grew up and experienced the first time in his life - going to school.
At an ignorant age, his cognition of the world is so cute that he can't do it.
What is bravery? Brave is not to cry nose or to be accompanied by parents, striding into the kindergarten handsomely.
How is the teacher? All good, all good, all fierce.
What do you want to do in the future? Be an ordinary dad.
Birth, school, work, marriage, retirement, retirement... A person's life is condensed into 12 firsts.
This is the humanistic documentary "The First Time in Life" produced by CCTV.com, Shanghai Radio and Television Documentary Center and bilibili.
But today I want to talk about its sequel, "Second Time in Life".
In the director's words, if the first time was a page of prose sketches, then the second time was a tome, more realistic and heavier.
In 2002, in Huchun, Hubei Province, 4-year-old Wei Zhuo was abducted by strangers, and there was no news, and the world evaporated.
Wei Zhuo's parents' daily life has since added a "looking for children", the couple frequently quarreled, and her mother Zhan Xulian's heart was broken.
Surprises followed. After Wei Zhuo's accident, her grandmother went out alone every day to find her grandson, picking up waste products for some money while searching, and unfortunately died in a car accident.
Zhan Xulian was full of guilt about her mother-in-law's death. When sorting out the relics, she found that there was a package wrapped in a silk scarf under her mother-in-law's wardrobe, and when she opened it, she saw that it was full of dime change, which her mother-in-law had saved up from scraps.
At the end of 2020, Zhan Xulian received a call from the police, informing them to go to Beijing to recognize their relatives——
Son Wei Zhuo seems to have found it!
On the stage of "Waiting for Me", in front of the cameras of the media, the family hugged tightly.
After recognizing her relatives, Zhan Xulian's restaurant changed its name to "Reunion Restaurant". The name of the restaurant is written by the whole family one word by one.
The family of four was finally reunited. At the dinner table, the mother, who had not yet had time to take off her apron, insisted on feeding Wei Zhuo.
For this meal, Zhan Xulian waited for 18 years, fortunately, she waited.
On the far right is the older brother
The reunion of abducted children with their biological parents is undoubtedly a joy for everyone.
It's like the prince and princess finally living happily together, and here, the story seems to have come to a successful end.
But few people ask: And then?
"Second Time in Life" filmed this "then".
The same shot as before was repeated, I just thought that something was wrong with the film, and the next shot almost made people hold back the tears of emotion.
Good guys, the story is reversed -
The film re-unfolds from Wei Zhuo's perspective, it turns out that he recognized his relatives with a "selfish heart".
Wei Zhuo lost money in business a few years ago, took on debts, and his adoptive parents helped him bear half of the debt, and this time he returned home, he also wanted to see if his biological parents could help.
Ha? So to recognize relatives is to go back and ask for money?
But after going home for so many days, I don't know why, Wei Zhuo, who followed his parents to visit relatives and friends, never spoke, confessing his difficulties.
It's not so much a reversal as a real life.
The adoptive father's side, because he didn't want to be talked about by the neighbors, was very resistant to Wei Zhuo's recognition of his relatives.
One second he denied that he was dissatisfied, the next he was upright, took out a cigarette and lit it.
How to balance the relationship between two families has become a difficult problem.
On the one hand, he is struggling to find his biological parents for 18 years, and on the other hand, he is the adoptive parents who have raised him for 18 years and helped pay off debts.
As a victim, Wei Zhuo instead became an embarrassing middleman between the two families, entangled, struggling, and suffering.
Who to call and which home to return to for the New Year are all choices that need to be made after careful consideration.
There is also the question that tormented him day and night in his heart, making him break down and cry: Did the act of recognizing relatives hurt the adoptive parents?
Wei Zhuo's debt was not hidden, and after learning that it was business instead of gambling, Wei Zhuo's parents took a long breath, as if letting go of the worry of "whether the child has become bad".
Under Wei Zhuo's efforts to reconcile, the two families finally agreed to meet, ushering in a turning point in the easing of relations.
This is the end of the story, right?
Wait, don't rush to turn it off yet.
That's right, documentaries have a third perspective - the police.
In addition to the abducted families, the police have not given up on finding the abducted children.
At the beginning of 2021, the Ministry of Public Security deployed public security organs across the country to carry out a "reunion" operation, and through face recognition technology and DNA comparison, one missing Wei Zhuo after another was successfully found.
Wang Xiuzhi of Beiqiao, Liaoning, has been afraid to move because she is afraid that her children will be found back, and she is unwilling to demolish and relocate, insisting on living in the ruins.
When his son Sun Yulong finally returned home, the home on the ruins was covered with a red carpet, and the ruins, which had been shrouded in dust for many years, took on color for the first time.
Behind the successful recognition of relatives, it is inseparable from the unremitting efforts of the police.
In the invisible corners, they have been cracking down on human trafficking and conducting anti-trafficking publicity and education.
The police also admitted that Wei Zhuo's case was lucky to achieve such a result,
Abducted children recognize their relatives and go home, each with its own difficulties——
Some are reluctant to recognize relatives, some adoptive parents ask for alimony, and some children even fall into depression.
Also returning home for the second time, the word "home" is somewhat special for the children of the "dream home".
Because there are no parents or relatives in this family, only a man. The children called him "Daddy."
This is the story that takes place in a public rental house in Anshan, Liaoning Province, where the marathon club "Dream House" is based, and the founder is Bai Jian, a middle school physical education teacher.
The children gathered here all have similar labels: born poor, unfortunate in their families of origin, some abandoned by their parents, and some suffering from violence.
Every day after 4 o'clock in the morning, when it was not yet dawn, Bai Jian would drive the off-road vehicle and drive slowly on the road.
Several long ropes were tied to the rear of the car, and the other end of the rope was tied to the child's thin body, running with the car.
Torturing children?
No, it's training children.
The dream home is to train the physical fitness of this group of children, so that they can rely on their sports talents to enter the university and rewrite their destiny.
Not only running into the university, Bai Jian also wants the children to run out of the mountain, run out of the future, run out of the future.
Some gratifying data: As of March 2022, "Dream House" has trained more than 120 children, of which more than 60 have been admitted to universities, 16 have become professional athletes, 13 have become active-duty soldiers, including 3 special forces.
Children in the dream house are much more mature than their peers and will inadvertently say adult words such as "who is not confused in this world".
But they are also always children, coquettish, fussy, and fearful of helplessness, especially for fear of being abandoned again.
When Bai Jian entrusted the children to others because he took care of his wife, they would write to him;
When Bai Jian deliberately pretends to break his word, they will hold back tears with grievances and hide their emotions.
But the next second, I couldn't hold back -
Big liar, how abominable!
They may not understand the struggles of "Dad" in the small family and everyone, but they believe in the "Dad" who reaches out and pulls himself out of the darkness.
Life is a long marathon, and if you keep running, it's very powerful.
The story of "The Second Time in Life" does not stop here, there are also bald girls who choose to correct themselves, assembly line female workers who continue to advance, and wheelchair teenagers who reconcile with themselves.
Eight pictures of life, the fate of ordinary people are all unfolded.
We may not be able to choose to become the great anteater of Guatemala, nor can we reincarnate over and over again, restart our lives, and live a utopian life.
But what is certain is that no matter how many times you live in life, the most important thing is to have the present moment and enjoy the present moment.
How to live and how to live our lives well is in our own hands.