Text/Xia Mo
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Interactions between people need to maintain appropriate boundaries and proportions. Otherwise, it is easy to cause trouble and trouble to others.
Especially when getting along with married people of the opposite sex, you should always consider whether your words and deeds are appropriate, and whether they will cause misunderstandings and unnecessary criticism to the other party.
Don't be naïve enough to assume that there will be pure friendship between men and women, and thus blur the boundaries between each other.
Most men who know that you are married and continue to approach you have the following intentions.
02. Draw your connections and want you to build bridges
Recently, there is a man who is always courteous to my old classmate Zhao Lan.
He either helped her bring breakfast, bought her coffee, and took the initiative to help her share work tasks when she was working overtime.
On weekdays, men often send her messages to share some good places to go on vacation. He also said that he could help her plan her travel route and ensure that she had a good time.
However, my classmate Zhao Lan is married, which is something that colleagues in the company know.
The man was so enthusiastic about her that it seemed that he had already exceeded the boundaries of an ordinary colleague, making her feel at a loss.
Once, the man helped Zhao Lan avoid some loopholes in her work and saved her from criticism from the leader, so she took this opportunity to say that she wanted to thank him.
The man said, I heard that you and the executives of a certain company are classmates, if you really want to thank me, form a bureau and help me introduce you.
Zhao Lan realized that the man had been planning for so long, but he actually took a fancy to her connections and felt that she was useful.
A man, knowing that you are married, is constantly looking for opportunities to approach you and release his enthusiasm and warmth to you, must have intentions.
Perhaps, he took a fancy to your connections. I want to get close to you, let you build a bridge, so that he can achieve his goals faster.
He may use the banner of love to leave a caring and meticulous image of a woman to achieve his goals.
For example, he wants to borrow your connections to pave the way for his own career.
03. I love you and do not hesitate to destroy your family
Some love is very irrational. With extremism, with conceit, without the slightest consideration for the feelings of others.
A man knows that you are married, but he keeps getting closer to you, maybe he really loves you, has endless love for you, and wants you to know his heart.
For this reason, he disregards the eyes of others, looks for opportunities to contact you, and always helps you without hesitation and stands out for you.
He will contact you often, be everywhere in your life, and want to stay firmly in your world in this way.
In his almost paranoid love, he always feels that you are not happy. Also conceited that only he can bring you the future you want.
He is constantly getting closer to you, not hesitating to destroy your family, leaving you to quarrel in your married life, your trust to be destroyed, and the conflict to escalate.
And he, waiting for an opportunity, thinks he can save you from a bad marriage.
The man who loves you, even if he knows that you are married, will still approach you regardless of proportion, intent on destroying your family.
His love for you is actually more of an obsession, a kind of torment that can't be obtained.
04. I just want to try it with you and play with feelings
Before, I watched the TV series "Children of the Qiao Family", and there was a scene that I remember vividly:
After Sun Xiaomo and Qiao Erqiang got married, Director Chen came to her again and again, making her can't help but throw herself into his arms.
She carried Qiao Erqiang and Director Chen on her back for a tryst, went to other places, accepted gifts from him, and ate in the restaurant like a sweet couple.
Sun Xiaomo thought that the man was sincere to her, and couldn't wait to tell the man that she was pregnant with his child.
And Director Chen's reaction was equivalent to giving Sun Xiaomo a hard slap, making her completely see his true intentions.
From beginning to end, he was just playing with Sun Xiaomo.
It's like playing a game of cat and mouse, and he enjoys the sense of accomplishment of leading the game, and never gives the slightest bit of sincerity.
Men who like to play with their feelings will be desperate as long as they aim at their goals.
He seems to be very caring to you and will satisfy your expectations of love and romance. And once he gets it, he becomes indifferent again.
If a man truly loves you, he will bless you from the bottom of his heart when he knows that you are married.
And he keeps approaching you, wantonly flirting with you, disturbing your peaceful life, just wanting to play with you and experience different feelings.
05. Summary
When a woman gets along with the opposite sex, she must know how to maintain appropriate boundaries.
Don't give up your bottom line and step into a dangerous situation because of some overtures and some sweet offensives.
We must know how to stick to our original intentions, refuse to approach with bad intentions, and cherish the happiness we have.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.